Do the characters in I Want to See You love you because of inferiority complex?

Anyone who has seen I Want to See You will feel that this is an unspeakable secret+your name+signal+two favorite combinations. The plot twists and turns suspense, but at the same time constantly sprinkle sugar, but also admire the logic and brain hole of the screenwriter.

We will find that the heroines Chen Yunru and Mo belong to the avoidant attachment type, while He belongs to the safe attachment type.

Although Huang Yuxuan and Chen Yunru are similar in appearance, their personalities are completely opposite.

Chen Yunru has always been a loner. In her own world, she is not used to being close to others, and even the other party will avoid being nice to herself. Over time, people around her will think that she is eccentric and withdrawn, so she will stay away. She is used to all this, because for her, she doesn't know how to get along with others, and she prefers to be alone. Compared with joining a group, it will only make her feel uncomfortable, which is a kind of internal friction behavior.

On the other hand, although her brother shows that he hates himself, she will wake him up and buy him breakfast. This kind of behavior is a bit nice and close to the relationship. At least, it doesn't want the relationship between the two sides to become so stiff. It also means to please, which means that she also needs a partner, rather than really liking someone. But she won't take the initiative to express her thoughts and feelings, let alone ask others how to treat herself. All the grievances can only be held back by herself.

Her personality has a lot to do with her family background. Her parents are at odds, her father prefers boys to girls, and her mother has no time to take care of her family because of her livelihood. Although her brother loves her sister, he doesn't know how to express his concern. I want her to be taken care of by her family in a way that he hates and doesn't like Chen Yunru. I think only in this way can parents focus on her.

However, Chen Yunru's character has long been accustomed to sense motive. As long as she feels that the other person is a little disgusted and bored with her performance, she will feel that the problem is all on herself and that she has brought trouble to others. Became a burden to others? Therefore, she will form a kind of pseudo-independence, which will make others feel that they don't need others' help and closeness, will not bother others, and will not be annoying.

Because of his own defects, Mo Jie Jun once fell into inferiority when he was a child, and was regarded as a different kind by his classmates, and was constantly rejected by others, which led him to be unable to get along with others and had to be alone.

He will like Chen Yunru because he sees his own shadow in her, so he will feel the same way and know that she needs to understand and care, but he only dares to pay attention to it silently and dare not approach it.

Because the characteristics of avoidant attachment personality are reflected in social and intimate relationships, they don't know how to establish intimate relationships with others, and they don't know how to get along with others, so they will be a little exclusive when establishing intimate relationships with others, so they will make others feel that they are all cold. Even if the two sides have a good impression, or are already lovers, once they develop further, they don't know what to do, so they disappear or break up.

Don't communicate with others when you meet something, just avoid the problem. When you meet someone you like, you will only hide in the dark and observe. Even if you kill yourself, you won't be closer and you don't know how to express your feelings. Even if you like it again, you won't take the initiative. You need others to actively express your feelings, so you are also the most difficult group to get rid of. It is impossible to chase, and it is impossible to chase.

Don't think they need to be beaten, because they are sensitive and afraid of being hurt, and naturally they are afraid of being rejected, so in order to avoid being hurt, they will avoid all possibilities, that is, they will not let it start. This is why you are used to avoiding others when you are good to yourself. Unless you are very firm and always treat him well, you will make him think that you are not hot for three minutes. Once you feel your sincerity and sincerity in lasting contact, you will gradually approach you.

Because of the strong sense of boundaries and appropriate limits, you can't touch their bottom line, otherwise you will be automatically excluded and alienated. You may not say it, but you will feel obviously alienated in your behavior.

Mo Jie Jun will choose to pay attention silently, that is, she doesn't want to give her pressure, instead of changing her present situation, thinking that this is her most comfortable state.

Li Ziwei and Huang Yu Xuan are the same kind of people. They are independent, confident, and dare to do things. In the face of injustice and inequality, he dares to fight. Sometimes he thinks they are heartless and don't care about other people's eyes. At the same time, they are good at taking care of the emotions and feelings of people around them. On the contrary, two identical people can produce * * * sounds, and it is easy to understand each other.

Huang Yuxuan is a little more refined than Li Ziwei. Such people can see through each other's disguised strength and indifference, but also know how to protect their self-esteem and guidance. These characteristics attracted Li Ziwei and became the person that Chen Yunru wanted to be the most, so it was natural for Chen Yunru to like Li Ziwei and want to be Huang Yuxuan.

Safe people don't reject intimacy, but also like to be attached to others. They will not be impatient because their partners are clingy. When they encounter problems, they will communicate with you, negotiate solutions together, understand other people's feelings, take the initiative to approach and provide emotional value. They don't need you to teach them how to love you and how to contact you. After getting along, they will know how to love you, so this type of people is very suitable for people who avoid attachment, because they will know how to give them personal space and do things in a measured way.

If Chen Yunru wants to keep Li Ziwei, he thinks that he is a beam of light that illuminates his life and is also his lifeline.

Because of Li Ziwei, she is no longer lonely. She can feel warm and know that someone cares about her feelings actively. At this time, she will be eager to be recognized and hope that the other person likes herself, which is also the reason why she can't like Mo, because the two people are so alike that Chen Yunru can't accept herself, so how can she like Mo?

People with low self-esteem are eager to be recognized by others, especially those they care about and like, so she will do a lot of things to please and cater to each other in order to make them like herself, which is why she will pretend to be Huang Yuxuan later.

It is said that everyone is Chen Yunru, but everyone wants to be Huang Yuxuan, because everyone is eager for beauty and wants to be a shining and popular person.

If you are Chen Yunru, you don't need to feel inferior and don't deserve to be loved. Remember that everyone has the right to be loved. Some people don't know how to love themselves because they have never felt love, so how do they know how to love others?

We all need to learn how to manage and maintain love or need to be led. If your favorite TA is an avoidant attachment personality, I hope you can tell whether the other person is scum or hard to love, and then learn how to understand TA and how to love TA, and don't let TA be afraid of being loved again.