Do you want to customize a "perfect life" for your child?

As we all know, everyone's life is different, so what is a "perfect" life?

I happened to see an entertainment program yesterday, and we discussed a very interesting topic: if there is a button, you can customize a perfect life for your child with one click.

I wonder what you think of such a topic?

No parents want their baby to have a perfect life. From birth, to kindergarten, to primary school, junior high school, high school and university, find the other half who really loves TA, and spend a lifetime without being troubled by poverty and disease.

Can you press this button for your child?

Speaking of "perfection", to be honest, no one will refuse perfection, nor are they afraid of perfection, but it is totally unreliable perfection, so forget it. I believe everyone has heard of the saying "it is impossible to drop a pie in the sky". However, if one day, a big pie really falls from the sky and falls right on our children's heads, please imagine what kind of picture it would be. What was your first reaction?

My first reaction is that this is a false advertisement, deceiving, exposing the insidiousness and untruthfulness of the questioner, which is really unreliable. How unreliable is it? Not to mention temporarily unrealistic, even the price is not standard. I came up and asked if I wanted to customize it.

So, today, we analyze this "pie" and this "button" in three parts:

First, who will customize a perfect life for children?

Second, loneliness and emptiness are destined to be the fate of a perfect life.

Third, do you want to spend your life according to your parents' arrangement?

First, let's analyze the first part:

First, who will customize a perfect life for children?

Everyone has their own unique views on the "perfect life", and I believe that 10,000 people will have 10,000 perfect standards. So whose standards should this perfect life be formulated? Life belongs to children, so be sure to ask their opinions. However, my daughter is only 8 years old this year, and TA should not say why.

Of course, I did ask TA what you want to be when you grow up. The daughter replied that she wanted to be a popsicle seller, a snack seller and a stationery seller. Although, there is no distinction between high and low occupations. However, I believe that "these" are far from a perfect life. Therefore, customizing the perfect life can only be done by TA's mother for me.

So, here's the problem. Will the life I preset for her really be consistent with TA when she grows up?

I remember when my daughter was 5 years old and it was TA's birthday. Driven by vanity, I spent more than 800 yuan to buy her a skirt to make her happy. As a result, when people saw the skirt, they asked me why there was no Elsa pattern on the skirt that TA liked. It suddenly occurred to me that she had a skirt, Princess Elsa's long blue veil, in the shopping cart of Taobao, before 58 yuan.

It seems that the perfection in my eyes may be worthless in my daughter's eyes, or even regarded as dirt. So, what will TA's life be like if all of them are set according to my standards?

For example, in terms of dressing, I think a girl should dress up beautifully, let alone dress up like a little princess, but how can she feel a little girly? For example, pink department, lady department and campus style. However, in reality, my daughter just likes gray and black. Well, they are international fashion colors and can never be wrong. There is also style, the so-called standard of little girls of this age, people never like it, and TA thinks it is too naive.

Go on, when your daughter grows up, you have to have a boyfriend, too Since it is a perfect life, the boy who falls in love with my daughter must be perfect. Does Gao Fushuai smell good? However, when her daughter grows up, what she likes is the "future" international aesthetic, which is likely to be: poverty or other standards.

I want to say that perfection is entirely a personal subjective feeling, just customized by others. How contradictory do you think this is? It seems that it is absolutely wrong to customize TA's life for my daughter.

The first part of the analysis, the conclusion is that customized life can not be done by others. Next, let's analyze the second part:

Second, loneliness and emptiness are destined to be the fate of a perfect life.

Ask yourself again, if this is not a false advertisement, if there is such an opportunity, are you willing to take your daughter to the peak of t a's life with one click? I think that such a perfect life, loneliness and emptiness are destined to be its destiny.

1, say loneliness first.

Speaking of family ties. My dear daughter, maybe TA will lose her affection. Because, how to allow a perfect life without perfect parents? In real life, my father TA and I live in the same bag, and there is no way to give our daughter a warm and harmonious family, far from perfection. What shall we do? Either, let TA's father find a perfect new mother for TA; Either transform TA dad, but if I can transform, do I still need to feel bad? So from this perspective, the perfect piece about TA's parents can't be touched at all.

What is the perfect mother like? The soul has its own fragrance. What about me? The soul has been stupid. Rare weekends, but don't let me sleep late; If you don't want to find an excuse to be lazy after dinner, you must wash the dishes at once ... If you don't do this, don't let me, just take me back to my mother's womb with one click. However, even if I go back to the furnace for reprocessing, this mother may not be a perfect mother.

If you shoot this button, it is equivalent to an eternal insurance. Yes, it brought a perfect life to her daughter, but it also brought negligence and carelessness. Why, since it is a "perfect life", it will eventually land perfectly anyway, and there is no danger. For example, if my daughter is ill, I won't be nervous, because the mystery must be inside, because there is a perfect life. Maybe it's better to restart the disease. Why are you still treating her? It may also disturb the compulsory courses of others' robbery.

For another example, even if my daughter and grandma TA fell into the river at the same time, I saved grandma TA; My daughter and I fell into the river. Grandma TA must have saved me, too. Even if your daughter cries for help in the river, don't worry, be calm! Because, how can you let your daughter die in Perfect Life?

Is this a normal family relationship? No one hurts her daughter when she is sick, and no one saves her when she falls into the water. In a sense, TA has lost family ties.

Speaking of affection, let's talk about love. Falling in love with someone must not be because of how perfect TA is, but because TA is different. I can't tell exactly what I like about TA. It's love anyway, and there's nothing I can do.

Buttons are customized for different lovers. Regardless of appearance, figure, personality, emotional intelligence and financial quotient, it is a perfect standardized "product" in all aspects, just like KFC, a world chain, and it is the same everywhere. In the plots of those idol series, the overbearing president always falls in love with Cinderella. Why? Because perfect people are allowed to be mean. And my daughter lives in the perfect life of TA, living in the clouds. TA doesn't even have a chance to be Cinderella.

However, daughters are also born as human beings. How can you undersTAnd what love is unless ta is low enough in the dust?

After talking about affection and love, let's talk about friendship. When can friendship in real life come in handy? When something bothers you, ask a few friends to go out together, sing karaoke, drink too much, and even call names; When you are lovelorn, you will ask your best friend out, chat with TA heartily, drink too much and relax.

To tell you a secret, there is another effective way to test a good friend, that is, borrow money from a friend, and you will get the answer if you borrow money twice.

But if we live a perfect life, we don't need money. Of course, we don't need to have problems with our friends, because no one needs to help anyone. Perfect life, where do you get troubles, no chance to be short of money, no chance to be upset, no chance to be lovelorn. What do friends talk about together? My daughter told her best friend that I just earned 1 billion lying down, and her best friend said, yes, me too. I want to ask, if the friendship in a perfect life is so boring, if it is just to show off unnecessary friendship, is it still a friendship?

Family, love, friendship and daughter are all gone. How lonely it is to be a "lone star in Dreadwind"! To this, I can only say: well done!

Is this all that her so-called perfect life has to bear? No, don't forget, besides endless loneliness, there is emptiness waiting for TA.

Next, let's talk about space.

In my daughter's perfect life, TA has a whitening face, long legs, excellent academic performance, good personality and everything, all of which are done by my mother TA with one click. We can all accept that, somehow, it is our own master, but who can accept that, somehow, it is my mother? TA's mother is a god-like existence. TA can achieve all-round perfection without hard work and struggle, and has no sense of accomplishment and existence. Is TA crying or laughing about this?

But in any case, feeling empty is certain.

After the second part is finished, I think children will be tortured by loneliness and emptiness in the so-called good life. As a mother, "heartache" is inevitable. Next, let's analyze the last part:

Third, do you want to spend your life according to your parents' arrangement?

Because every child is born, parents will unconsciously set keywords for them, which is actually what parents expect of their children. When I was a child, the key word was obedient. I am like an orchid in a greenhouse. I was raised in a honey pot since I was a child. Although my brother and sister are only one year and two years older than me, TAs are letting me go everywhere. I was born with a clever personality, and my parents gave me full care. And my home is the warmest, most democratic and most harmonious model family in the world.

Including studying in Russia, during the whole five years, most students are starting businesses one after another, but my parents have always told me that you don't need to make money, studying hard is better than anything else! So, I obeyed, and finally graduated with excellent results and returned to China. In the same year, students who have been running around for business also returned to China. Some of them neglected their studies for business, some made big money in business, and some lost their lives. However, what you lose is what you gain. Those students who have received business training and have no way out at home after returning to China have all gone directly to Beijing to develop, continue to start businesses in the Yabao Road market and continue to accumulate wealth.

After I returned to China, I found a job easily through my father's relationship and plunged into the tourism industry for more than 20 years. At the same time, I lost the opportunity to go to Beijing for development, and of course I lost the opportunity to stay in Beijing. Those students who went to Beijing for development accumulated wealth through their own efforts, and then immigrated to the United States and Canada.

I just followed my parents' keywords and stayed with them all the time. I have always believed that my parents love me so much. However, perhaps all along, from small to large, my every step has gone too smoothly. Growing up in such a happy family, I can't imagine that I will encounter an unfortunate marriage in a few years.

Maybe everyone has their own life. In this way, I accepted this life arrangement according to the life trajectory given by my parents, and then I became what I am today. Now, I have many regrets in my heart. Except myself, who can really feel what I want to do and the opportunity I stole to exercise myself?

Well, I've said so much about the analysis of pies and buttons.

Now, it's my turn to summarize and make a decisive decision. Think again, do you want to press this button to customize the perfect life of TA for your beloved daughter?

About the setting of keywords. I gave birth to my daughter. Happiness, freedom and health are the key words I set for Ta. I hope she can spend her life according to her own ideas and become the person she wants to be according to TA's ideas. It doesn't have to be perfect, or even good enough.

If a parent sets a perfect keyword for his child, then I advise you to modify it as soon as possible. Change anything, as long as it's not perfect.

Because, the pursuit of perfection, but life is bitter, because there are always unsatisfactory places. Only by focusing on what you really want to do can you let go of what you can't get.

I have thought about today's topic-whether to customize the "perfect life" for our children. I refused to steal my daughter's life.

So, if there is such a button in front of me, I will never press it.