What is it that you can’t afford to offend, but you can’t afford to hide from it?

A small impatience will mess up a big plan. If we can’t afford to offend, we can afford to hide.

To be patient is to be patient and to be humble. Adopting a tolerant attitude in social interactions can "cold handle" many things and get rid of unprincipled entanglements and unnecessary quarrels between each other.

In the past years, "forbearance" in traditional Chinese culture has been misunderstood as a sign of weakness and lack of fighting spirit. In fact, this is just a superficial explanation. When a gentleman tolerates things that are difficult for others, he has surpassed ordinary people in spiritual realm. This is precisely a sign of strong will.

In ancient times, there was a man named Yang Zhu, who was famous for his tolerance and wisdom. Once, his neighbor lost a chicken and scolded Yang for stealing the chicken and he would die a good death.

The family was indignant, but Yang Zhu was very calm: "I am not the only one in the world with the surname Yang, so let him scold him." Another time, it was raining heavily outside, and a neighbor threw himself into the hospital. The stagnant water drained into Yang Zhu's home, and the whole family suffered from the dampness. Yang Zhu was still very indifferent: "Don't worry about it. There are always more sunny days and fewer rainy days." Over time, everyone was moved by Yang Zhu's tolerance. Later, a group of robbers conspired to rob the Yang family's treasures. It was these neighbors who organized themselves and avoided this disaster.

Things in life are like this. As long as it is not a matter of principle, you don’t need to take it too seriously, especially in daily work. "A small impatience will mess up a big plan." Momentary impulse often leads to regret in the future, which is really not worth the gain. This is not so much a kind of bravery as it is a kind of recklessness. As long as people live, they will inevitably suffer some intentional or unintentional harm, and this is true for everyone. Therefore, smart people always try their best to accommodate each other. This seemingly cowardly behavior is actually the wisdom of survival. It not only allows you to avoid brooding self-torture, but also allows you to maintain healthy interpersonal relationships. Killing two birds with one stone, what else is there to do? The stubborn Meng Huo was the leader of the southern minority of the Shu Kingdom during the Three Kingdoms period. He led his troops to rebel. , Zhuge Liang led his troops to pacify. When Zhuge Liang heard that Meng Huo was not only brave in battle, but also very prestigious among the tribal people in various areas of the south, he thought that if he won him over, Shu would have a stable rear area. Therefore, he ordered that Meng Huo should only be captured alive and not harmed. When the Shu army and Meng Huo's troops clashed for the first time, Zhuge Liang instructed the Shu army to retreat deliberately, leading Meng Huo to pursue him. Meng Huo took advantage of his large numbers and rushed forward. As a result, he was ambushed by the Shu army, was defeated, and became a prisoner himself. When the Shu army escorted the bound Meng Huo back to the camp, Meng Huo knew that he would definitely die this time, so he acted cunningly and cursed loudly. Unexpectedly, as soon as he entered the Shu army camp, Zhuge Liang not only immediately had his rope loosened, but also accompanied him to visit the Shu army camp and persuaded him to surrender. Meng Huo was wild and untamed. Not only was he unconvinced, he was arrogant and rude, saying that Zhuge Liang was deceiving. Zhuge Liang was not angry and let him go back, and the two agreed to fight again.

After Meng Huo ran back, he regrouped and attacked the Shu army aggressively again, but was captured alive again. Zhuge Liang failed to persuade Meng Huo to surrender, so he sent Meng Huo out of the camp again. Meng Huo also had a stubborn temper. He led his men to attack again and changed his offensive strategy at the same time, either holding on to the ferry or retreating to the mountains, but he could not escape Zhuge Liang's control. He was captured again and again and released again and again. When he was captured for the seventh time, Zhuge Liang wanted to let him go again, but Meng Huo refused to leave. He said with tears: "Prime Minister, I, Meng Huo, captured and manipulated me seven times. It can be said that you are extremely benevolent and righteous. I admire you from the bottom of my heart. From now on." From now on, I will never mention the rebellion again. "After Meng Huo returned, he persuaded all the rebel tribes to surrender, and the southern and central areas returned to the control of the Shu Han. Since then, the rear area of ??Shu has become stable, and people of all ethnic groups in the south have been able to recuperate and live and work in peace and contentment.

Su Xun of the Song Dynasty once said: "One forbearance can control hundreds of humiliations, and one moment of silence can control hundreds of movements." This means that the effect of forbearance is worth thousands of troops. It can be said that "forbearance is a small plan" Big” strategy. Zhuge Liang captured Meng Huo seven times, holding back his hatred, and endured it again and again. Finally, he subdued the rebels with his tolerance and preserved the tranquility and peace of the country.