The man who protects the calf is tasteful enough

Text丨Yang Xiaoxie

Public account丨Lan Run Her World (lrwomen)

? Do you think he doesn’t love you that much?

Yes,

He just doesn’t love you that much.

—— Yang Xiaoxie

Mr. Ouyang and Mr. Ouyang were college classmates. After graduation, Ouyang went to a state-owned enterprise, and Mr. continued his studies and stayed in school as a lecturer. Ouyang is in the Personnel Administration Department, which has a director. Ouyang is the department manager and supervises two specialists.

The director is a relative of the boss. He holds a job and receives a salary but does not work. The two commissioners are fresh graduates who don’t know everything. Ouyang is responsible for the work of almost three people. Ouyang is often so tired that he works overtime until he gets home at eight or nine in the evening, exhausted.

As we all know, personnel administration is the most complex and most difficult to value department in the entire enterprise process. On the one hand, we must find ways to help the boss save costs and avoid risks; on the other hand, we must strive for welfare and incentive value for employees. We cannot balance both aspects.

Ouyang is facing both physical and psychological pressure. Sometimes he wants to talk to his husband about his troubles at work and find some comfort. The husband would either say "Don't do it if you don't want to do it" and be perfunctory, or he would complain that Ouyang didn't understand tolerance and was too concerned with trivial matters.

He never knew that his salary was not enough to pay off the mortgage and car loan, let alone support his family. If you don’t want to do it, then don’t do it, but if you don’t do it, who will pay the monthly mortgage and car loan? No matter how painful Ouyang felt in his heart, he could only swallow it back.

There is also a friend who participated in a marathon and ran more than 40 kilometers. Trembling and weak, barely able to stand upright.

But she really loves her boyfriend. As soon as I heard that the weather was getting colder, I almost struggled to get out of bed. Despite the pain in my muscles, I ran a long way to prepare winter clothes for my boyfriend who was out of town. In order to ensure that her boyfriend would receive it the next day, she dragged her painful legs and hurriedly washed the clothes, cut off the labels, dried them, and packed them before the courier left work.

It is a pity that despite all the efforts of personnel, express delivery is not adequate. The morning package was not delivered until the evening, and the courier could not be contacted. My friend was very anxious and asked the courier company to deliver the goods quickly.

My boyfriend was very generous and told me to wait until the courier had time before delivering it. He also asked my friend to be polite and sympathize with the courier's hard work. It was already annoying enough that my friend lost his job that day, so it was a comfort to think that my boyfriend could dress warmly. After being told this, I felt speechless.

"Yes, couriers work hard. When I go to work, I have to look at my face every day. If I don't feel welcome, it doesn't mean it's hard?" "I paid the most expensive postage and enjoyed ordinary services. Why do they serve me so well?" If the quality is poor, the customer has to pay? ""The unjust delivery fee is enough for a good meal, and the money for a meal is also precious to the unemployed."

I really don’t know if some men are out of their minds and talk about big principles all day long, about how to be friendly, tolerant, and generous.

They will never listen to you quietly and embrace your fragility and weakness when you are wronged. They will only tell you to look away and look away, and blame you for your petty emotions, as if that The person who bullied you didn't do anything wrong, and the things that make you unhappy are not enough to affect your mood. If you care, you have done something wrong, and if you complain, you are petty.

He said it clearly and clearly, as if he represented Confucius' group of old pedants who traveled around giving lectures and conferring Confucian etiquette. I really don't know if it was out of the need for performance, or if he was a bitch of truth, or a bitch of pretentiousness.

Girls, who have been nagged by their parents since childhood, were sent to schools for brainwashing when they grew up, and oppressed by the patriarchal ideology of feudal society, finally survived until adulthood and had their own lives. In this world, we need to find a rude man to teach us a lesson. Where is the happiness in such a life?

What do women do with men? Don’t you have any clues? I can't rely on my shoulders, I can't rely on my heart, I can't provide emotional value, I don't have the ability to create more happiness for women, what's the difference between being a salted fish?

I admire a kind of man. No matter who is wrong, it is someone else’s fault.

This kind of man can let you do a lot of things he wants to do. If the sky falls, he will carry it, and he is not willing to let his woman suffer any injustice. Even if you make a mistake, go home and close the door. This is a family matter and no one else is allowed to interfere.

Some people may say that women cannot be tolerated. If they are used to others, they will have no status. But we are all adults, and everyone has the right to judge right from wrong. Pampering and protecting does not necessarily make a woman domineering and unreasonable. Only when your heart is warmed can you make sense. Only with support and understanding can we be more complete.

Female vajras were trained in an extremely depressing environment faced with internal and external troubles, but those women who are as gentle as water and considerate are all treasures held in the palm of their hands.

Behind good women there are good men, and behind bad women there are a group of bad men.

◎Yang Xiaoxie is a free man who wants to unite love and help more women grow up.