Talk about the common problems of men.

A bride-to-be suffers from pre-marital anxiety. As the wedding day approaches, she is getting more and more agitated and full of contradictions, and she doesn't know whether to get married or not. I asked her why she didn't get married. She elaborated on her boyfriend's problems. I can't help but get the creeps. I have a lot of problems with him! When she finished, I pretended to be calm and told her that these are actually just common problems of men. I suggested that she find some books about male psychology. She said she didn't have time to read books, so let me introduce one or two. After a little thought, I came up with ten.

1, strong self-esteem

Men are strong on the surface, but weak on the inside. Superficial strength is the opposite of inner weakness.

Men are most afraid of being said to be weak, ignorant and without money. When others say that he or he thinks that others think so, he will be very angry and will not hesitate to quarrel or even fight with others. Men will brag and show off themselves everywhere in order to prove that they are not like this. There are some things that he can't do at all, and he will clap his chest to ensure; There are some things that he doesn't understand at all, and he will pretend that he doesn't understand. You know you are wrong, but you refuse to admit it. If he didn't think he was wrong, he wouldn't use his own mistakes to calm things down. Therefore, it is difficult for men to admit their mistakes, and it is even harder to admit mistakes on the spot when they are angry.

Men claim to stick to principles, but there are no principles at all. The only principle is self-esteem. When his self-esteem is hurt, he will stick to his principles, be opinionated and argue irrationally; When his self-esteem is satisfied, he will leave his principles behind.

2, rigid

Strictly speaking, after a man's self-esteem is satisfied, he does not abandon the principle, but accepts the principle of others, and he does what others ask him to do. If you don't tell him what to do, he will be at a loss. Men can't be flexible, they can't play it by ear, they just stick to the rules and do things by the book. Men themselves often refer to this situation as loyalty and credit.

Loyalty and honesty are both manifestations of self-identity. Loyalty is responsible for others, and honesty is responsible for yourself. Adolescent boys are the most loyal and most afraid of being called traitors. "A gentleman's words are hard to catch up with." Honesty is very important to men, and men despise people who break their promises the most.

The rigidity of men is related to logic. Men are good at logical thinking, and logical thinking itself is rigid, one is one, the other is two, either white or black.

Step 3 take a tough attitude

Men's emotional reactions are usually mirror images. If you are soft, he will be soft, and if you are fierce, he will be more fierce. When a woman is "unreasonable", she will be quiet when a man coaxes her. However, most men don't cheat. When women are noisy, men get angry. What was originally a small event finally turned into a big event. Of course, there are also some men who are good at cheating. As soon as you pull your face down, he condescends and keeps apologizing. However, such men are rare. They are either bullies or glib. So avoid the limelight and be soft on men. The more pitiful and fragile a woman is, the more it can inspire a man's tenderness.

4. Slow down

Men are generally slow, whether feeling or emotion. Men are neither afraid of cold nor heat. It doesn't matter if they eat more or less. They have a strong taste and are not afraid of getting angry. They can sleep soundly anywhere and adapt to various environments. Men's feelings are particularly dull, they can't read, they don't care about other people's moods, they are careless and heartless. Good for him, he doesn't know; It's not good for him, and he doesn't know. Convenient, dull, like a log. To put it mildly, a big belly can accommodate it, but it is actually invulnerable and nothing goes in. However, no matter how slow a person is, he still has feelings. When the stimulus accumulates to a certain extent, it will explode and be unstoppable.

5. Self-righteous

Because I am slow, I don't know the real feelings of others, thinking that others' feelings are the same as my own, and I am used to speculating others' feelings with my own feelings and imposing my own feelings on others. They will design blueprints for others and arrange their own lives. People will be angry if they don't buy it. They don't understand, how can others be ungrateful? This is most fully manifested in the process of love. When a man secretly loves a woman, he will chase her regardless of her refusal. After determining the relationship, he will arrange everything properly without asking the other party's advice at all. When he finds some shortcomings of the other party, he will constantly correct her. If the other party protests, he will feel incredible. Ordinary protests won't affect him. If it is a strong protest, he will feel puzzled and think that women are unreasonable. I recently encountered a case. After three years of love, the relationship deteriorated and the two sides quarreled and had a cold war. But the man continued to decorate the house and plan the wedding according to his own wishes.

Step 6 be indifferent

Men like to be alone, and don't like too many emotional entanglements. In men's eyes, women are so difficult that they would rather play cards and drink with the same sex than pester women. Some people get engaged and disappear. Some people stay out at night soon after they get married, leaving their wives hanging at home and busy "socializing" outside. Even when I go home, I play computer, watch TV or read newspapers alone.

When falling in love, some men are considerate, but that's false. After a long time, or if you get married, you will show your true colors.

7. Aphasia

Men are not good at expressing their feelings and don't like to say disgusting things. They are used to expressing their love by actions, such as making money, cleaning, repairing furniture, lifting heavy objects, driving and having sex. Women like to listen to men's sweet words, but men don't. In desperation, women will keep asking him, "Do you love me?" Men think this question is stupid. Isn't it obvious? Need I say more? There are also some men who can talk sweet words, but they are often not good men.

Men are generally silent when they are in a bad mood. In the eyes of women, this is cold violence, anger, passive resistance and lack of courage to solve problems. When the two sides are in a state of cold war, women want men to be generous, take the initiative to make peace and clarify the problem, but men simply do not have such communication skills. He can only protect his silence and wait for the problem to disappear by itself.

8. Lack of life goals

It is generally believed that men are more motivated to achieve success than women, so there are more successful men than women. Actually, it is not. Without external pressure, men are lazy. They are happy-go-lucky, eat, drink and live, and have no high pursuit of life. Men are diligent if they are in charge, and lazy if they are not. If nobody cares, a man's life will be a mess, without eating, sleeping or taking a bath.

Men don't think too much about the future, they don't plan for the future, and everything is "we'll talk about it then". We'll cross the bridge when we come to it. This is very insecure for women. Women like to plan ahead and prepare early. However, women do not do it themselves, but encourage men to do it. If a young man is diligent and ambitious, he must have a virtuous mother. If a middle-aged man is well-dressed and successful, he must have a virtuous wife.

9. addiction

Men lack goals in life, but they tend to indulge in meaningless activities, such as smoking, drinking, playing cards, bragging, racing and playing video games. Men are addicted to everything. Once you are addicted, you don't care about other things.

10, male genital centralism

Men are all playboys. You are not a man without a playboy. It's just that most people are dishonest and dare not act, and they are hypocritical on the surface. As the saying goes, "a gentleman talks but doesn't do it." We can chat. Therefore, when men are together, they talk about women to satisfy their own "mouth desire", which is easily associated with "obscenity". What's more, some people will swear in front of women on purpose, or swear directly at women, which becomes "sexual harassment".

Women value love, men value sex. Men are not only keen on sexual activities, but also accustomed to cut to the chase, just like animals in heat, vulgar and not elegant.