My parents are old, and I'm almost forty and I'm not married. What should parents do if they are anxious?

I think it may be because you witnessed some bad communication patterns between your father and mother when you were a child, so your subconscious thought that "marriage is the grave of love." Then you will choose "escape" because this is a mode of our existence. As long as you don't get married, you won't follow in the footsteps of your parents. However, you are almost 40 years old now; You realized the problem before you got married.

Now that you realize it, that's the beginning of change. Because your current problem belongs to the category of family background; So I'd rather you go to a professional counselor than an instant listener. Maybe after dealing with the negative influence of your family background, you will not be so afraid of getting married.

1. I know that the bad environment of my family has affected my growth, and I am not confident about how to establish a good intimate relationship and whether I can get happiness, so that I can find out the problems existing in my family.

2. Full of confidence to overcome the adverse effects of family background and find ways to eliminate the continuation and inheritance of intergenerational bad intimacy. A good intimate relationship can be established by establishing a good intimate relationship, correctly understanding, rationally handling and properly cultivating a good relationship.

3. Consciously cultivate inner children's self-confidence and stability, communicate frequently and cheer. When it is difficult to establish intimate relationships, remind yourself to deal with them with tolerance, tolerance and a big pattern, constantly enhance their ability and determination to deal with problems, and finally cultivate better intimate relationships and promote happiness in life. ?

What we need to do is that if we decide to live alone, then subsequent issues such as pension and illness may need to be planned in advance. Nowadays, many people don't get married, and the community has formed a treaty to use their houses as collateral. Personally, I think this is also a way. As long as we can solve our problems, we can. Any lifestyle must be good and bad. Personally, I don't think you should decide whether to get married or not. If there is a suitable one, talk about a love affair first. If you can continue, then consider getting married.