If I don't go back, what should I do if my child looks for his father all day and looks distressed?

It is difficult for you to choose between your lover and your parents. You said that your parents want you to be with them because you are the only child in the family. I still have to rely on you to support my old age, and I will take the initiative to give my field to you and my lover for farming. However, you didn't expect your lover to be at odds with your parents and scold them, making them feel that they can't count on their son-in-law when they are old, and it will be difficult for them to support their old age with their daughter. Therefore, they strongly support your divorce and say no.

However, considering that your children still want to go back to find their lover and worry that their parents will ignore them in the future, the lover's family will despise themselves and fall into a dilemma. In fact, whether it is between mother-in-law or mother-in-law, there will inevitably be contradictions. More often, there will be conflicts for personal plans and interests, but it is not easy to give up marriage, and parents can't destroy their children's marriage and happiness because of their own plans.

What you need to do now is to keep calm, observe the performance of your lover after a period of time, and don't make a hasty decision. If your lover shows willingness to accept you and your children, live a good life and be responsible for your family, you can communicate with your parents well, show that you will provide for your parents' old age and eliminate their worries, and then go back to your lover to safeguard your family and your relationship with your parents.

If a lover is really rude not only to his parents, but also to you and your children, then such a person really has no sense of responsibility, and he also needs to carefully consider this marriage and relationship. After a period of calm, everyone will find a real solution to the problem after they calm down.

It seems that you are not the kind of person who is very independent and has your own ideas. You will take the initiative to fight for your rights. In most cases, it is to listen to their opinions. So from this perspective, you should have the courage to face everything you encounter in life. It may be difficult for you at first, but you need to fight for it from some small things.