How to host rural affairs?

The custom in Shouguang, Shandong Province is roughly like this. In the morning before the Xiao family has a meal, the gentleman who knows etiquette, referred to as Lisheng, takes the eldest son to thank the neighbors and thank the neighbors for helping with the funeral.

At noon, the waiter is arranged at the counter. The outer counter is responsible for keeping accounts and collecting the ritual gifts, which are cash. Then the rites lead the guests to pay homage to the deceased. The elders call "Hou Ke", and the juniors call "Goodbye guest" and "Xiao Family" Bowing and wailing for company. When the coffin was raised, the Lisheng held up the kitchen knife and shouted, "The kitchen knife is shining brightly, I will bear the responsibility for the deceased, good luck and good fortune, happy funeral."

Then the volunteers carried the urn out of the house to the street, and then the eldest son threw a basin, tore up the funeral notice, and carried the coffin to the cemetery in tears.

Something is omitted, etiquette. . . I hope my friends will forgive me.

Question: What do you call a rural hostess?

In rural areas, when an elderly person dies, the villagers will come to help with the funeral. Among the people who help, there must be a general manager to handle all matters in the funeral, big or small. The head of the family is A filial son only needs to kneel in front of the soul and cry with relatives and friends who come to pay homage, kowtow to relatives and friends and offer filial piety clothes. Everything else is left to the general manager.

After the general manager arranged for the deceased to be placed on the bed, the first step was to send people to report the funeral. Then there was the matter of drawing orders, sending people to buy groceries, and setting up accounts.

But the steward is the steward, not the host of the funeral etiquette. The steward is one level lower than the steward. The steward presides over all the funeral affairs. The steward only takes care of the etiquette before the funeral, the filial sons and those who come to pay their respects. Relatives and friends must listen to the command of the host. The host presides over the performance of filial sons and relatives and friends by shouting in front of the soul.

In the mourning shed, the male and female filial sons kneeled on the left and right sides of the coffin respectively. The host was on the left side in front of the coffin. When he saw anyone coming to pay homage, he shouted to the filial sons: "Guest condolence" ! All the filial sons fell down in a hurry. If a male guest came, the male filial sons would cry with him; if a female guest came, the female filial sons would cry with him.

When the mourner knelt in front of the soul and cried three times, the host shouted: "Please"! The mourner stopped crying, stood up and pushed the golden mountain and fell the jade pillar to bow. Then he knelt down and kowtowed to the spirit. After kowtowing four times, the host shouted to the filial sons: "Return the gift!" The filial sons hurriedly kowtowed to the mourner in return, ending the funeral of the mourner.

If the person who comes to condole is an official or a filial son’s classmates and colleagues, they will not kneel down and cry, but only salute, and the host will shout: "Guest condolence"! All the filial sons lay down, and then the host shouted to the mourners: "One bow! Two bows! Three bows! One more bow! The ceremony is over." Turn around and shout to the filial sons: "Repay the gift!"

During the enshrinement, the host shouted: "Please watch the last scene, dear relatives"! When the coffin was being closed, the host shouted: "The filial son offers his axe, and asks the worldly relatives to strike the ballast!" The family members took the ax in turn and hammered four nails into each tree.

On the day of the funeral, there is a ceremony of farewell, farewell, or road-setting ceremony. The guest who presides over the farewell ceremony and road-setting ceremony for the deceased is this way: "The relatives and friends of the deceased salute in front of the funeral." "!

The relatives and friends of the guest came forward one by one, and the host lit a stick of incense and handed it to the relatives and friends. The relatives and friends put the stick of incense in their hands and put it in the incense burner. Then the host shouted: "Kneel down! Bow! Kowtow once! Kowtow twice! Kowtow three times." ! Kowtow again!” Turn around and shout to all the filial sons: "Repay the gift!"

When it was time for the burial, the host shouted: "Please come forward and see the coffin position"! When the relatives are satisfied, they each grab a handful of soil and sprinkle it on the coffin. Then each of the filial sons grabs a handful of soil and sprinkles it on the coffin. During the burial, the presiding officer will raise the soul-guiding flag three times, and his duties are over.

These are what the rural host should shout.

Speech by the Host in Rural Affairs

A broken mirror is a dream that is hard to come true. Farewell relatives, hard-to-continue love!

Dear guests, good evening to all relatives and friends! Today is the day when Mr. xx passed away. Here, we, Oriental Performing Arts Company, are invited by Gui Fu. Coming with a very heavy heart. Here, on behalf of all our actors, I would like to express my deep condolences for the passing of Mr. xx! And express my most sincere respect to every relative and friend who came to mourn! Mr. xx left us on xx, month xx, XX! He was at the age of 75 years old!

People have joys and sorrows, and the moon waxes and wanes. In this world, there is inevitably life, death, separation, and union. Although Mr. xx is far away from us, his voice, appearance and smile will always remain in the hearts of us and his children and grandchildren. The life of Mr. xx is a glorious life! It is a life of diligence and thrift! He has selflessly dedicated his whole life to the land that raised him.

And he has set up an immortal monument in this hot land! Life is as gorgeous as spring flowers, and death is as quiet and beautiful as autumn leaves! This is also a glorious portrayal of the life of Mr. xx!

Here, I also hope Dear sons and grandsons, my condolences. Turn sadness and pain into motivation to inherit Mr. xx’s unfinished legacy during his lifetime and carry forward the family! I also believe that the spirit of Mr. xx in heaven will bless all relatives and friends.

White things in various places The customs are all different! When someone dies here, the family invites a person who understands etiquette to preside over the funeral. People respectfully call him "Sir", and this "Sir" has the final say over the entire funeral. Before the funeral, dutiful men and women would wrap filial piety cloth on their heads and circle around the deceased three times. Then they would burn incense and paper money for the deceased.

The time of mourning is decided by "Sir". When the time comes, "Sir" will shout: "The sun rises in the east and sets in the west. The deceased will not return to his hometown once he is gone. Please help your neighbors, relatives and friends to stay up late and endure the night." Xiangbang. I am worried about the important things in the hall. There are four square tables for eight guests. There is no good food and no good food. Please forgive me." I heard the meaning of this sentence. "Sir" was thanking all the brothers who helped the deceased on behalf of the deceased.

The next step is the burial. We have the custom of sweeping mines here. "Sir" takes a leaf and sweeps it back and forth, and then reads loudly: "On a good day, the heaven and earth are open, Mr. Baihe is here, Become a grave sweeper for a bereaved family: sweep A and B wood from the east, sweep out the living souls of A and B wood, and sweep the souls of the dead into the coffin; sweep Bing and Ding fire from the south twice, sweep out the souls from the south fire, sweep the dead into the coffin, sweep three times from the west, and sweep the souls of the dead into the coffin. Sweep the north, sweep five the center, these directions are the same, sweep six to sweep out the living souls of helpers and others, sweep in the dead, sweep seven to sweep out the souls of people passing by, sweep in the souls of dead, sweep eight to sweep pigs, sheep, cattle and horses, and sweep birds and animals. The soul is swept out, the dead soul is swept in, the nine-sweeping sweep sweeps away the soul of Erlang, the living soul is swept out, the dead soul is swept in, the living soul goes up to the blue sky miao miao, the dead soul miao miao enters the well coffin, since today, after the earth is sealed, the descendants and grandchildren will be the number one scholar from generation to generation." These words hope that the deceased can rest in peace and that the living can be happy and healthy.

Generally speaking, this is what we call Bai Shi.

In order to welcome the guests and friends who came to express their condolences, the bereaved family decided to set up a mourning shed at the entrance of the main room. The coffin of the deceased was placed in the main door. The filial daughter was in the house, and the filial boy knelt on both sides of the funeral shed. An enlarged photo of the deceased is hung at the door. There is a coffin table under the photo. There is a host on the left and right sides of the coffin table. There are also two hosts outside the coffin. When guests and friends express their condolences, the host outside the coffin loudly shouts: The guest paying homage has arrived. , the host in the shed replied loudly: Thank you in advance. So the kneeling male filial piety raised his mourning stick and kowtowed to the mourner to show his gratitude. After the guests finished their salutes, the host outside the shed gently pulled up the guests and friends, while the host inside the shed shouted: Return the gift. So the guests and friends bowed to each other, and the dutiful son raised his staff and kowtowed. The ceremony is over.

The subject of the title is a big problem, as the fourteen "friends" said before; although the way of hosting the funeral, the style of hosting, customs and many other factors achieve the same purpose, the forms are diverse change. Take us in Suqian, northern Jiangsu, for example: No matter who is hosting weddings or funerals, they are all called "Da Zong", which means that on the official day, the power of the Da Zong is above all else. Whether they are the victims or the helpers, they must obey the Da Zong's orders. arrange. The boss has the greatest power on this day!

Of course, whether you are called a boss or a host, you must first have the ability to adapt to changes, as well as local customs and long-term accumulated experience in weddings and funerals. In fact, the new term is "waiting". . For example, at what time are guests allowed to eat, at what time are filial sons allowed to pay their respects during the banquet, at what time are mourners invited, at what time are the clerks allowed to carry the coffins, at what times are the funerals performed at temples, and in some large houses, to show off the large number of people? First, the mourning ceremony is held, and then one goes to the temple to say goodbye. Finally, one breaks the earth temple and prays to ask the earth god to register the deceased, and many other funeral customs are ignored. The coffin is on its way, and the task of serving the ceremony is not completed until the coffin is placed in the "golden well".

Then again, the rules change every ten miles, and every place has its own customs. As far as service is concerned, academic qualifications and the number of occasions experienced are the factors that determine the evaluation of the host.

This may vary from place to place, but the gifts are similar.

It is divided into three stages: front, middle and last.

Before, it means that before a person dies, the supplies needed after death must be prepared. In Xindang Village, Nanhe Town, Xiangshui County, we must prepare wooden doors, benches and reed mats, reeds and the body of the deceased. Clothes, bricks, white cloth the dead man's coat. The door panels need to be divided into the upper door for men and the lower door for women (some people no longer have double wooden doors.) Just be the door.

In the middle, it means the person dies until the funeral.

When a person is about to die, he should first put on his old clothes and tighten his white cloth belt (from head to toe). Made of mulberry wood. A layer of reeds is placed on the door, and a reed mat I is placed on it. The deceased is laid flat on it, with the man's head on top and the woman's head on the bottom. (How many situations are there?

丨, if parents are present, the bench cannot be erected.

2. Those who remarry and return are leaning against the wall.)

For those who have a daughter to open the practice hall, thread the paper with a red thread, connect one end of the thread to the dog cake and put it on the hand of the dead person. The paper is lit outside the door and burned. (One hall is seven (forty ounces)) and then put the deceased's coat above the door. .Invite the principal to the factory.

I’m afraid you’ll be unhappy if I talk too much.

After reading the title, it seems that you want to be a funeral emcee.

The funeral process is so complicated that it would take you a whole day to explain it, so I would like to briefly explain it to you.

Funeral: When someone dies, all funeral arrangements must be taken care of. Burying the dead person in an old grave is the funeral process.

Funeral instructions: When a person is about to die, his or her children should stay by their side and wait quietly. (No matter what happens, no matter what happens). Don't cry. First, ask someone to get a haircut, take a bath, wash your feet and cut your nails. Then the Qing people put on clothes. All the old clothes are replaced. There are three layers of thin, medium and thick inside and outside. There are five-piece suits and seven-piece suits. The outer clothes are all green. Blue, no need to buckle, need to tie with rope. Clothes must be worn before death. After a person dies, his children will mourn and wail. Then some tribesmen began to help. From then on, filial sons had to go to the hut to watch over the deceased. The mourner was arranged by the tribe, but filial sons could not leave the hut.

There are many things to do afterwards, such as: funeral stickers. One, pre-invitation post from the supervisor, two, pre-invitation post with courtesy, three pre-invitation post (there are too many, none of which will be described in detail), four, pre-invitation post, fifth, pre-invitation post with chief officer, six, pre-invitation post Post on the shelf, seven, please post on the mourning shed, eight, please post on the Prime Minister, nine, please post on the second master, ten, hold a road memorial ceremony, eleven, open the hanging paper, twelve, please post on Mr. Yin Yang, thirteen, thank you Chief official's formalities.

Type of postcards:

First, ask relatives and friends to use the postcards for the start of the event; second, please accompany guests during the funeral; third, send commemorative posts to the mother’s family; fourth, thank you for the funeral. .

Another example is divination: the form of funeral of father and ancestor, the form of funeral of father and mother, the funeral ceremony of announcing the death of parents, the funeral ceremony of parents' death without announcement, the funeral ceremony of brothers, and the obituary announcement of parents' funeral. , how to write obituaries for men and women, various titles for in-laws and filial sons in funerals, etc.

Another example is the explanation of the funeral, which is too complicated to be described.

Today we only talk about the fact that after a person dies, the filial son invites the chief officer, deacon, second master, minister of etiquette and master of ceremonies (presiding the ceremony). All funeral procedures are presided over by the master of ceremony and carried out step by step according to the rules. I will not discuss the above complicated items, but just start with the emcee. The first was the flag-raising ceremony, which is no longer available now, no matter what. On the second day of the temple ceremony, a master of ceremonies leads the filial son and daughter-in-law into the family temple or ancestral hall, or burns incense and paper on the tomb to cry out their feelings. (Not much to say). The third is tomb-sweeping. The daughter-in-law goes to the tomb to offer sacrifices and kowtow (not detailed).

The following key points:

1. Burn paper. Before the burial is completed, guests, relatives, friends, neighbors, clan members and filial sons perform the funeral together. The ceremony is sung by the master of ceremonies: The filial son comes out of the house, and the deacons perform their duties. The filial son comes forward and takes his place, and the filial son and his relatives and friends step forward, kneel, fire cannons, light the guns, and play music. The deacons burn incense paper, and the filial son wails loudly. After crying and mourning, the filial piety performs the ceremony of kneeling to the soul of the deceased: kowtow once, kowtow again, kowtow three times, the filial son stands up, and the filial son bows once, bows again, and bows three times. When he is in peace and contentment, his filial son enters the house and withdraws from his duties.

The second step is to enshrine (put into the coffin), that is, to put the person into the coffin and offer sacrifices.

The master of ceremonies sings: There are deacons, all filial sons and relatives and friends take their seats, each filial son, filial daughter-in-law and filial daughter support the deceased body into the coffin, the eldest son holds the head, the youngest holds the feet, and the daughter-in-law supports the body and lays it to rest. In the coffin. The master of the ceremony sang about filial piety, which means that children should beautify and wash the face of the dead soul, straighten it up, touch the mouth, touch the face, and touch the eyes, while the uncle listens carefully. Each filial son comes out of the cottage, and the filial son approaches. The deacons each perform their duties and line up in line. The filial son kneels, fires cannons and fires twenty-four guns, and plays music. The filial son rises and enters the cottage. He pays homage to the remains of his deceased father or mother and mourns with them in the coffin. , each looking around three times, upright and down, the deacon nailed the coffin, and the filial son held the coffin and cried bitterly. Sad to stop. The filial son leaves the house, returns to his position, and the sacrifice begins. The first item of sacrifice is offered, the cannon is fired and the gun is fired (twenty-four shots), and the music starts. Happy to stop. In the second item, a filial son asked Mr. XX to offer a memorial service to the souls of the deceased, accompanied by mourning music. The third item is to burn large paper.

The deacons fired the cannons, lit the guns, and played music. The filial son came forward to burn incense paper for the souls of the dead, and stood up to enter the class. All dutiful sons have to kneel down, kowtow four times, kowtow once, kowtow again, kowtow three times, kowtow four times, the dutiful son gets up, the dutiful son bows once, kowtows again, and kowtows three times. Straighten your body, kneel again, and mourn for three minutes. The mourning stops, and you stand up. The joy stops. The filial son enters the house and withdraws from the class.

Third, the funeral (coffin) is on the road.

The master of ceremonies sings: The deacons perform their duties, stand near, fire cannons and light guns, music starts, the deacons hold the incense pot, remove the incense burner, remove the incense table, the deacon holds the incense pot on the head of the filial son, The deacons carry the coffin out of the house and into the shelf, the deacons move the coffin out of the house, the filial son throws the coffin into the old basin, the funeral ceremony is completed, the coffin goes on the road, and the filial son mourns.

The rest is the road ceremony, in which the chief officer delivers a eulogy, describing the hardships, difficulties and achievements of his life, lamenting his grief and indignation at the loss of his elders, soothing the souls of the deceased and wishing them good health on the road. Paradise Aetna.

Let’s not discuss the meal ceremony, road ceremony, funeral ceremony, round-grave ceremony, etc. anymore.

I heard the old man talk about how the hostess of the old society hosted the wedding. At that time, the host was called a drinker. Only wealthy families would hire a drinker to host it to show their nobility. What are the presiding provisions of the ritual recitation? Because most of the old people are illiterate, they don't know what he is reciting. They only know that the filial son is required to kowtow again and again, and then the filial wife must also kowtow.

This is the situation of the officiant in the old society.

Now the officiant in rural areas is called a deacon in our country. The deacon is responsible for bowing and praying to the guests who come to express their condolences. After that, they are responsible for instructing relatives and friends in a certain place to pay homage in order. After the remembrance is completed, the coffin is carried to the cemetery for burial.

In rural areas, there are slight differences in rural areas.

My hometown shouts the most. When distinguished guests come to pay their respects, a middle-aged man who understands etiquette will be in charge of arranging the pick-up and drop-off of the guests and friends. First of all, the guests and friends were welcomed to the front door, and their numbers were announced loudly. All the relatives and friends came to pay their respects, and filial sons and grandsons lined up to greet them. After the farewell ceremony, the farewell ceremony is held (the guests and friends step aside for the time being, because there are too many guests and friends, so they can only be divided among them). The most people sing and drink when the bin is released! Once the ceremony is over, the host's family is waiting for dinner. Drink before meals: All relatives and friends come to pay your respects! The host's reception was poor and the guests were not treated well! The table is high! The pedal is low! There is more soup and less vegetables in the bowl! Not well prepared! Not ready! I hope all my relatives and friends will bear with me! Please forgive me! The ceremony is over! Let’s eat!