Girls say they are most resistant to others taking care of themselves. What kind of psychology is this?

Often the resistance of this situation depends on the motivation of "management" received. I divide it into "care" and "control";

Then when someone cares about girls and feels each other's sincerity, it will be easier to accept, because it can accept each other's goodwill;

Some girls are withdrawn or don't like being assimilated. They choose some exciting styles and enjoy them, so she is not used to being taken care of.

In short, when women can feel that the other person's "management" is caring, they should express their gratitude whether they accept it or not.

Let's talk about the second situation-"control". In family relationships, intimate relationships, even parent-child relationships and teacher-student relationships, the managed party is very sensitive. If the perceived communication is not control but "control desire", not only girls, but everyone will be disgusted and rejected;

For example, some boys want their girlfriends to stay at home and not work, which is euphemistically called too hard. This "canary" management style must have a sense of control.

Finally, how to bring appropriate "care" to the other party, otherwise the woman feels that she has the final say?

The tone and expression of speech are very important;

To analyze the reasons why the other party can't accept it, is it long-term habit or comfort?

If it is a bad habit that affects health, you can take the initiative to care and communicate, or you can influence it with actions instead of preaching;

If it is a harmless habit, there is no need to have conflicts because of "management".

Let's first analyze the reasons why girls resist others to take care of themselves.

This is really due to her personality. She doesn't like being taken care of around her. It may be that parents didn't manage enough since childhood, so they bred rebellious psychology. When I was a child, I was controlled by my parents. Finally, when I grew up, I was disciplined by you, and my heart was definitely unbalanced.

Maybe I don't like listening to adults since I was a child and have my own ideas. Adults will not force her because she is busy at work or working in a different place. Over time, she got used to a free life. Suddenly someone came to teach her how to do it, and resistance suddenly grew. My parents don't care what you do.

Observe her performance and see if she is very resistant to the control of others' reactions. If her parents, brothers and sisters are in charge of her, she doesn't resist at all, even in a good mood. Only if you take care of her, will she react greatly.

This may mean that you are just an unimportant stranger to her. She doesn't want you to interfere in her life too much, which will make her feel uncomfortable.

Maybe she doesn't think the relationship between you two has risen to the point where you can control her. She just treats you as an ordinary friend, but you are moved and confused, thinking that you are the prince charming in her mind. In fact, she has no feelings for you at present.

Many times we think we are good to each other, but in fact they don't think so.

To give some extreme examples, some boys just bully the president and let the object report his whereabouts all the time; Girls and same-sex friends should take photos to collect evidence when shopping; It is stipulated that girls must go home before 9 pm; Girls don't report some daily chores to him, lose their temper without receiving a phone call and so on.

Although it is not much to go home before nine o'clock, sometimes it is not necessarily so punctual to work overtime and get together with colleagues. So we should discuss it in detail.

This kind of boy likes kidnapping in the name of love, and it is not advisable to care about his girlfriend's inner feelings. Even in the early days of love, girls can tolerate it temporarily for love. After a long time, the contradictions in my heart will only increase, and one day it will be unbearable and erupt.

In addition, some boys like to control girls' hobbies, work and interpersonal relationships, or directly be their life trajectory planners.

It sounds very capable, but it makes girls lose their choice. First of all, are you sure what you said must be right? Secondly, even if the future goes well, will the girls be happy? Finally, it is very tiring to manage yourself in this way. Finally, girls are blamed for being ignorant and ignorant, and girls themselves are under great pressure, which further intensifies the contradiction.

Just like a person who is willing to fight and suffer, it looks very happy, but this is an old-fashioned view in traditional culture and is not suitable for the development of the new era. In the future, this kind of emotional cases with the nature of "management" will gradually decrease, and everyone will pursue a harmonious society of freedom and equality.

Anyone is born not to like being in charge, otherwise how can he be rebellious?

Doesn't mean that one person is in charge of another person is a good relationship. Two people keep their personalities independent, because love and trust come together, and good communication, mutual concern and common progress are the feelings of sustainable development.

Moderate management, caring management and mutual management can be done.

The highest state of getting along with people is that the flowers are not fully open and the moon is not full. Because a bunch of flowers are in full bloom, they should wither; After the full moon, it should be defective. Only when the flowers are not in full bloom and the moon is not full, will there be something to look forward to and yearn for, and girls are most resistant to others taking care of themselves, then this tube must be over, that is, over

Girls who can be managed by others are all lovers except their parents. Parents' so-called daughter management, from their own point of view, is out of concern and love for their daughters. All parents will take care of their daughter's food, clothing, housing and transportation in the name of love, learn to make friends and even when to go to bed! There are many such things. The mistake is that parents are too strict. My daughter likes snacks, hamburgers and KFC. Parents think it's junk food, and they always say they can't eat it, which is harmful to health; Dressing is a bit trendy, but parents say it's not stable! It should not be worn by good girls; Playing games at night and sleeping late, parents will beep, staying up late is not good for your health; If you have a boyfriend, you should take care of it. It's not good to choose between east and west. After a long time, the daughter will have rebellious psychology. I don't care about anything, I don't even have any freedom, and even some girls are against their parents and sing the opposite in my life.

Boyfriends take care of themselves, just like parents, and they know that those so-called managers love themselves and care about eating and sleeping well, but love is selfish, and after a long time, the scope of management has expanded, and they can't chat with the opposite sex; Don't wear revealing clothes; These restrictions on themselves in the name of love, girls feel that they have lost themselves and will naturally resist.

Of course, in addition to parents and lovers, girls are also controlled by leaders and friends at work, or by some irrelevant people, but the control of these people is irresistible to her.

It is parents and lovers who can resist girls. Because of being controlled, girls feel that they have lost their free space and even lost themselves. Make them feel that their lives have been arranged by others. Self-esteem has been seriously hurt, and it will naturally resist the control of others.

This is easy to understand, which means she doesn't like you to take care of her. If she meets someone she likes, she will kill her anyway.

Women are inherently insecure. If she resists others, she is resisting that person, not others. When you are not too important to her psychology, you should not restrain a woman, which will make her feel very unsafe. At this time, what men have to do is to open women's hearts and send warmth.

Women are like water, tolerant and soft-hearted. Because of this, mature women's hearts are not so easy to open.

As long as you pay attention to observation, you can find that when a woman falls in love with a man, she will automatically accept his constraints. And give a maternal love to this man, the whole woman will change at this time.

Before answering this question, let's sort out the relationship problem.

The relationship with a person is the key to solve this problem.

First: A girl belongs to an innocent girl, if she is your girlfriend, but she doesn't like being in your charge. It is very likely that your intimate relationship is not in place. If she is not your girlfriend, then you will be rejected if you care about others.

Second: A girl is very independent. If she is your girlfriend, she doesn't like being in charge. Freedom is the natural attribute of others. Why should she care about others? Isn't it that the more you manage, the more alienated you are? If she's not your girlfriend, you're even less qualified to take care of it.

Third: Girls are flexible. If she is your girlfriend, her personality is hot and cold, and it is reasonable to resist others to take care of herself. If she is not your girlfriend, then there is no relationship between being in charge and being in charge.

If you love someone, you should give them space and freedom. If the other party clearly resists, it is still necessary to pay more attention to each other's mode of getting along and the way of handling relationships. Don't wait for the other person to get impatient or alienate you, only to find that there is something wrong with your way of dealing with relationships.

Thank you, I hope my answer can help you!

Everyone will resist others to take care of themselves, including children around the age of three. You look at animals and don't want to bow your head. The winner is king. No matter what a person shows, he is more or less rebellious. When two people get along, they don't touch the bottom line, don't touch her pain points, and understand each other, so they won't rise to the saying of "resistance".

Resisting others to take care of themselves should be adolescent rebellious psychology, right? I remember when I was a child, I didn't want my mother to take care of myself because of my rebellious adolescence, because I always felt that I had grown up and didn't want to be bound and controlled by my parents. I grew up as they expected, because I am an elder sister, so I have to let my younger brothers and sisters do everything. At that time, I really didn't want to be controlled by my parents all the time, so I wanted to choose other provinces when I went to college. Later, when I went to college, they wouldn't let me study in other provinces, so I chose Guangzhou, which is far from home. Although there are good schools near my home, I don't want to stay in one place all my life, so they really can't control you when I come to Guangzhou to study. But you have to do everything yourself in this life. No one will prepare breakfast for you, tell you to eat on time, wash clothes and get sick. I didn't know how much it would cost to grow up until I grew up. Being an adult is too tiring. When I was a child, I always wanted to grow up quickly. Now I think it's better to be a child. The world after growing up is not good at all, because no one will spoil and love you like their parents.

It is a typical rebellious psychology.

Rebellious psychology refers to a psychological state in which people take opposite attitudes and words and deeds to each other's demands in order to maintain their self-esteem. Rebellious psychology is a psychological state that often appears in the process of teenagers' growth.

Although rebellious psychology is not unhealthy psychology, it is abnormal psychology when it reacts strongly. Although it is different from abnormal psychology, it has some characteristics of abnormal psychology. If it is not solved in time, it is not conducive to the healthy development of people's body and mind.

It is a psychological activity when the objective environment does not meet the needs of the subject, and it has strong resistance. When the intentions are inconsistent, in order to maintain self-esteem, they will adopt the opposite attitude and words and deeds to the other party's requirements. When this happens, you can't point it out at once, you need to give correct guidance.

Give her some space of her own and accept her imperfections. Don't take care of everything, as long as what she does doesn't violate the principle, there is no need to interfere too much. Everyone is an independent individual, and everyone has his own way to go. Respect her and let go of yourself.

I don't think most people like to be in charge. Imagine yourself as a person in charge of everything. I feel suffocated, because in that case, girls will completely lose their opinions and feel disrespected.

Everyone likes the unrestrained and free mode of getting along. Maybe in boys' feelings, I care about you just to be nice to you. In fact, for girls, if you continue to manage like this, you will suffocate in the long run and will only resist more and more in the end. The best way to get along is to ignore her as much as possible, give more suggestions when appropriate, analyze the good and bad sides of things, and give her her space.

To sum up, she makes her own decisions on small matters, and helps her analyze and make suggestions on big ones. If she encounters something that she can't solve, she will take the initiative to ask you for help.

Not to mention girls, no one wants to be taken care of by anyone, and there are many ways to take care of them. If you take care of them too much, you will naturally resist. You feel that someone is taking care of you in everything you do, limiting your decision or freedom. It also depends on the situation. I have a niece, 14 years old. She told me all day that mom and dad have been taking care of her and will call to report after class. Like this, you can tell her that mom and dad take care of you because of you. As long as you come home safely, your parents will be relieved. These are all out of parents' mood. Some are adults. With love, many girls hate being controlled by people they like. There is also a kind of management. Maybe everyone is resisting imperative management. In fact, whether girls or boys, some people like to be managed, and some people don't like to be managed. Being in charge is a good thing, and they are afraid that no one will take care of you. Life is often dramatic and they don't like it. You are particularly resistant, and the person you like just doesn't care about you. Does everyone feel this way? Just occasionally take care of it in a simple way, and everyone is willing to accept it. After all, people in society now like to have their own space and freedom. With more understanding and tolerance, many things will become different.