Low cognition, bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

This article only talks about personal views from the perspective of daughter-in-law. Welcome to clap bricks.

"Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are natural enemies" is universally recognized. I found that where there are women, there are gossips, QQ groups, WeChat groups, various forums, various bars, girlfriends parties, cafes, offices, streets ... There are not too many contradictions in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which are applicable to all families. Otherwise, women you don't know won't feel the same way.

As a daughter-in-law who has been married for five years, I want to say that the key to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not whether you are good or not, nor whether your mother-in-law is good or not. What matters is the cognitive level of daughter-in-law and mother-in-law.

I was with Ke at the weekend, and I spent the whole afternoon listening to her talk about how her mother-in-law felt. I listened to her for two hours. Love my beautiful weekend ~

Ke said: the mother-in-law only has her son in her eyes, and she is just an outsider. Mother-in-law only washes her son's clothes, not her; Mother-in-law doesn't want to buy food, so she has to get up early to buy food. She often works the night shift, which is very hard. Mother-in-law is not hygienic to her children and likes to use old routines; Mother-in-law prefers her eldest son; When the husband is at home, his mother-in-law will be very diligent. When the son is not at home, he will not do housework and will find fault with her mother-in-law.

I'm tired of listening. Smile and say, is the little princess tired? Have a drink. I can't help talking about other topics. I'm afraid she will talk about it all afternoon. Once, Ke was the goddess in my mind, the wise Lord who carried everything, and often enlightened me. She is definitely a handsome sister. I never thought that such a woman could not escape the drag of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law!

It sounds like the "crimes" that everyone's mother-in-law vomited are similar. Summarize the four major crimes:

First, I only have a son in my eyes, and I don't regard my daughter-in-law as my family.

The second is to rely on the daughter-in-law to sell the old and manage more.

Third, there are many contradictions in taking children's views.

Fourth, there are two sets of attitudes in front of sons and daughters-in-law.

Fifth, the mother-in-law only has a baby in her eyes and doesn't care about her distressed daughter-in-law.

In fact, if you think about it carefully, many of these "sins" seem to be "excusable". Grandma and daughter-in-law are not "family" at all. You just got together, how can you force her to treat you as one of her own in a short time? Even if you are an adopted child, you may have to treat everyone as your own child!

Therefore, we should get rid of the troubles caused by the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and insist on doing two things well.

Daughters-in-law with children should understand that it is human nature for mothers to love children, and this cannot be changed. China's national conditions make it difficult for China children to wean, which requires the wisdom of being a daughter-in-law. Subtly, guide an independent husband. My son has changed and is firm. Even if mother starts to feel uncomfortable, she won't be too persistent. Just get used to it.

Every family has its own "history". Social experience, experience, knowledge and living environment are different, so the family's living habits, ways of doing things and the cognition of family members are different, even very different. The marriage of two people is actually the integration of two families and the collision and running-in of two different values and outlook on life. Running-in and concession take time, patience and tolerance until a new "family" value is finally formed.

It may be wrong for the elderly to rank according to seniority, but we should not be in a hurry to oppose and argue. Home is a place to love, don't be reasonable about everything. Some nagging just needs to be listened to quietly, without approval, and without really expressing opinions and putting them into action. Sometimes when old people are bored, they nag. They just said, we just listened. Smile, harmony but difference, how harmonious.

Children's education is also among the best in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. It is a traditional habit for the elderly in China to take care of their grandchildren, which is determined by the national conditions in China, and we can't compare with foreign countries that became independent at the age of 18. But taking care of children is hard work. First of all, we should thank the old people for their help to the children. Conflicts in educational concepts should be resolved slowly, and we must not forget them. For example, the elderly dress their children too much, so next time you can dress your children before going to work, or tell the elderly that the clothes are ready for the day. I think love is more important than methods in children's education. Don't try to make the old people strictly follow your educational rhythm, which is unrealistic! But they love their children as much as we do, even more. As the saying goes, every generation of relatives is really "afraid of melting in the mouth and falling into the hands."

Money is the last topic in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but it is also a topic that everyone can't live without. Many daughters-in-law have conflicts because of the unfairness of various kinds of money such as bride price, meeting ceremony, kowtowing ceremony and lucky money. Hatred turned into harm. As the saying goes: not suffering from widowhood but suffering from inequality. As the saying goes, a bowl of water can't be leveled. As a new generation of children, we should change our thinking. Try to downplay the reciprocal effect of money and love, instead of turning these trivial things into trivial things and making the whole family uneasy and depressed. The correct attitude is to work harder, make yourself better and better, reassure the elderly, and have the ability to care about money!

As a daughter-in-law, I spent five years exploring the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Keep your distance, grasp the boundaries, and don't cross the line!

When I first got married, I also complained to my husband and friends that my mother-in-law was meddling, which was wrong and bad. To this end, my husband and I have quarreled many times, saying that I am the one who cares about my own affairs, just be myself and pay less attention to the elderly. In fact, I use my own values to measure and evaluate my mother-in-law. With or without me, she is like that, and the way and habit of her accident will not change because of me. I "interfered" in her life invisibly, and I "crossed the line". My mother-in-law is better at this than me. After marriage, we live separately, so she seldom comes to wash clothes and clean for us like other mother-in-law, and she basically doesn't interfere when we quarrel. In this way, it promotes our harmony. So it's important not to cross the line!