"White Deer Plain" Leng Qiuyue: Being a widow is driving you crazy. How important is love and sex to a woman's marriage?

Leng Qiuyue went crazy. One noon in late autumn and early winter, she, who had rarely shown her face in the village alleys, suddenly jumped from the courtyard to the village alleys and laughed non-stop. She immediately attracted people. Come and watch with a bunch of idlers. She laughed loudly and then suddenly stopped, and instantly changed into a shy and mysterious look on her face, whispering: "My dad and I are fine... I am fine with my dad... Don't tell my grandma! "

When I first read "White Deer Plain", like most people, I only focused on the protagonist and felt sorry for Tian Xiao'e. But when I grew up and read again, I started to pay attention to other characters in the book, and I discovered a woman even more miserable than Tian Xiao'e - Leng Qiuyue.

Compared with Tian Xiao'e, Chen Zhongshi didn't write much about Leng Qiuyue. She was even called "Lu Lengshi" and "Zhaopeng's wife" in the book, but she still It can leave a deep impression on readers, because the descriptions of this woman are almost all tragic, just like the paragraph above, not only did she not live a happy life after getting married, she even went crazy in the end.

"The wind, flowers, snow and moon are ordinary things, laughing at the anecdotes and talking about the heat and the cold, observing the joys and sorrows of the world, the various aspects of life and the vicissitudes of life."

Although there are not many descriptions of Leng Qiuyue, compared to Tian Xiao'e, She better reflects the appearance of women in the feudal society of that era, and her story is also worthy of our deep thought.

Who is Leng Qiuyue? Maybe many people don't know.

But if it is said to be Mr. Leng’s eldest daughter, then many people will probably say “it’s her”.

In this loess-covered Bailuyuan, Mr. Leng is famous. His family has been a doctor for generations. Mr. Leng also inherited his ancestor's mantle and became a traditional Chinese medicine doctor in the town. As for the Bai and Lu families, who were constantly in conflict, he was the one who reconciled and maintained balance.

Although Mr. Leng is down on money, his family background is not bad. The eldest daughter is naturally well-off and has a good education.

So when Mr. Leng wanted to betroth Leng Qiuyue to Lu Zhaopeng, Lu Zilin, as his father, was naturally very satisfied.

The orders of parents and the words of matchmakers have always been like this. Leng Qiuyue came out of feudal education. She was virtuous and kind. She had no complaints about her father's arrangements and was ready to become the daughter-in-law of the Lu family. However, Lu Zhaopeng was not like that. He had ideals and beliefs and was very fond of feudal things. For disgust, this also includes the so-called "arranged marriage".

So Lu Zhaopeng objected again and again until his father slapped him three times. The first slap was slapped in the city, but Leng Qiuyue didn't know; the second slap was on the wedding night. Lu Zhaopeng chose to escape and ran to sleep with Changgong. Lu Zilin slapped him again without saying a word, and Leng Qiuyue also Unknown; the third slap was in front of Leng Qiuyue, Lu Zilin gave Lu Zhaopeng a hard slap in the face who refused to go to the ancestral hall to accept the ceremony.

These three slaps knocked Lu Zhaopeng's stubbornness to the ground. He gave in briefly and spent one night with Leng Qiuyue as husband and wife.

But a few days later, Lu Zhaopeng left, leaving for a year.

In this regard, Lu Zhaopeng is too unlike a man.

If you want to stick to your principles, you shouldn’t marry Leng Qiuyue in the first place; if you don’t want to live with her, you should divorce her before leaving; if you don’t want to have sex with her, then you shouldn’t even have sex with her. It shouldn't even happen the first time.

But he didn't do any of it and left Leng Qiuyue at Lu's house.

Because Lu Zilin wanted to maintain a good relationship with the Leng family, he was unwilling to divorce Leng Qiuyue. Mr. Leng also put his daughter’s happiness aside because he was concerned about the Lu family’s reputation and asked her to take good care of his elder brother in the Lu family. , be a good wife.

A year later, Lu Zhaopeng came back and rekindled Leng Qiuyue's hope, but he said that he was going to the city to live again and would not be with Leng Qiuyue.

(This is the content of the book, the plot of the TV series is different)

It is extremely difficult for a married woman to accept the fact that her husband does not love her, but Leng Qiuyue did it. She also accepted her lonely fate and just wanted to give birth to a fat boy for the Lu family. Lu Zhaopeng didn't care what happened to her.

But this husband has not been with her for a year, and when he came back, he did not even give her a chance to have a baby, and even wanted to leave her to start a new life. At this time, Leng Qiuyue's heart had begun to collapse. .

Lu Zhaopeng was not just talking, he soon left again without looking back.

The fate of parents is an old idea, while Lu Zhaopeng is a new idea. The struggle between the two is inevitable, and Leng Qiuyue unfortunately got involved in this "war" and became a victim. From then on, Leng Qiuyue truly became a "widow" and remained a "living widow".

Among the women who appeared in Bailuyuan, Leng Qiuyue is undoubtedly the first to be virtuous and virtuous. She can be said to be the best representative of ladies under the feudal ideology.

Yet she is always a woman. When she came to the Lu family, she was supposed to be a daughter-in-law, a husband and a child, but her husband ran away and she had no son. How could she survive? There is no woman who does not long for the care of a man and does not hope to have a happy married life, and she is the same. (Specifically referring to the women in the book)

On the surface, she is living a normal life, but the loneliness and pain in her heart have made her inner building of womanhood crumbling. She longs for love and the pleasure of fish and water.

At this time, Lu Zilin defeated her defense line by mistake.

That night, Lu Zilin came back drunk and mistakenly thought Leng Qiuyue was his wife. He hugged her and kissed and touched her, which scared Leng Qiuyue and ran away in a hurry. At dinner the next day, Leng Qiuyue added a handful of wheat straw to Lu Zilin's bowl, mocking him as a grass-eating beast, which made Lu Zilin unable to lift his head in shame.

But Leng Qiuyue's heart was filled with fluctuations:

The daughter-in-law found herself in a kind of disaster, and she kept rehearsing the scene of opening the door to Grandpa day and night in her mind. When the bellows were lighting up the fire to cook, she could clearly picture her grandpa holding her shoulders in her mind; when she was rocking the spinning wheel, stepping on the loom, or pulling the string of the silk shoes, she could smell it while lying on the bed, and her grandpa was like a mule. The smell is like sweat...

Her body and mind have been dry for too long, and she desperately longs for someone to moisturize her. Even if this person is her father-in-law, she doesn't care so much.

One day when her mother-in-law went out and did not come back, Leng Qiuyue took action.

She dressed up, cooked several delicious dishes, and served her father-in-law attentively while he drank, hoping that something would happen to her when he was drunk. But when she was eating vegetables, she took a mouthful of wheat straw. It was Lu Zilin who added it, and he said to Leng Qiuyue disdainfully: "Learn to behave, you are the beast that eats grass."

Surprise, regret, shame, humiliation and other emotions all rushed to Leng Qiuyue. In Qiuyue's heart, she knew that although she did not have physical relations with her father-in-law, she could no longer be considered a "clean" woman.

After that, she stopped talking and just worked silently. We can imagine that Leng Qiuyue was struggling with herself at this time. The ethics she had received made her unable to accept what she had done and the humiliation she suffered. She expected someone or something to save her.

But there was nothing. She went crazy under the attack of irreversible humiliation. As described in the beginning of the paragraph, she skipped to the village and said to everyone she met: "My father and I are good... I am good with my father... Don't tell my grandma!"

Personally, I think Leng Qiuyue is not really crazy, but just wants "revenge".

She took revenge on Gang Chang Lijiao, making her a widow; she took revenge on Lu Zhaopeng, making her never experience happiness; she took revenge on Lu Zilin, making her suffer humiliation... She hated it all .

In this case, it is better to become a madman and use the identity of a madman to tell the truth.

But whether it is true or false, such a beautiful woman began to die.

The crazy Leng Qiuyue brought shame to the Lu family. Lu Zilin gave her a lot of medicine, but she still didn't get better and even became more and more crazy. Lu Zilin had no choice but to ask Mr. Leng for help.

Mr. Leng did something that no one expected - he poisoned Leng Qiuyue to become mute.

When I saw this, I felt very angry.

As a father, he married his daughter without asking her opinion, and then left her as a widow regardless of her happiness. In the end, his daughter went crazy and not only did he not want to cure her, but also for the sake of the generals of the Lu family. My own daughter is poisonous and mute. Is this what a father should do?

If there is anything else that can support Leng Qiuyue's survival, it must be her family. But now that her father is so cruel, what else can she rely on?

The daughter-in-law no longer shouts, is no longer crazy, no longer spins or weaves, and does not even clean the yard or cook. She does not take a bite of food for three days or two, and only crawls to the water tank to use a ladle. He scooped cold water to drink, and then he became thinner day by day, looking like a skeleton. He died on the kang on the night of the ninth day of the winter solstice.

Yes, she had no one to rely on and had no choice but to die, and she died so miserably.

Leng Qiuyue is a product of feudal thinking. In the era of alternation between the old and the new, her tragedy seems to have been doomed.

She obviously just wanted to be a daughter-in-law in peace and stability, but she was forced to become a widow. Even if she seduced her father-in-law, she was not wrong because she just wanted to be cared for and nourished. What was wrong was the feudal society and the men who used her as a tool.

Becoming a madman is more like a way for her to resist feudal ideas, using the mouth of a madman to say things that are not allowed by the ethical code. Unfortunately, fate is too fragile, and she is a helpless woman, unable to survive the day when the feudal system collapses.

Through Leng Qiuyue, we can see the importance of love and sex to marriage. Especially for women, due to the needs of physiological and psychological mechanisms, women's dependence on men in marriage will always be higher than men's dependence on women.

I saw a question on the Internet: If your husband gave you tens of thousands of dollars a month, but never came home to be with you, would you like it?

I saw many female netizens replying: Of course I do, that would be so happy.

But in fact, instead of calling this marriage, "reasonable support" may be more appropriate.

Because the core of marriage is love and sex. Without them, marriage has no meaning and is reduced to just a contract, providing a disguise for two people who have their own hidden agendas.

The above also applies to men.

In addition, after reading this book, I feel more and more that the spirit of modern women deserves to be respected.

Everyone is treading on the same land and looking at the same sky. Everyone has their own abilities and advantages. Why can’t women be independent and self-reliant? Why do they have to rely on men?