Comfort the circle of friends who do bad things with good intentions.

1. Think from the other person's point of view in time, understand the roommate's mood, take care of her needs, and don't "do bad things with good intentions". Don't rush to lend a helping hand when the other party is in trouble and needs help. Just listen to the other person's voice first, let the other person know your mind, and then stand up when you ask for help in the right direction.

2. Listen attentively and learn to pause. If talking can relieve anxiety, listening is the key to determine the curative effect. Listening is not keeping silent, but listening carefully to what the other person said, what he didn't say, and what he really meant. Listening is not a rush to express your opinions, ideas or questions. Usually we are eager to share our stories or ask each other questions to get the truth of the matter, thinking that this is the gesture we should listen to.