On the first day of marriage, her mother-in-law called names. What should I do?

It is not difficult for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along, but sincerity is the key!

Whether it's a mother-in-law or a daughter-in-law, if you can treat each other sincerely and don't speculate too much about each other's bad ideas, you can treat each other as your own relatives. Happy is happy, unhappy is unhappy. There is no need to hide and suppress your emotions. I think it will be easier for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along.

Many times, in the concept of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the other party is not their own relatives and has no blood relationship. So I always feel that I have no excuse, and I dare not say a lot directly. Many things are afraid to do directly, and there are often too many worries and worries. Once you agree with yourself, your feelings will be alienated, and then contradictions will gradually arise.

If the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, like mother and daughter, don't care so much, are very direct, know each other well, or are not too worried about each other's anger, the relationship will often be more transparent. The mother-in-law only needs to treat her daughter-in-law as her own child, and the daughter-in-law should directly treat her mother-in-law as her own parents. Although she is not related by blood, you are close because of her marriage with her son. In this way, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be less.

The root of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that expectations and gains are not equal. One party thinks that the other party should be kind to itself, but the other party has failed to live up to the expectations of the other party, resulting in loss, which will be interpreted as that the other party does not care enough about itself, does not kiss, regards itself as an enemy, an outsider, and so on. This strengthens dissatisfaction and deepens contradictions.

I once met a clever mother-in-law, a very young mother-in-law. We call her Han Chun. She is over 50 years old. She looks young because of her good attitude. She laughs with people all day and gets along well with her neighbors. Such a mother-in-law, when her son got married, did something that made people sweat but couldn't help but praise, and was mentioned from time to time.

Han Chun had a hard time when his son got married. But at that time, the girl, that is, the daughter-in-law, had no problem with her son and wanted to marry her family. Otherwise things may be more troublesome. It is because of the daughter-in-law's heart that she has obeyed her in-laws' arrangement in many things.

At that time, Han Chun almost gave up after her in-laws demanded a bride price of 500,000 yuan. She was very angry. She said, it's not without 500 thousand, but what's the point of asking for a bride price of 500 thousand If you don't live by the day, you can't give this bride price at all. If you calculate by the day, you don't need this 500 thousand. She said she had money, but it was all because she invested in business and occupied funds. Children don't have that much budget when they get married. So, she was angry. If the girl's parents insist on a bride price of 500 thousand, she can't afford to marry. Either continue to wait or break up. Later, the girl quarreled with her parents and felt that she was asking too much. The matchmaker also told her again. Finally, the bride price is200,000.

Later, when they got married, Han Chun was full of resentment and dissatisfaction. Han Chun thinks that a daughter-in-law is a good daughter-in-law, her parents and her in-laws, which is a bit unreasonable. On the wedding day, my son set up many obstacles and hung colorful notes because of the girl's family's face. He had difficulties to solve. The groom is introverted and has many difficulties before meeting the bride. This made Han Chun feel very uncomfortable. She felt that her children had been wronged. And when I came back to study, I felt that the new queen's house was too much. But this young mother-in-law, angry, feels that she married her daughter-in-law, and others are making trouble. That's someone else's business, and she doesn't care about that. As long as the daughter-in-law is married, she will live a good life.

Han Chun is actually very smart. Although he is used to talking and laughing, he is still very opinionated and dares to speak when things happen. On the night of her son's wedding, when all the guests left, only their families were there. At that time, my daughter didn't leave and lived at her parents' house. The family eats together and chats together. Han Chun said directly to his daughter-in-law. She called the name of her daughter-in-law and said:

"Small core, you and Xiao Wei got married today, and our whole family is very happy. No matter what unpleasantness you encountered before, it's all over. Let's not talk about it. Say something first. I want to talk to you and Xiao Wei. "

Han Chun's words immediately made the family nervous. After listening to these words, I feel like I was shocked by my new wife. Don't say a word, everyone. Listen to her. She went on to say:

"You today, married to our home, is our family. I will treat you as my child and my daughter. I will treat you wholeheartedly, you can rest assured. In addition, if there is anything wrong with my son, bullying you and being bad for you, you can tell me directly and I will read it. If he is wrong, I will discipline him. What is wrong with me? If you feel wronged, you can tell me directly and I will change it. But I don't allow you to show me your face or your face. I'm afraid to see whose face I am. If you have something to say, don't worry. I hope our family can live in harmony, be happy and live a happy life! "

My daughter-in-law later said that I felt very nervous when I heard her mother-in-law say those words. I feel that I am ringing the alarm bell, and I feel very uncomfortable. However, on second thought, what my mother-in-law said is also reasonable. Actually, that's what she wants to say. Although it is a bit straightforward, when it comes to heart, she also wants to get along well with her mother-in-law. So at that time, she was very moved and her heart was warm. I was moved to tears, but I dare not say too much because I am not familiar with it. I just nodded, and then went directly to my mother-in-law, with tears in my eyes, and said, "Mom, I know. Don't worry, Xiao Wei and I will have a good time. Won't make you angry. " The family is very harmonious and warm.

In fact, after this incident came out, everyone was very worried about Han Chun, saying that if they met an unreasonable daughter-in-law, they would make trouble with her, and just married, they would "speak malicious words", which ordinary women could not stand. In fact, from then on, their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law got along very well. Relatives and friends often see her daughter-in-law holding Han Chun's arm and shopping outside, which makes people mistakenly think that it is mother and daughter. This relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law envies many people and praises Han Chun for her cleverness!

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You see, sometimes, isn't it easy for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along? Although it is really difficult to make two unrelated women become mother and daughter, it is not impossible. As long as you are sincere to each other, don't worry too much, be open-minded, treat each other as your own relatives, communicate more and communicate more directly, and you will get along well slowly. Although sometimes, people are different, but their feelings are the same. If you respect me one foot, I will pay you back one foot. True feelings can warm relationships.