"This year's New Year, I won't let me go back to my family for divorce." What should a woman who has been married for a long time do if she expresses her grievances?

Fangfang is the only child in Northeast China. Her husband is from Henan, the only child in the family. After they graduated from Shaanxi University, they stayed in xi 'an. Because of their busy work and long journey, they seldom go home to visit their parents. That was the first year after Fangfang got married. She couldn't help crying at the thought of her parents' loneliness. As an only child, her parents look forward to Fangfang's New Year reunion all the year round. She didn't want to disappoint the old couple's hopes by getting married. The question of the century strikes again: "I just want to go back to my mother's house for the New Year, and I will divorce if I don't agree!"

But Fangfang's husband said, "Since you are married to me, you are a member of our family, so come home with me for the New Year. We said there that we married to increase the number of people. Our whole family is looking forward to seeing you during the Spring Festival. If you don't spend the first year in my house, the neighbors will laugh. Why do parents hang their faces? " After the quarrel, Fangfang was finally persuaded by her husband. My husband bought two tickets to Henan. She called her parents in her hometown in the northeast and said that she would go to her husband's house for the New Year and could not go home.

Although both parents expressed understanding, Fangfang couldn't help crying after hanging up the phone. The root of the contradiction of "going home for the New Year" is the conflict between traditional male chauvinism and modern feminism. In the past, under the guidance of the idea of "men are superior to women", the married daughter was just spilled water, which could only be returned to her husband's family on holidays. It seems an unattainable luxury to spend the New Year with parents and relatives after marriage. According to the old custom, the daughter-in-law must spend New Year's Eve and the first day at her husband's house.

And these two days, as a junior, I have to be responsible for the catering of the family. As the main force of hospitality, you must smile at relatives that your husband's family can't specify. After these two days, women can catch their breath and go back to their parents' home to rest. So there are so many girls' parents jealous of their precious daughters: "Don't get married when you are marriageable!" " Behind the distant marriage is the helplessness of not being able to return to family reunion in time, and it is also the endless difficulties that parents can't touch. But now, with the development of the times and the improvement of women's social status, more and more only children are getting married, and there is no longer only one word for the Chinese New Year.

Papi sauce, the originator of online celebrities, once generously admitted in the variety "Please Refrigerator": I have been married to Lao Hu for many years and will go home every New Year. She thinks: "For your parents, your son is the most important, and for my parents, their daughter is the most important. So in fact, whether the son-in-law wants to take it back or not, and whether the daughter-in-law wants to go to her husband's house is secondary. Let's stay with our parents first. " Love and marriage can never be stopped by parents saying "Don't marry far away". In addition, with the increasing mobility of the population, Fangfang rarely works hard with her husband from other places.

According to the survey, as many as 30% of the families in which both husband and wife are only children and their hometown is not in the same city have a dispute about who should go for the New Year. Even the newlyweds argued about it until they got divorced. There could have been a reunion year of business and quantity. Because both sides refused to give in, it suddenly became a "separation year" for small families.