"Why don't you give my mother a pension when you marry my family?" Does Phoenix Man's statement make sense?

"Why don't you give my mother a pension when you are married to my family?" Wife makes Phoenix man speechless!

A philosopher once said that behind one person's fear in marriage, another person must be constantly humble and have no dignity. We all know that the most suitable marriage should be very suitable, but in reality, many marriages are very different.

Liu Wei, a new Shanghainese, comes from the northeast countryside. He was admitted to a university in Shanghai by his own efforts. After graduating from college, he worked in a software company in Shanghai. He is a typical "Phoenix Man".

His wife is also a typical Shanghai girl, well-off, lovely and beautiful. Their married life is also happy, because Liu Wei, who was born in the countryside, naturally became a standard Shanghai son-in-law. Although his wife is as noble as a princess, Liu Wei went to the kitchen under the main room and served his wife tea and water at home, washing and cooking without complaint.

If life goes on like this, their life will be so stable and happy. Only after Liu Wei's father died, only his mother was left in his hometown in Northeast China, so Liu Wei had to take his mother from his hometown to Shanghai to live with them.

It seems that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been one of the main irreconcilable contradictions in family relations since ancient times. What's more, she is a traditional conservative mother-in-law in rural areas in Northeast China and a Shanghai daughter-in-law in the new era. The huge difference in living environment makes two people more friction after being together. Since then, Wei Liu has become a helpless "double-sided adhesive", courting both sides, and the results are not good.

Everyone knows that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is actually difficult to reconcile, especially in Liu Wei's family, one is a traditional and conservative old lady in Northeast China, and the other is a young woman in Shanghai in the new era. There are two very different people in life, which can be said to be nothing.

One night, Liu Wei didn't come back after working overtime, and the old lady didn't finish her meal. After his wife came back, the old lady took out the leftovers at home and said, "Liu Wei didn't come back for dinner after working overtime at night." I think there are still a lot of leftovers at noon, so just help yourself. " Seeing this, my wife was so angry that she didn't even eat dinner. She turned her head and left, leaving the old lady alone.

After Liu Wei came back, the old lady complained, and his wife complained that it was really the first two. The wife said to Liu Wei very seriously: "You said that we didn't have food at home and didn't give her money. You won't even eat if you don't come back. I really can't stand it. Let your mother go back to her hometown Can we give her monthly living expenses? " Liu Wei comforted: "The old lady is used to frugality at home. Please forgive me."

His wife saw Liu Wei say some useless words to her again and was completely indifferent: "No, it's either her or me today. I really can't stand it. " Liu Wei muttered in a low voice: "Since you married me, you have an obligation to provide for my mother's old age. How can you drive her away? " Hearing her husband's words, the wife was even more angry: "Liu Wei, tell me, am I unwilling to raise her?" I don't give her money or give her food or drink. Now she makes my life very unhappy and tired, you know? "

It is really difficult to reconcile their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but Liu Wei is an only child. Now that my father is gone, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is irreconcilable. He took a sip of wine and said, "Both sides are ancestors, and I can't afford to offend them. What should I do? "

Seriously, this is really a problem. This is my suggestion. The palm of your hand is full of meat, and no one can afford to offend. There is really no suitable solution to your present situation. The only thing you can do is to spend as much time as possible to reconcile the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Anyway, because of your existence, both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have a basic starting point, that is, they love you deeply.

As for their different lifestyles and consumption habits, as long as you are on the scene, their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not put things on the table. Let time slowly merge everything.

Conclusion: Actually, this kind of thing doesn't just happen to Wei Liu. Many Phoenix men will encounter this problem, especially the only child. Although parents should not be a burden, it is a very difficult problem for their newborn families. The ancients all said that "honest officials can't break housework", not to mention us ordinary people. Only time can slowly change all this. After all, time is the best medicine to cure everything.