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Eight rules for a daughter-in-law to satisfy her mother-in-law

Family harmony and happiness come first, don't they? ! Changing thinking-the difficulty of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, in fact, a daughter-in-law should also reflect on herself. From the other side's point of view, it takes two slaps.

First, filial piety to mother-in-law is right.

Although your mother-in-law didn't raise you, she raised your husband, so since you love your husband, you should understand your son's feelings for his mother, respect his mother with him, and you also have parents. Will you be happy if your husband talks back to your parents? So give your mother-in-law a smile and chat with her more. You are good to his mother, and he will be good to your mother. In my opinion, the protagonist Li Juan in the book is actually a very sad character. She is very kind, but she is too tolerant to argue for the truth, which makes Pingya's mother very uncomfortable, and Pingya will feel that she doesn't respect his parents enough.

Second, don't be too affectionate with your husband in front of your mother-in-law

I have shown this advice to my wife for a long time. Although you think you are used to this kind of communication, old people are old people after all, and they have traditional ideas. Just like in front of outsiders, it is disrespectful to make out with your husband too much. You said this is your home and you can do whatever you want, which is true, but we should pay attention to this aspect.

Third, take care of your husband's emotions when making suggestions.

When it comes to the husband's family, especially the money, always give advice to the husband, but be sure to take into account his emotions and speak skillfully. Even if you are unwilling, don't say it directly. You should gently reason with your husband, let her know that you are willing to help, but you can't help for some reason, and then make suggestions with more comforting words. But there are some money you can't decide. For example, if your father-in-law is ill, even if you don't give money, people will take money everywhere to treat their father. So since you can't escape, you might as well just take the money and show your willingness to give it to your mother-in-law. This will please my mother-in-law, satisfy my husband, and think more about you in the future. But here I would like to remind my daughters-in-law: it is right to honor your in-laws. If you don't honor your in-laws, you will be laughed at, even if you honor your seven aunts and eight aunts, unless you are rich.

Fourth, don't boss your husband around in front of your mother-in-law.

This truth is actually very easy to understand. Think about it from another angle. How would your parents feel if your parents came to live at home and your husband kept bossing you around? They will think that it is not easy for their daughter to live at home. She is tired. Especially in China, a patriarchal society, my mother-in-law will be unhappy when she sees that you have nothing to do with your husband. Her son can't make decisions at home, but he is actually bossed around by a woman. Who won't have resistance? After leaving your mother-in-law's sight, you can do whatever you want, just don't let her see it.

Fifth, pay more attention to her mother-in-law's daily life.

No matter whether you are open-minded or hypocritical, you must do superficial kung fu, which will also make your husband look at you differently. I want to buy one for my mother-in-law when I buy something for my mother. How to observe her daily life carefully, hot and cold? What do you want to eat? what do you want to do? Take the time to satisfy her wishes. Unless she is ill, she can't spend you a few dollars. Most mothers-in-law love their sons and even their own lives. She also wants you to be happy and not spend a lot of money. She is old and lonely, and your little concern will make her remember.

Six, leave some time to listen to her nagging.

Many daughters-in-law treat their mother-in-law at a respectful distance from others and can't afford to hide. But for the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who live under the same roof, hiding is absolutely impossible. Then simply settle down, coax her if she has nothing to do. When she is old, she likes someone to chat with her and listen to her when she has time. She likes to nag, so let her nag. It's nothing more than her son's business Speaking of the difficulty of raising a son and the process of his growth, I listened and echoed two words: "Mom, you are really not easy. Must be filial to you. " Say something nice. What are you afraid of? Just wasting a few words. If you can't do it, it's secondary. At the last moment, it is imperative. You have to make her feel that you and she are family. She has had many daughters with you, not a woman who robbed her son.

There is nothing wrong with telling you the truth in advance.

You'd better get to know your husband before your mother-in-law comes to your house. Before living with her mother-in-law, many daughters-in-law thought her mother-in-law was still good, but living together was full of contradictions. First of all, we must know that there can be no contradiction in living together. Even if I live with my mother, sometimes I will be unhappy, let alone my mother-in-law. But there are some principled things, such as: you can't get up early, you can't do housework every day, and you and your husband don't have the concept that men are superior to women. Please communicate with your husband before your mother-in-law comes and ask him to tell her in advance. And if in the process of living together, there are some things that you really can't stand, please don't stand it, let your husband talk to your mother-in-law. Let's get this straight.

Eight, let bygones be bygones

Living together, there will always be little friction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Occasionally, a bad word or an unhappy thing will make you forget all about it. If your mother talks about you, you will forget it in two days. To some extent, the mother-in-law is a bit of a parent. She may sometimes love to educate you and listen to a few words if she wants to. If she doesn't want to listen, she will pretend not to hear, and then argue with her. After the debate, it's never a good idea to put on a cold face only when you are still a family. Your husband is embarrassed that your mother-in-law thinks you are not sensible, and you are still angry. This is not a matter of principle, don't be too haggle over every ounce.

Of course, I want to remind you that it is best not to let your in-laws live in, because many contradictions occur in the little things in life. If there is no way to live in it, you should be prepared in your heart, not just from your own mood. I'm not saying that the contradiction is the daughter-in-law's fault. It's just that most people who read books online are daughters-in-law. Whether we are dissatisfied or wronged, life will go on. Instead of living with uncomfortable feelings, it is better to start from yourself and improve the relationship. What can we do? Life is like this.