What should parents do if the child loses his temper?

People's temper is interactive, and your projected temper will often double back. If you only get angry and lose your temper, what can children learn from you?

There is no benefit except anger and violence.

Adults should give their children more space, patience, tolerance and trust. Although it is a test of parents' endurance to watch children make mistakes without correcting them immediately, we should believe that children have the ability to correct themselves.

Human growth is a process of constant self-reflection and self-correction, and we should respect children's right to enjoy this process.

There is one thing in this world that is harmful and useless, and that is losing your temper! The same is true of educating children. Losing your temper is the greatest enemy of education. The bigger the temper, the worse the educational effect!

Why can't you lose your temper?

Education experts point out that poverty will not lead to the failure of education, but mental abuse will certainly create a problem child.

Letting children live in mental abuse is like putting a lifetime of pain on TA.

Many parents blame their children for being willful, disobedient and naughty. In fact, behind every problem children, there must be a problem parent, which is the iron law.

Children's problems are almost always parents' problems, but many parents don't want to see their own problems and always try their best to repair their children.

No matter how spiritual children are, they will inevitably enter a negative and pessimistic world after being mentally abused.

Bad temper is hereditary.

What kind of environment, what kind of children Angry parents educate their children to be rebellious, suspicious, sensitive, fragile and aggressive.

When children grow up, they are also very grumpy and demanding, and they are likely to have serious sexual metamorphosis and neuropathy.

When such children grow up to be parents, they will also inherit their parents' bad temper, and there will be situations of "venting injuries and copying violence". At this time, the next generation of children became victims of bad temper.

As Montessori said: Every character defect is caused by childhood misfortune.

Bad temper is the strongest killer of parent-child relationship.

Bad temper makes children afraid to get close to you and open their hearts with you. They are always in fear and insecurity, and there will be various problems in their growth.

There are many such examples: the bigger the parents' temper, the more stubborn their children are; The more frustrated parents are, the more difficult it is for children to manage; With the escalation of parents' temper, there are more and more bad behaviors of children.

There is a little boy next door. He is very naughty and difficult to control. Later, his father tied him up with a rope and beat him. The boy was not beaten, but he got better. It was only in the third grade that he stopped going to school at all.

Parents' ideological education has fallen into a strange inertia-he thinks it is useless to yell at children, so he has to scold them; Scold "strength" is not enough, start playing; Later, he followed the principle of "killing a dutiful son with one stick"

In fact, he didn't know he was going in the wrong direction. The greater the intensity, the worse the situation.

Adults should give their children more space, patience, tolerance and trust. Although it is a test of parents' endurance to watch children make mistakes without correcting them immediately, we should believe that children have the ability to correct themselves.

Human growth is a process of constant self-reflection and self-correction, and we should respect children's right to enjoy this process.

The way to change a bad temper is to lose your temper in exchange for communication.

Losing your temper casually is like littering everywhere, which is a very bad behavior. Children should not be trash cans for our negative emotions. It is better to communicate well than to be angry.

For example, if you see that your child hasn't finished his homework, don't make a hullabaloo about as soon as he comes up. He flew into a rage: Why haven't you written it yet? Just play every day! Wait a minute. Will children fail to do their homework because of this? Of course not, children will have less resistance to homework.

If you want to achieve the expected effect, you can say: I'm really sad that you didn't finish your homework on time. If you can finish your homework in half an hour, I will be very happy.

Express your wishes directly. If the child does this, educate the child with empathy and let the feelings flow naturally and smoothly. In this way, children are more likely to accept the advice and discipline of their parents.

"Reasoning education" in education is much better than breaking into a furious rage. Let the family be full of feelings and communication, not full of violence and reprimand.

Parents improve their temper, which seems to be to better educate their children, but in fact, it is themselves who ultimately benefit.

When we learn to get along with our emotions, happiness and happiness in life will be within reach.

Think quietly and truly face your emotions.

It is not the best way to suppress and control your temper blindly. Emotions can't be suppressed, and depressed emotions will eventually erupt in a more out-of-control state.

The real way is to learn to face your emotions sincerely and realize that your emotional management is not good and has nothing to do with your children.

Learn to truly express your emotions and guide them in time.

I have a classmate who is recognized as having a good temper and never gets angry after becoming a mother. She said that she was never angry because she often expressed her emotions with her family.

She said that no matter what happened during the affair, whether it was scolded by the boss or misunderstood by friends, as long as she went home and talked to her lover, her mood would return to calm and she would never worry about bringing negative emotions to her children again.

When a person is angry, just give her a strong hug, listen attentively and affirm her feelings, which will bring strength and comfort to the other party. Once the other person's emotions are released and expressed, it will naturally be calm and gentle.

So are children.

After a child has done something wrong and been wronged, he doesn't need to blame, complain or beat and scold, but needs to understand, care and listen. Only when the child takes out the garbage inside can he really put in your good words and teachings.

Educating children is actually to cultivate the mind and let the temper spread in the air.

Children can't lose their temper without anger in their parents' hearts.

I remember once a child was in a hurry to eat vegetables and told her to wait for her father to take a shower and eat together. But the child didn't listen, not only grabbed the food with his hands, but also spat and exhaled into the food, which happened to be seen by me. I stared at her with my eyes and she stared at me in turn.

Her behavior made me very angry. I wanted to yell at her for being disobedient and uneducated, but I held back my anger and continued to clean the kitchen counter as if nothing had happened.

Next, the child may know the mistake. At dinner, I didn't say anything about what she had just done. Instead, she is more obedient than before, not wandering around, not asking questions, and knowing how to put the bowl back in the sink after dinner.

Seeing the child's abnormal behavior, I suddenly felt that it was right to control my temper.

I admire myself for not losing my temper in such a challenging game. If I couldn't help yelling or swearing at my child's behavior at that time, the consequences would be unimaginable.

The opposition of temper is like a tug-of-war, and the strong opposition is based on your perseverance. If you want the other person to give up, the best way is to let go first: if there is no anger in the parents' hearts, the child's temper will not rise.

To be the best role model for children, people's temper is interactive, and your projected temper will often double. So, let the good temper meet us constantly and don't let the bad temper show his face.

It is better to pass positive energy than to lose your temper.

As long as you get angry and lose your temper in the contest with your children, you will lose. If parents don't lose their temper and try to be brave in front of their children, they will be decisive and flexible when something goes wrong. This is what children learn.

At a temporary work meeting, I left my children in the care of my neighbors.

When I saw my neighbor's aunt yelling at her child's mischief, and criticism still didn't work, my six-year-old child said to her aunt, "You shouldn't criticize him like that for no reason. He will be very sad. You should find a way with him. "

My neighbor couldn't help saying to me, "You are a sensible child. Not only can you talk, but you can also make suggestions and use your head. You are two or three years younger than my child, but you are more sensible than my child. "

Later, the child said to his aunt, "My mother never loses her temper with me." My neighbor asked me if it was true.

In retrospect, I am really seldom angry with children. Even if she makes a mistake and is stubborn and naughty, I will submit to humiliation in most cases and then work with her to find a way.

Because of this, my children learned to solve problems in the same way. I am glad that children have the consciousness and ideas to solve problems, instead of getting angry or losing their temper.

If you only get angry and lose your temper, what can children learn from you? There is no benefit except anger and violence.

A chest without temper can be full of love education.

I remember once asking my child to eat, but she ignored me. Then she showed me the picture. I pretended to be angry and turned away, but she slapped me in the face.

Although it didn't hurt, I was shocked by this behavior. At that time, I opened my eyes wide and tried to hit her back, but I held back.

But the child can't help it. She knew at once that she had done something wrong. She came to me again and again to apologize and said, mom, I'm sorry. It was wrong of me not to come over for dinner. That's because I haven't finished painting. I want to draw a beautiful picture for my mother as a gift.

Yes, if I choose to lose my temper and scold my child, I will never know the thoughts and full love in my child's heart, which will set a serious obstacle for mother-daughter communication.

Sometimes children will be rebellious, disobedient or even talk back, depending on the essential reasons. On the other hand, it shows that children have the ability to think independently and the courage to face problems, which is better than Woodenhead who has no mind and soul and only listens to Nuo Nuo.

As long as your heart is full of love and gratitude, you will get more in return.

While creating a harmonious and healthy environment for children, they are also nourished.

A chest without temper can transmit positive energy, and a heart full of love and gratitude can continuously transmit love.