Please love everyone who is good at inferiority.

A person who laughs at himself must have a story.

Everyone will have some parts that they care about very much, such as physical defects, emotional experiences or embarrassing experiences.

You used to keep your mouth shut about these things for fear that others would know.

I don't know when you suddenly became a self-deprecating person. You often laugh at and ridicule your own shortcomings and deficiencies, which were once the parts you tried to hide.

You feel strange: how can you suddenly expose yourself like this?

There are two reasons for daring to hack. One is self-protection.

Tagore wrote in The Gardener Collection: I want to tell you the deepest thing I want to say, but I dare not. I'm afraid you will laugh. So I laughed at myself and broke my secret in a joke ... I made my pain easier because I was afraid you would do it. ...

This seems to explain the self-protection psychology of black people.

I am afraid of being hurt, so I laugh at myself and belittle myself. You have laughed at yourself, how can others laugh at you? So, this is a kind of self-protection.

The second is because you are strong enough and confident enough to accept your own shortcomings.

I used to care about the bad growth of my right ear, and I felt a little grandiose. Growing up, I didn't dare to expose it for fear of being laughed at. Throughout my childhood and youth, Qi Er Tong Fa was my standard hairstyle. No matter how hot it is, I cover it with thick hair.

When I was in my thirties, I suddenly accepted it. I not only tied my hair bravely, but also smiled and told my friends, do you think my right ear is a little different from my left ear? I didn't expect my friend to say that I haven't found it yet if you don't tell me.

Many troubles are actually inner problems.

The more you care about things, the more you are afraid of being laughed at, the more you care about and value those defects and deficiencies, and the more you show that you are not confident enough.

The same is true of what I have experienced.

A lot of things, when you can say them with a smile, show that you have come out, even if it once made you cry in the dark.

When your heart is strong enough and you have a deep understanding of the nature of life, you will feel that what you once cared about is really not that important.

I used to be very introverted, and there were many things hidden in my heart, such as my mother's preference for boys and my sister's reading my diary, which teenager she secretly loved. ...

From childhood to youth, for a long time, those things were hidden in my heart and no one told me. They once made me feel deep pain and couldn't extricate myself. Gradually, I began to share it with my friends or write it myself.

Yes, because of the precipitation of years and the growth of my mind, I can finally talk about my experience lightly, as if it were someone else's business.

Please love everyone who is good at self-deception, they have all experienced very difficult times.