Speech by parents of sixth grade parent-teacher conference

Today, because of the fate of the children, we walked into XX primary school and into the classroom of XX class. Welcome to visit! Thank you!

My family name is "X". I am the head teacher and teacher of this class.

There are 50 students in our class, including X boys and X girls. During this half term, students get together from their respective classes and schools. Generally speaking, they are clever and obedient, and there is no phenomenon of being late and leaving early. They are conscientious and responsible in their daily duty work. Most students can listen carefully in class. Only one or two students forget to do their homework, so they can unite and be friendly. Since this half term, our class has won the first prize in the blackboard newspaper evaluation twice, and many students have been selected into the school-level seal cutting interest group and school-level seal cutting interest group. It can be said that Class 5 [4] is full of talents and has achieved remarkable results. Dear parents, it is you who have trained these excellent children. Here, I sincerely say: "Thank you for your hard work!" "

Of course, there are still some problems in our class. For example, there are always students who can't control themselves and talk back. Some students climb trees and dig nests regardless of their lives after class. ...

Everyone is nervous. For the healthy growth of children, we sit together today. Take this opportunity to discuss educational countermeasures.

I have the following points to say;

First, let's listen to what the children want to say to their parents: Sometimes I don't listen to my parents because:

1. They are too demanding and strict on me, and I can't do it.

They hurt my self-esteem.

I don't trust them.

I was in a bad mood.

I don't believe what they said is true at all.

I can't control my behavior.

7. They often hit people, and I hate them.

8. I am angry, and I am so annoyed that no one likes to hear it.

9. They have a bad attitude when they talk to me, their language is uncivilized and they don't respect people.

10 They always compare me with other children, which is the last thing I want to hear.

1 1. I am often trained and have formed a confrontational psychology with them.

12, what they said is a lie, I don't want to hear it!

13, they talked for too long and made me tired, so I stopped listening angrily.

14, they often wronged me, and I was wronged. I couldn't listen to what they said.

15, my parents always like to take many people home to drink and play cards, and yelling affects my study. I'm disgusted.

16, my parents take it out on us whenever something happens. I am very angry.

17, my parents watch TV too loudly every day, which affects my sleep, so I just go against them and don't listen.

18, they never want to listen to what I say, even my explanation, so I don't like what they say.

19, I think I've grown up and don't have to let others take care of me anymore.

20. All the time is dominated by teachers and parents. I don't think I have time to do what I want to do. I have no freedom at all. The more obedient I am, the less freedom I have.

After listening to these children, parents should know more about their children, understand them and respect them.

First, equality. Every child is a living individual. Although they are young and short, they have thoughts and brains. We adults might as well squat down and talk to them. Psychologist Maslow divides people's needs into five levels. The fourth level is respect for needs, including respect and self-esteem by others. The former wants to get the attention of others, while the latter wants individuals to be valuable. Therefore, as teachers and parents, we should respect each child's personality and their lives. Every child is a beautiful scenery. He may be inferior to others in one respect, but he is superior in another. If children have done their best in their studies and sweated, we don't have to be too demanding when we are nervous.

Second, communication. Try to communicate more on the basis of equality. There is a psychological gap between the two generations, which is called the "generation gap". Eliminating the "generation gap" is nothing more than equal communication and strengthening dialogue. For example, children go home and ask casually; What's new at school today? Did you change your deskmate? Do you like him? What are the characteristics of your Chinese teacher's lectures? What good-looking essays are there in your textbook? Read two beautiful articles to relieve boredom, and so on. Ordinary conversation will arouse children's interest and produce a sense of closeness.

Third, tolerance. Tolerate his rational mistakes and don't curb his personality. Romain rolland once said: One should do something wrong in life, and doing something wrong is learning.

There was once a child who liked to do things. Once, he took apart a new watch that his mother had just bought as a toy. The mother was very angry and gave the child a good beating. It happened that the teacher came.

During the home visit, the mother scolded the child for his mistake in disassembling the watch. Unexpectedly, the teacher replied humorously: I'm afraid an "Edison" in China was shot by you. Mother felt incomprehensible. The teacher said: "Although children's behavior is irrational, it contains creativity. You shouldn't beat and scold him. " The teacher suggested taking remedial measures and taking the children to the watch shop to satisfy their curiosity. This teacher is a student of Tao Xingzhi, a famous modern educator. It was he who actively advocated "putting the caged bird in the sky and letting it soar freely."

China's traditional education pays more attention to groups and ignores the development of personality, which hinders the cultivation of creative thinking.

Fourth, encourage. Sometimes a parent's words, eyes and actions may have a great influence on children, even unforgettable. Psychologist Rosenthal once did an experiment, randomly pointed out several students and said to their teacher: These children are very talented and very smart. Later, these children really became smarter and smarter. In fact, it is because teachers believe Rosenthal's words and often encourage and praise these children. This is the famous Rosenthal effect. It can be seen that positive encouragement and appreciation are effective ways to promote children's success. For example, if you failed in the exam, instead of mocking him: What's your future? It is better to change the angle, the effect will be very different: such a difficult topic, but also got more than 60 points, not bad!

However, sometimes there are some unconscious wrong education in our family, such as:

(1) I often ask my child's ranking in the class. Parents can't affirm or deny their children by ranking their scores in each exam. For a child who can't get the first place, it is bound to make the child feel inferior. And children's self-denial will not only further reduce their academic performance, but also hinder their all-round development in the future.

(2) Always blame children for their failures. For example, two children failed the Chinese exam. Parent A said to the child, "Mom and Dad are very concerned about your Chinese performance. I believe that this exam does not reflect your level. Cheer up, son! " Parent b said to the child, "how can you be so stupid?" You can't do such a simple topic, and you will definitely not be admitted to the university in the future! " Parents A convey care and love, while parents B cause anxiety and hatred. The former can stimulate children's enthusiasm for further study and focus on solving problems. The latter will hurt children's enthusiasm and self-confidence. Children usually live up to the expectations of their parents and teachers, and giving them destructive predictions will do harm.

(3) Children are often prevented from playing and ordered to return to their seats. Playing is a child's nature. If you stop it blindly, you will be forced to "learn". If you learn endlessly, your child will get bored. Successful education is to change "I want to learn" into "I want to learn", that is, to transform external motivation into internal motivation and fully mobilize children's learning enthusiasm. And improper education will only make children's original interest in learning disappear.

(4) There are too many arrangements in life and study, so that children do not develop good study habits. For children's learning, parents' main responsibility is not to accompany, not to replace, but to cultivate a good habit. If parents take too much care of their children's life and study, children will not be able to take care of themselves, and the ability of independent learning will naturally not be established. Therefore, the more anxious parents are, the less anxious their children are. Anyway, everything is taken care of by others. As a result, parents are very tired, but children don't grow up.

(5) Sometimes parents will carry out stick education. Often just because of impulse, but do you know: children who are often beaten will have the following bad mentality and psychological deviation.

Lying Some parents beat their children as soon as they find out that they have done something wrong. In order to avoid physical pain, children can hide and cheat, because for children, if they cheat once, they can reduce a "disaster". However, the lies told by children are often untenable and easily found by parents. In order to punish children for lying, parents will be tougher; In order to avoid being beaten, children will lie more when they do something wrong next time, which constitutes a vicious circle.

Cowardice If children are often beaten for a long time, they will feel scared and afraid to approach their parents. Therefore, no matter what his parents ask him to do, no matter what his parents say is right or wrong, he will only obey. Children who grow up in such a bad environment of absolute obedience are often prone to inferiority and cowardice. Such children are often obedient, depressed and passive in their studies.

Children who are often beaten by themselves will feel lonely and helpless. Especially when parents beat their children in public, it will hurt their self-esteem. He will often doubt his ability, feel inferior, appear depressed and silent, and think that teachers and children look down on themselves and lift their heads. Such children are often unwilling to communicate with their parents and teachers, unwilling to play with their classmates, and have a withdrawn personality.

Stubborn parents always beat their children, which damages their self-esteem and makes them rebellious and rebellious. Some children show their resistance by deliberately making trouble. If you want to go east, he will go west, deliberately making his parents angry. Other children, the more their parents fight, the less they admit their mistakes. Stubbornness is getting older. He often runs away from home, plays truant to confront his parents, and becomes more and more stubborn.

Rude because the child is very imitative, his parents beat him at home, and he beat other children outside, especially the younger ones. Once this rude character is formed, children will be very violent when they grow up. Parents beating their children actually set a bad example for them.

Some eccentric parents insist on letting their children "admit their mistakes" after hitting them, so as to show that their children are educated. In fact, doing so can only aggravate the child's xenophobic tendency. On the surface, the child seems to do what his parents ask, but in fact, his resistance is great. After being beaten, he will be at a loss and uneasy. Over time, children will become more and more eccentric.

Some parents, who are moody, feel heartache and regret after hitting their children, and even cry with their children in their arms, giving them double material compensation. In this case, the child will feel puzzled at first, but after a long time, he will get used to it. Gradually, children will become moody.

Secondly, there is a good saying, "It is black near Zhu Zhechi and black near Mexico." A good family cultural atmosphere can make children have a good cultural upbringing, develop good personality, ideological morality and behavior habits, and benefit endlessly; At the same time, it will also make family members have a harmonious relationship, a happy mood, a noble goal in life, a high quality of life, and a sense of security and happiness.

Family cultural atmosphere includes material culture and spiritual culture.

In terms of material culture, if economic conditions permit, it is best to have spacious, bright and clean rooms. However, if the room is clean and tidy and properly arranged, it can also form a strong cultural atmosphere, such as calligraphy and painting hanging on the wall (or calligraphy and painting presented by celebrities and friends or created by themselves), maps and photos. There are some famous books and current best-selling books and periodicals on the bookshelf. Whenever possible, be sure to arrange a well-lit, quiet and undisturbed study room for your child, and at least put a desk and a small bookshelf in the corner of the room. It should be recognized that the influence of family cultural environment on children is immeasurable, but now some families desperately pursue the gorgeous decoration of their rooms, and all kinds of high-end furniture and home appliances are available. It doesn't seem advisable to play cards, drink and guess fists at home all day, but there is no sound of reading.

In terms of spiritual culture, the first is to establish civilized and scientific modern family rules and form a civilized and democratic family style. Family rules are not simply to restrain children, but to be observed by the whole family. Parents should set an example by taking the lead. It is necessary to clearly define the rights and obligations of family members and critically inherit traditional family rules. A good family style is a silent command with great power. Second, we should form a democratic and harmonious family atmosphere. Family members should respect each other, love each other, care for each other, be polite, understand and tolerate each other, and don't go overboard or take excessive actions. When dealing with family affairs, family members should negotiate democratically and don't talk empty talk. Parents should respect their children's personality, encourage their children to care about and participate in the handling of family affairs, and often communicate with their children. They are not only their teachers, but also their intimate friends, making family relations more intimate and harmonious. If there are contradictions, properly solve them and avoid unprincipled quarrels and even disputes, which will be out of control. It should be noted that the tyranny of parents can only make children weak, incompetent or unreasonable. Third, we should create a pleasant atmosphere. After work and study, family members may wish to tell stories, stories and jokes together, with humorous language; You can cultivate some good hobbies, such as reading books and newspapers, writing and drawing, planting flowers and grass, playing ball games, going on an outing, playing chess, enjoying music and collecting. , can cultivate temperament, beneficial to physical and mental health. But don't get into bad hobbies, such as gambling, smoking and drinking. Fourth, to love science, families should have an atmosphere of respecting cultural knowledge and science. Be scientific and don't believe in feudal superstitions. We should realize that the illiterate people in the 2 1 century are not illiterate people, but people who don't know modern technology and can't operate computers. Families should have a strong atmosphere of loving, learning and using science, so that families can create useful materials to meet the challenges of the knowledge economy era.

Suhomlinski said: "The intellectual atmosphere of the family is of great significance to the development of children. Children's general development and memory largely depend on their intellectual interests at home, what adults read and think, and what influence they have left on their thoughts. " Rousseau also said: "The fun of family life is the best antidote to the poison of bad atmosphere." It can be seen that a good family cultural atmosphere is very important for cultivating the next generation with cultural education and resisting and purifying the negative cultural influence of society. In a sense, the cultural atmosphere of the family determines the future of children. However, bad family cultural atmosphere will seriously damage children's physical and mental health, as Dewey said: "The imbalance of normal relations in the family is fertile ground for various mental and emotional diseases in the future."

The most important thing for parents is to always pay attention to their image. Children have strong plasticity and imitation, and the characteristics of family education are influence, demonstration and edification, such as parents' clear political stance, strong enterprising spirit, noble pursuit and sentiment, and the spirit of helping others. , can play a demonstration role for children. As the saying goes, show is better than shout. Parents educate their children all the time. Parents educating their children is not just educating their children. Every word and deed of parents is a textbook for children. This is why words and deeds must be combined with example, and example is more important than example.

Third, love, don't bear the burden.

Every parent loves his children, but loving them is not the same as teaching them. On the issue of love and teaching, it leaves us with at least the following thoughts.

Love your son wisely. The key to "loving your child, even a hen" is how to love him. Some parents would rather be mean to themselves, eat three meals a day and let their children eat well; I'd rather let my clothes be mended for three years and let my children dress decently and beautifully. This kind of "humiliation and burden-bearing" love can not only express the kindness of parents, but also bring any benefits to the growth of children.

(2) Teaching children is more important than loving them. It is human nature to love children, but love alone is not enough. The power of parents' love may be immeasurable, but love without education is not true love, but a kind of "injury". Parents in the world must understand that teaching children is more important than loving them. Teach children more humility, tolerance and kindness; Instill more ideals, morals and sentiments; More reason and guidance, this is the real beloved son.

Let children learn to love. It is natural for parents to love their children, and it is even more natural for children to love their parents. Parents should not only care about their children, but also try to make them learn to love. Parents should not only be temperate in their love for their children, but also strive to be rewarded, so that children can learn to love their parents, others, their families, their schools and their motherland in the process of repayment, cultivate their healthy psychology, and make them become modern people with good psychological qualities such as compassion, love and conscience.

Fourth, how to improve students' academic performance?

Some parents are anxious when they see that their children are lax in their studies and their grades are not satisfactory for a while. Some people often complain, scold and even punish their children. This is very wrong. As we all know, the formation of study habits has a process. Pavlov, an outstanding physiologist in the Soviet Union, believes that establishing a habit is to establish a new "dynamic stereotype". The establishment of this "stereotype" is often based on the premise of destroying the previous "stereotype", and this process can not be completed in a short time. What's more, this is especially true for primary school students. It is understandable to be "eager for success" and "hate iron and not produce steel", but it is actually impossible. Therefore, it is necessary to "refine successfully" or "make iron into steel" to have an effect.

So, where should parents start to improve their children's academic performance?

First, catch your homework. It should be stipulated that children must finish their homework after school and must check it. Don't rush your oral homework and review your homework. Children often hate homework.

The reasons are as follows: First, the intelligence level is not high.

In the class, each student's intelligence is different, and their speed and quality of understanding knowledge are also different. Some students spend more time than others on the same amount of homework. Under the present circumstances, teachers tend to give homework to ordinary students. If there is too much homework, they have to spend a lot of time. At this time, if there is no one to help supervise, these students will easily lose confidence and will not dare to do their homework over time.

Second, the purpose of learning is not clear.

Playing is a child's nature. Since the implementation of weekends, students have spent more time on extracurricular activities. If parents only pay attention to their children's work and don't guide them correctly, it is easy for them to indulge in watching TV and forget everything. Some children want to play more, and it takes half an hour to solve their homework in a few days. There are children, have fun first and wait until school the next day. We really can't do our homework in a hurry. The quality of this kind of homework can be imagined, either scrawled or full of mistakes. Therefore, parents should always care about their children's holiday study and urge them to finish their homework on time and with good quality.

Third, weak will.

When students come home from school, it is often the busiest time for every family. The children are eating and playing, so they are unhappy. I wanted to do my homework after dinner. If parents turn on the TV and want to watch TV for a while, some children don't want to do their homework, so they watch TV with relish. As a result, the homework was delayed. The next day, I was anxious and quickly made up my homework. Therefore, parents should set rules for their children, go home from school, do their homework before playing, instead of letting their children go.

Fourth, the influence of emotions.

Psychological research shows that a happy mood is very helpful for children to finish their homework, while a bad family atmosphere will reduce the effect of children's study. For example, children from single-parent families and families with tense family relationships are not as good at doing homework as other children, have poor psychological endurance and are easy to give up. Therefore, parents should create a harmonious learning environment for their children and avoid unpleasant emotions. Even if something goes wrong sometimes, try to exercise restraint to avoid children's mood swings. For children with low intelligence level, parents should help them patiently, instead of reprimanding or even scolding them. Let children finish their homework in a happy situation.

Students can't finish their homework well. Besides the above reasons, there are other objective factors. Therefore, if children don't do their homework seriously, parents should know the reasons in time and carry out targeted education.

Second, grasp the attitude. We need to concentrate, study hard and have the courage to overcome the difficulties in learning. Writing should be neat, clean and accurate, not "anticlimactic" or "dancing with the wind".

Third, grasp skills. Ask questions, do homework, be accurate, be quick, and seek quality quickly; Language expression should be clear, vivid and manual, and oral recitation should be skilled.

Fourth, grasping ability, mainly observation, attention, memory, imagination and thinking ability. We should pay attention to cultivating these abilities in all after-school studies.

Fifth, care about children's weekends.

Now students are not allowed to stay at school to make up lessons on weekends, and many schools can follow. In this way, children do have more spare time, but is this kind of spare time rich? To this end, it is necessary for parents to ask and care about their children's weekends. It is often seen that the business of game halls is particularly prosperous every weekend. If you look carefully, most of the students who are sweating around the game machine are immersed in the movies of cosmic wars and shooting and killing people. Imagine what children can get on such a weekend. On the contrary, some parents attach great importance to their children's weekends. In addition to urging children to complete their learning tasks, they also take them to nature to let them feel the beauty of life and human affection, and at the same time, writing provides a broad source of writing. Therefore, it is necessary for parents to pay special attention to their children on weekends. You may ask:

1. What is your child playing at the weekend?

2. How do your children play on weekends?

3. How do your children play on weekends?

If parents can give proper guidance in these three aspects. Then your children can learn knowledge that books can't, and benefit a lot.

Sixth, there is a high demand for talents in modern society. In the family, it is also necessary to cultivate students' healthy psychological quality and good psychological quality, which can be guided from the following aspects:

First, cultivate children's frustration tolerance.

Today's children, most of whom are only children, grew up under the care of their parents, grandparents, loved by people and everything goes well. Therefore, they lack a resistance to setbacks. Performance is that you can listen to praise, but you can't hear criticism. Occasionally, if you don't do well in the exam, you will be unbearable and lose confidence. Therefore, it is necessary for parents to cultivate their children's frustration tolerance. At home, consciously let the child experience some minor setbacks and encourage him to overcome them himself. For example, when a father plays chess with a child, some fathers deliberately let the child win once for fear that he will cry when he loses. Although the child stopped crying, over time, the child could only win and could not lose again. Some fathers don't. The first time, the child may lose, but the second time, the third time, the situation may change, and the child will try his best to deal with his father. On the surface, it seems to win a game of chess, but in fact, it has cultivated the good quality that the child can not only win, but also lose, laying a good psychological foundation for his future study and life.

Second, cultivate the child's "belly"

In modern families, there is only one child in the family, and the life circle is narrow, which is prone to narrow-minded problems. They often show that they only have themselves in mind and no one else. They often look at their own advantages and others' shortcomings, and even compare their own advantages with others' shortcomings. Therefore, parents must patiently cultivate their children's "endurance", take their children to some public places and let them play games and activities with their classmates. Cultivate children's open-minded, cheerful and optimistic personality in activities, and children will have a good "generosity" when they are young, laying a good psychological foundation for their future study and life, because people who are too desperate are often asking for trouble and will walk into a dead end on a little thing.

Third, cultivate children's initiative.

Today's children, everything is arranged at home, and they don't need their own efforts to make progress. Over time. It is easy for some children to lack initiative. In fact, parents should not neglect to cultivate their children's enterprising spirit, and can start from the following aspects. First of all, affirm the child's talent. For example, when a child confirms to do something, parents should give support and affirmation, believe in the child's talent, and encourage the child to say, "You can do it, you are really great." In this way, children will be greatly encouraged and their determination to make progress can be imagined. Secondly, when the child has some failures, try not to reprimand the child, but patiently and meticulously find the reasons for the child, analyze the situation and determine the improvement methods. Imagine if parents condemn a child for his slight disobedience, where will such a child's enterprising spirit go in the future? Third, parents should encourage especially timid children, and make less criticism or even no criticism, so that they can gradually form the self-confidence psychology of "I can do it" and cultivate their enterprising spirit through hard work.

Fourth, cultivate children's sense of success.

Children are still young and are easily inspired by things that seem small to adults. As everyone knows, the little things contain the joy of children's success. As parents, we should learn to share the joy of children's success. Children have made achievements and made progress, even if they are making a "paper plane" or a "big truck", parents should praise and encourage them appropriately. In this way, their self-confidence is sufficient, their mood is better, and they will strive for higher goals. On the contrary, if parents reprimand them for no reason, they will greatly dampen their children's enthusiasm, become timid and lose confidence, which will affect their future development. As parents, we should see the unique advantages of children, give full play to their specialties, and strive to cultivate their sense of success.

In a word, a person's psychological quality will play an important role in his life. Parents should never neglect the cultivation of good psychological quality when educating their children.

Finally, parents should encourage their children to exercise more.

Sports can make children strong, quick-thinking, coordinated, smart and optimistic, and promote the development of good moral character and thinking quality.

Especially if the child is busy with homework and has a lot of homework, he should be encouraged to take part in sports activities, which can keep him energetic, eliminate fatigue and improve learning efficiency. At the same time, parents and children can participate in sports together, which can enhance parent-child relationship, have more fun and be beneficial to physical and mental health.