What if someone dies before the funeral in the village?

I have experienced your problem personally, because it happened in my home.

The two people who died here were my uncle and my father.

My uncle passed away on May 20th, 2005. In our rural customs, it is said that this day is a day of heavy mourning, and the deceased must die on the day of heavy mourning (of course, I know this has no scientific basis, but it is just a statement of rural customs).

We left Binbin on the third day after death, that is, Binbin arrived on May 22nd. That morning, Binbin just carried his uncle's birthday tree to the buried well and put it away. My dad died at this time. My brother and I are still burying my uncle's well. When we heard the news, we rushed home.

This incident should also reflect the rural customs. The deceased will really die twice in a row on the day of heavy mourning, and they are still relatives.

What we did at that time was to call all the people who helped my uncle at home and continue the same funeral as my uncle.

However, under the pressure of custom, my family followed the advice of the teacher who is a mage. Out of the park, my brother and I took a mirror and shone it on my father's birthday tree to solve my uncle's heavy loss and contact with relatives.

In fact, the question you asked is based on local customs for a period of time. Because the customs of each place are different, of course, there will be different methods.

I wonder if your local customs are the same as ours.

I wonder if I can borrow the customs here from you?

I also hope that our customers here can give you a debit function.

People who live will die, which is human nature and the basic law of nature, otherwise the earth will be overcrowded. Funerals in rural areas, often one person dies, and then another person dies, especially in large rural areas with a large population. Of course, there won't be too many deaths in small villages. After all, the population is too small. After all, China now has a population of 65.438+0.4 billion, and the elderly population is increasing, so it is common for a person to go public in the village and die.

In rural areas, funerals are basically organized by close relatives. Some people sort out the lost procedures, some cook, some carry coffins, and some help cut some filial piety cloth. If the village is small, other unrelated people will come to help. After all, there are old people in every family, and this phenomenon will occur, so it is useless to help each other. Many people will have a big funeral to save face and invite many trumpeters. In this case, there are more people and more waste.

One person died in the village, and another died without a funeral. In this case, there is a shortage of funeral staff, so this kind of treatment will be carried out in rural areas, that is, the funeral will be held first for those who die first, and then for those who die later, which will delay the funeral of those who die later for a day or two. After all, the general funeral time is about three days. There is a large population in the village, so there is no need to delay this. It can be said that another group of people are being organized to attend the funeral of those who have just died.

It is indeed a great event to hold a funeral for the dead in the countryside. People in the village basically put aside their differences, even if there is a little family hatred, but they will put aside this aspect and help each other bury the dead. Especially now, rural people basically go out to work for the income of their families, leaving only some old people in the village. In this case, if two people go to the funeral at the same time and there is not enough manpower, they need to recruit some people who work in the city to go home. Of course, now every village has a red and white council. It can be said that these people will also help organize the funeral procedures, and sometimes simplify the funeral procedures. Some places already have professionals in the funeral industry, and they can also be hired to help handle funeral affairs.

In short, the funeral of rural people after their death is very important, and there are certain procedures. Close relatives in the village or other people help each other bury the dead. If one person doesn't attend the funeral, another person will die. Some villages have a small population, resulting in fewer people sleeping blindly. This requires burying the dead first, and then holding a funeral for later people. Of course, the advocacy of changing customs and simplifying funerals has indeed reduced a lot of economic expenses for rural funerals, and now the procedures are basically simple, the expenses are not too much, and there are a lot fewer people who handle affairs, so there will be no situation where one person does not handle funerals and the other person is busy to death. How do you handle this situation there? Please leave a message to communicate.

This is normal. People live and die, and no one knows when they will die. It is normal for two people to die in the same village at the same time.

You're worried about the funeral. The first is the funeral procession, Baokuo monk, Shigong, western band and so on. These people can't have several teams in a village, they are all invited from the east and the west. A town has at least a team like 10, not to mention two dead, even if there are several, it will not affect the funeral.

Another problem is the problem of white banquet, in fact, this is very simple. Let's not say that they died on the same day. Even if the funerals that died on the same day are divided into 3 and 6, even if they all choose the same day, they will be divided into morning and afternoon. The key lies in environmental problems. A village is so big. Holding a white wedding in two places is a bit disturbing, but everyone will understand.

Leaving the funeral at anyone's house is a "big deal" This activity is not only a banquet for guests, but also a grand and complicated funeral. It only takes four days to die. On the fifth day, a funeral will be held, and on the seventh day, someone will be buried. Since there is a time difference, some people die before the funeral, and it is not impossible for some people to die There are two funerals in a village, and the whole village is as busy as a bee.

After all, funerals, funerals, funerals, funerals will not be a mess, but will still be carried out in an orderly manner.

Living in a village, there is no shortage of in-laws and family members, while those who are within the "five clothes" still wear Dai Xiao and are busy dying one after another. Unfortunately, another person died in the village, which is equivalent to going through the same thing twice. Baishi has come to help with it for a long time, without asking the neighbors. At this time, we have to "divide the soldiers into two ways." Anyone who participated in the funeral behind him has excused himself and went to his home in Dai Xiao to mourn; There are two neighbors running back and forth, and that one is short of hands. Let's work there for a while. There are many people in the family, and each family goes to one. The two funerals were basically dispatched by the whole village, and each family rarely cooked and lived outside.

There are days when "professionals" choose to attend funerals. In case these "suitable" days hit, the funeral home behind will be extended for a day or two. The previous family had a banquet and a funeral, so they had to have a funeral and be buried at home.

Funeral focuses on funeral and funeral, because funeral has many taboos and complicated procedures, and those "professionals" will also use it. There are also banquets, entertaining relatives and friends, and attending funerals. Only when the deceased in front is buried can the family behind have a funeral and the funeral will be decent.

In rural areas, it is impossible to hold a funeral on the same day unless it is "special". It is said that once this is done, it will be bad for the whole village, especially for the two families who have lost their loved ones. So someone in the village died in tandem, so we should look forward and backward. We can neither act rashly nor violate taboos.

In a big village, it is normal to die three or five times a day, and it is normal to die three or two times in a big village with 10 thousand people. This is also an accidental meeting. It won't happen every day. One hundred people in a big family, two people died unexpectedly. His family panicked and lost control. They knelt down and cried and asked me, why? I observed various causes and thought it was a normal death. There is nothing to be afraid of. Another old man died at the age of 85 and his son was 56. In order to show that he can do it, he personally looked at the grave and buried the old man. As a result, the old man died after being buried for twenty days. Later, my descendants asked me to look again. Later I said, 15 no one will die in your family. Sure enough, my grandmother died in 16 at the age of 90, and her mother died 20 years later at the age of 80. Under normal circumstances, there is no reason for death, and birth, old age, illness and death are normal. Don't panic, face it calmly.

As a person who carries coffins all the year round, let me answer this question. What if someone dies before the funeral in the village? Don't ask nonsense, the deceased is the oldest, and the funeral is not on the same day. Let's go through this process again.

Therefore, we have a fine tradition. Every room, every household should have an donkey kong, that is, a coffin bearer, usually 24 people. Three groups take turns to carry coffins to take care of their relatives who died normally or abnormally in the village!

Get to the point, tell me the story of the first month of our village that year, which is exactly the same as the questioner's question. This is how we solved it!

I remember it was one o'clock in the morning on the tenth day of the first month of 2007. Don't ask me why I remember it so clearly. It's my girlfriend's birthday, and I call to chat during the vigil. After I sent the message and answered the phone, my mother called me. Grandpa drank too much at noon and went back to bed. At night, his son saw that he hadn't got up to pee at night, so he went over and shouted, Dad, are you drunk? I slept all afternoon and all night. Get up and eat something?

I put on my clothes and pants and walked over. A group of old people gathered at grandfather's bedside. I saw his son, daughter-in-law and immediate family members shaving, washing their faces, having their hair cut, wiping their bodies and changing clothes. Soon, the sound of the truck engine came from the door.

After the one-stop funeral service brought a shroud to the old man, the staff set up a shed in the yard, carried an ice coffin, electrified it, put a wreath, wrote down their names with paper and pen, and carried the old man into the ice coffin.

We clan relatives give money directly from our pockets to the speaker, and the speaker writes it down with a pen and notebook, and then sticks it on the wall when writing a notice during the day. According to our rules, those who have a good relationship or want to keep vigil can keep vigil, and the host will pay three meals a day plus alcohol and tobacco!

Several of our brothers stayed because they were very close to my grandfather. At midnight, they can play poker all night. Tomorrow, the news spread. It is estimated that there will be several tables of plates and mahjong. Our vigil custom is that dutiful sons burn paper money all night, and relatives and friends play cards day and night, so that the bodies of the dead can stay for three days. What a lively activity!

Soon, the village idiot heard firecrackers. When he was a child, he had a high fever and burned his brain. He is in his thirties. He laughs all day and attends weddings and funerals on time. I saw him walking beside the box with a lot of paper money, incense and candles.

The next day, all the relatives in the village came here after getting up, because firecrackers were set off for a long time last night, and everyone knew it should be an old man. The dutiful son took a straw lump and came to a censer, so he knelt down once, regardless of the size of the generation, and treated the younger generation equally!

There are more and more relatives who watch cards at night. At table four or five, an ambulance 120 suddenly pulled into the village after midnight, and heard the sound before entering the village! I saw my dad's family come to get the unit price and carry it upstairs. Before long, a funeral train came!

Then the old father's family went to some elders' vigils one after another. We were already at grandpa's house, so it was not convenient for the two families to visit. We chatted while playing cards: after today, we will send our little grandfather up the mountain tomorrow and go to the old father's mourning hall tomorrow night. Now the past two leaders are not pleasing. You look silly and have no reaction at all. This old boy is not stupid!

We arrived at the cemetery to kill the rooster, burn paper money and sprinkle lime, put the coffin, our task was completed, the pole rope was lost, and we went home to sleep down the mountain. In the afternoon, the host will invite us to dinner and entertain donkey kong! The thick stick rope has been put away by the special person in the ancestral hall! Get up in the afternoon to drink and eat meat!

In the evening, donkey kong and the younger generations went to the mourning hall of the old father one after another, giving money, burning incense and paper money, and continuing to play cards all night. It was very lively! The big fool came over this morning after watching us carry little grandpa into the car!

On the third morning, the old father gave a red envelope and cigarettes like a little grandfather, lifted the bar and carried it into the ancestral grave for burial. Let's come back and continue to eat and drink!

In the countryside in the north, it is very cold in winter. There has always been a saying in our hometown that "the elderly are worried from winter to the sun". People with life experience often discuss it in the coldest winter. Whose old man has been ill for a long time depends on these days.

Although some old people are ill in bed, as long as they can survive the winter solstice safely until the New Year, people will say: If you eat tofu in the New Year, you won't get much in the next year!

Every winter around, until the China New Year, many old people leave our village. Being in the same village, we all know each other. There are things like weddings, funerals and weddings, and everyone has to help.

In the cold winter, the old man hasn't gone to the funeral, and from time to time, the old man dies. Sometimes, even two old people die on the same day.

We rural people attach great importance to the matter of "being buried in peace", and funeral is the most important thing in a person's married life. So no matter whose old man dies, the main family will hold a grand funeral.

Every time I wait here, people with high prestige in the village will come out to coordinate and reasonably divide the neighbors who help into several groups to ensure that everyone in the victim's family can help.

Life was hard in the early years. No matter who has something to do, we all go to the village together, borrow something and do a good job. Everyone Qi Xin worked together and everything was done in an orderly way.

In the early years, information was underdeveloped and transportation was inconvenient. All the life experiences of the villagers come from the word of mouth of the older generation.

Funeral is no exception. Closed living conditions have trained a group of "experts" in this field:

And in all the "occupations", the most important thing is the chef. Because no matter whether it is a happy event or a funeral, it starts in a busy schedule and ends in an open-air reception banquet.

Generally speaking, every village has more than two "cooks" who are good at cooking for weddings and funerals in the village. They are generally elderly women.

Under the condition that our material conditions are poor and food sources are scarce, these "cooks" often bear the truest "dignity" of a village.

Because the people who come to give gifts, in addition to the village, there are many distant relatives from other places. Don't underestimate the meal you hastily ate in this cold winter. The style and taste of food ultimately determine the reputation of the victim's family and the face of the villagers.

Hard-working and simple rural people are most afraid that after the banquet, others will say that their family is stingy, and they can't stand comments like oily meat. Or people in other villages mention the banquet in a village and shake their heads and say that the cook is no good.

In fact, the hardest thing for a chef is not that many people can't agree with him, but that most of our families in mountain villages are relatively poor, and there are really not many things that can really be taken out to entertain everyone. Therefore, every seemingly ordinary cook has to shoulder the arduous task of "a clever woman can't cook without rice" before he wants to help his master's family and village save face.

Despite such difficulties, coupled with frequent snowstorms and bad weather in mountain villages, people at that time did not feel so bitter and tried their best to do everything.

At that time, gifts were not heavy, and there was no great pressure on the giver. People can come, help and do their part, which is not only a memory of the dead, but also a respect for the living. Between the host and the guest, there is more affection and more care.

On the contrary, the situation has become more and more different in recent years. The road has been widened and netcom has been opened. Every household has built square cement bungalows, and some have cars. But there is less and less contact between people.

I am afraid of the cold in winter and don't want to go out. Just call or send a voice to explain. There are still weddings and funerals, but life has completely changed.

In the past, although people were poor, they all obeyed the rules. When to get married and when to have a birthday, they didn't mess around.

But now people are bold and don't pay attention to it. They can get married, they can get married, and they can have a full moon when their children are one year old. I worked outside for a whole year and went back to the village to make up a banquet in winter. When the notice arrives, everyone should give gifts.

The most terrible thing is that gift-giving is no longer a symbol of affection in the market, but almost a naked cash competition. The last family gave me 100 when they got married. You can't marry less than 200 women. Last year, I came to your house for 200 yuan, and this year you came to my house for 300 yuan less. You're ashamed ...

The only thing that can't be changed now is the funeral of the old man's death, but there is no affection. Because with the old people leaving one by one, young people who work outside the home all the year round no longer have the patience to learn those crafts. The cooks who have handled countless banquets are always gone, and the most important role of cooks in rural banquets has also been lost.

Followed by foreign businessmen who specialize in collecting food and beverage expenses. They have everything from wedding ceremonies to undertaker, from dishes and drinks to tables, chairs and chopsticks.

Who will check the time and set the date? Don't panic, the business team keeps pace with the times and replaces the old gentleman with omnipotent Baidu.

Master doesn't have to be busy anymore. He sat at home, dialed the telephone posted on the telephone pole, and decided what kind of banquet and price specifications he wanted in minutes.

The villagers do not need any more help. They just change their clothes, count the gifts, go to the designated place according to the time notified by the phone, pay the money, and then sit on the plastic stool pulled by the tricycle and eat some food and drinks bought by foreigners from other places.

No taste.

I just met this thing, or it was the Spring Festival ten days ago, and everyone in the village was busy and dizzy.

On New Year's Day, an old man in our stockade passed away. He is a 71-year-old uncle, and was buried on the mountain on the fifth day of the fifth lunar month.

The whole village was busy, and suddenly an old lady who was separated from his house by a fence died of illness. She fell to the ground in the second day of junior high school and was scheduled to go uphill in the eighth day. She has belonged to her grandmother for generations.

Now everyone says that this year has been lively and deserted. What is lively is that the gongs and drums of funeral services are beating drums every day, and funeral songs are being sung everywhere. I feel lively and sad. What is cold and cheerless is that the two families and their relatives have no time to knock gongs and drums for the New Year, and all the things they visited during the New Year are left behind. Only the children can't help it. Fireworks and games are still full of joy.

Fortunately, there are many people in our stockade, more than 70 households with more than 300 people. Rao is so, also very troublesome. I invited housekeeping for the Spring Festival, but no one came. People also want to celebrate the New Year, and both families can only ask the people in the village to do things themselves. Ask two or three general managers, and then the general manager will ask two groups of Taoist priests to find graves by the day, and ask the men and women in the village to cook, light fires, wash vegetables and dishes, set off fireworks, drill wells (tombs), buy coffins and carry coffins. Fortunately, the day of going up the mountain is not on the same day, otherwise we will go to other stockyards and ask relatives with the same surname for help.

These two projects are progressing smoothly. Thanks to the Spring Festival, young and middle-aged people who work outside the home have settled down, and there are many people here to share. If it is other days, there will be some trouble, and no outsiders are invited to help.

Actually, there are more difficult things. Two months ago, in our stockade, there was a funeral and a bride's wedding on the same day, and the two collided at the same time. Red joy goes into the stockade here and white joy goes out there. It's really troublesome. Later, it was discussed that the wedding would be held one hour in advance to avoid it.

Like the rural areas now, such as my hometown, many people have gone out to work or settle down. There are not many people in the village. When an old man dies, the whole village will come to help. Unlike the old people who died in the village in the 1980s and 1990s, it is enough for the young people in one group to help without the help of other groups. Although there are no young people in the village now, there are new ways to solve the problem of contributing and helping with the funeral.

Old enmity and hatred gradually disappeared. After the reform and opening up, with the emergence of the tide of migrant workers, most of the older generation who stayed in the village stayed at home because of their age, and they were self-sufficient while exercising, unwilling to cause trouble to their children. Although people who go out to work have the heart to keep up with the competition, there will be all kinds of secret competitions for those who are promising and those who are worthless, which will stimulate each other to get rich and mix people ...! No matter how well they mix, time waits for no one. Without the envy of familiar people, there will be no jealousy and hatred!

People died and the lights went out. The left-behind old people in the village, because their children were not at home, once shook hands because of the dispute over that acre of land. Weddings and funerals in the village, people who died of old age in the past, at worst, will turn into an enemy and go to mourn. After all-they are contemporaries with endless nostalgia and growth, and they have witnessed the beauty, happiness, glory and "hatred" that we can't understand.

An old man died in the village, and everyone was very sad. However, as the subject is worried, the funeral after death needs a lot of labor help. If another person dies one after another, how to arrange the labor force? Actually, there is no need to worry. People born on the same day will die on the same day. The funeral order can be arranged flexibly, and the day before and the day after, the problem is not too big. Like the people who died in my hometown and village, please ask a few relatives and friends to arrange related matters. There is a "one-stop" funeral service in town. As for the work of burying people and places with inconvenient roads, there are special "coffin bearers" to help solve them, which can help the owner's family make proper arrangements. The people in the village came to express their grief, give the old man a ride and hold a personal show. Between people, no matter how much love and hate there were, they all vanished.

A few years ago, a strange phenomenon appeared in our village. There are two dead people every time. I don't know why, all the old people in the village went to see Mr. Feng Shui. It's no use

Our village is small, and there are only a few thousand people. Under normal circumstances, seven or eight people die every year, and the mortality rate of seven or eight per thousand is normal. But every time two people go together, some for a day or two, and some for two or three days.

There are different views on this phenomenon. Some people say it's a coincidence, while others say there are two "landlords" in the village. It's been like this for years. Young people know that they don't believe in feudal superstitions. After two years, this phenomenon is rarely seen again.

The villagers must finish their work in this house and then go to that house to help. Our custom here is usually to bury it in three days. As long as one day two people do not meet and are not buried. If the two families meet for one day, someone will negotiate, one family will have three days and the other five days.