Children who grew up in poverty have solidified their inferiority complex all their lives. what do you think?

I belong to the kind of girl who grew up in poverty, left-behind children in rural areas. I ate two eggs for my birthday when I was a child. Usually there are basically no eggs to eat, because grandma wants to keep them for sale. The pocket money my father gave me on Children's Day was only fifty cents. I used a penny at that time. Although I am born after 90, I am always ridiculed as born after 70.

Poverty and son preference led me to feel inferior during my study before work. I am too shy to speak in public. When I am old, I feel that I have too little knowledge and narrow vision. Every time I see a well-dressed person talking about something I have never seen or heard, I feel a little inferior.

This inferiority complex has even affected my present family and career. When I adopted my daughter, I gave her everything I could, whether it was a toy book or taking her out to play and participate in activities, because I didn't want my daughter to be as poor as I was when I was a child.

Although I feel less inferior now, especially when I have my own stable job, it still exists in my character more or less. For example, being wronged in marriage, habitual forbearance. For example, when distributing gifts and benefits, I am habitually modest.

I never feel that I am the best, the best, and I never like to fight for it. The goal of my efforts is to make myself stronger.

Although poverty has also taught me many good virtues, such as perseverance and patience, inferiority has also had a great influence on my growth and even shaped my character. Fortunately, I never complain, face and accept directly, and embrace the gifts and tests given to me by this era.

I believe that I will continue to grow and turn inferiority into a driving force for struggle.

@ Mom, this question is very interesting, because I was poor when I was a child. How poor was it? My mother gave birth to my brother at home. After giving birth, she cooked her a bowl of brown sugar and water and two poached eggs. My mother didn't want to eat, so she took a sip of water and handed the bowl to me standing by the bed. This is my first time to eat this kind of food, and I think it is the best thing in the world. If it affects me, until now, I love to eat all kinds of eggs [shy]. There are other material conditions, which are really poor, so that if I travel freely now, I must choose a clean and hygienic city and a hotel with higher standards. And my parents have jobs and education. They are the bosses of the two families, and they all learn to "eat commodity grain", so they are the pillars of the two families. When I was a child, I often came from my hometown. When I sat down, I became complaining about asking for money. My parents love face, and the results are both right and left. I have formed a vague concept of "boundary" since I was a child. Psychology knows.

Material poverty just makes me feel a little inconvenient in my life, and it never makes me feel inferior. Because my parents are "spiritually rich" to us. There are big bookcases at home, 5,000 years of official history, secret history, rumors, small oblique editions of Germany, Italy, Britain, the United States and France (few at that time). From masterpieces to jokes, my thoughts here are far beyond my space. What's more, my father's unit has a library with many books. I went to read with him as soon as I had a holiday. It was quiet and enjoyable. "I must go out and see what it's like outside", "I could have such a lifestyle" and "This is not love". The wisdom in these books broadens my horizons and helps me to know myself and find a happy home.

Wit [wit] [wit] [wit] [wit] "material poverty" will only make people feel inconvenient, and "spiritual poverty" is the root of inferiority. What did Mom say? I hope I can help you [Rose] [Rose] [Rose] (picture from the internet)

When Jam Hsiao was a child, his family was very poor: his mother took care of the children and had no job; My father drives a taxi and has a hot temper. He can't make money by quarreling with others outside. The whole family relies on grandma to set up a stall to feed, and they don't have enough to eat every day.

Jam Hsiao wanted to learn music since he was a child, but his family didn't want to buy him a musical instrument, so he was often beaten and scolded. It was not until 15 years old that my mother agreed to start learning music.

In 2007, 20-year-old Jam Hsiao participated in the Super Avenue of Stars program in Taiwan Province Province and became famous from then on. After that, he won the Taipei Municipal Government's Good Samaritan Award for two consecutive years, and won the Taiwan Province Top Ten Outstanding Young People Award for his enthusiastic social welfare in 20 15.

When Jam Hsiao became famous, he was interviewed and recalled being slapped as a child, being called a loser and being humiliated to the bottom of his heart. At this time, Jam Hsiao looked back without feeling inferior or resenting his family and parents. He said that music is a key, and all this has been redeemed by music.

There is no doubt that Jam Hsiao belongs to a child who grew up in poverty when he was a child, but he didn't feel inferior, and naturally he won't cure his inferiority all his life.

After all, Jam Hsiao is a special case, but we can learn from it how children who grew up in poverty get rid of negative emotions such as inferiority and resentment.

Being poor is not terrible. The terrible thing is that poverty is suppressed and you can't do what you like.

It is conceivable that if Jam Hsiao still can't get the support of his mother after 15 years old, he won't succeed in the future, so he is likely to be depressed because of depression. As the question says, he has been curing his inferiority complex all his life, even indulging in inferiority complex and resentment all his life.

From the example of Jam Hsiao, we know that success is a key to save people from negative emotions such as inferiority and resentment.

When people do what they like, they can stay highly excited and focused, and give full play to their creativity, and they are most likely to succeed.

Therefore, poor children should be encouraged and supported to develop their own interests. Even if they can't be as conspicuous as Jam Hsiao, they can indulge in what they like, free from negative emotions such as inferiority and resentment.

Many parents feel that life is stressful, their children's interests do not meet their expectations, and they are worried about their children's future. How to deal with this situation? This is another topic. Let's talk briefly here. You can think about it. Are your expectations really suitable for children? Why do you deny your child's interest? You don't want your children to be unable to cure their inferiority complex all their lives, do you?

Pay attention to the existence of the old god and share the best parents with you in the simplest way.

Poverty is divided into two categories, one is material poverty and the other is spiritual poverty.

When I was a child, material poverty would have an impact on children more or less, but the decisive factor is whether parents give enough spiritual watering.

My two friends may be able to explain this.

Friend A: Born in the countryside, my family is very poor. Her father died of illness at the age of 10. Since then, her mother has been taking care of her three brothers and sisters. Her mother takes care of their study life while working, and occasionally has poverty subsidies. Hard as it is, her mother never complains about life in front of them. Her mother often encourages them and often tells them not to complain about injustice, not to compare with others and not to feel inferior. Everyone should practice when he comes to this world. You once had a loving father, and we are all grateful to live honestly in this world, so my friend and her brother are very kind, cheerful and active now, because they have suffered and because of their hearts. As we all know, people who are grateful and content should be the happiest.

Friend B: Born in the city, his family is rich. He has enjoyed the treatment of a princess since he was a child, and never worries about eating, drinking and money. The only thing I feel inadequate is that my parents quarrel constantly and there are many family conflicts. In the end, the father reorganized the family and the mother took her to live. My mother is always thinking about how to get back at her father. Every quarrel leaves a shadow in her heart, and when she grows up, she still feels that her parents quarreled because of her. When I was at school, my father didn't give Carrie extra greetings and care except to transfer money every month, which made her feel that she didn't deserve love. Her father gave her living expenses only out of conscience condemnation and uneasy choice. So she said that although she was never short of money, she still felt inferior. She dare not associate, dare not go to other people's homes, and dare not enjoy the kindness of others. After all, the idea of not being loved has been rooted in her heart for a long time.

The above is to show that poor children may not feel inferior when they grow up, and rich children may not be confident when they grow up. The most lasting and profound wealth that parents can give their children should be spiritual wealth, which can let children learn to love and be loved.

In this era of triumph, compared with material poverty, spiritual poverty makes people feel inferior.

But in any case, the past is the past, and people can't stay in the shadow of childhood.

Many times, even most of the time, we can't decide our origins and choose our families, but we can make responsible decisions for our lives. It's our first time to be human, and so are our parents. There are specific reasons why we are good or not. When we can look at the problem from the perspective of our parents' era, we may get some relief. Maybe our parents have never been enriched by their parents, or maybe our parents have never been recognized as really loved by their parents. So, try to understand your parents and yourself.

The future is in our own hands, in our own hearts, people with wounds will learn to heal themselves, and those without wounds will continue to be brilliant. [Ross]

This question reminds me of one thing many years ago:

My buddy who has been with me for several years has always agreed with the concept that "children should be poor" at home, but in fact, his living conditions are quite good. They instilled in my buddy ideas such as "If I fail this exam, don't have dinner tonight" and "Don't give me other thoughts and desires".

In this way, he is afraid to get along with others and talk to his parents because he has no choice. If he doesn't do well in the exam, he is afraid to tell his parents. He secretly signed the test paper and showed it to his parents if he did well. He told me a sentence that I still remember: "If you don't do well in the exam, you have the comfort of your uncle and aunt, and if you do well in the exam, you also have the praise of your uncle and aunt." When I didn't do well in the exam, I only had steamed bread, and I might not even have steamed bread. "

In fact, at that time, I found that he had changed, a little rebellious but afraid to show himself, so that he often fought with his classmates for one or two dollars in junior high school. The classmate gave him a biscuit. He just grabbed his classmate's hair and called his parents several times to apologize.

In fact, this kind of poverty seems to cultivate children's ability to bear hardships and stand hard work, but it is easy to bring children's inferiority and cowardice. Especially in high school, it is more and more obvious. When his classmates have better living conditions than him, he will fall into a state of "envy, jealousy and hatred". Remember, with the idea of "hate", his classmates seldom get close to him, and they stay at home all day on holiday, but they lose their freedom when they have freedom.

As the saying goes, the more you lack, the more you yearn for it. If someone has new clothes, but he still wears the clothes he wore a long time ago, he will feel inferior. I don't think it is necessary to treat them as poor people. Family education is the most important. What kind of atmosphere is created for children is better than what kind of atmosphere is imposed on children!

Hello, I'm glad to answer your questions.

I think, basically, inferiority is in the bones. When I was a child, the poor thoughts instilled by the parents in the bones of poor children affected their psychology at every stage of their growth trajectory. Only by increasing your sense of accomplishment step by step can you gain self-confidence. This process is called curing inferiority complex.

I want to talk about this problem from my personal experience:

When I was young, my family conditions were basically on the verge of struggle. After eating a meal every day, we should consider whether it is the second meal and whether we should eat it. When I was in primary school, I watched my classmates buy all kinds of colorful snacks every day, but I could only chew cold steamed bread; When it rains, there is only one umbrella at home. Once, my sister and I broke our umbrella. When I got home, my father was severely beaten by his father. I want pocket money, but I have been afraid to ask my family for it. This kind of life accompanied my childhood. Because of family conditions, my schooling experience is rather bumpy. When I was a child, I still helped my family with farm work at home, until an accidental opportunity, I was admitted to the school. The teacher gave me a separate test paper, and I got excellent results in the entrance exam. )

Although you can enjoy knowledge with your friends, your inner inferiority can't be erased. When I was at school, people around me liked to laugh at me, saying that I was stupid, poor in study, poor at home and so on. Every day I can only sit alone in the corner of the classroom and dare not deal with them. ...

Until the fifth grade, when the reputation of being the first in my class echoed on campus, people around me looked at me with new eyes. It seems that my inner inferiority seems to be less serious, but I always make up for that inferiority through step by step efforts, and every sense of accomplishment makes my inferiority melt a little.

If you do the following, there is no problem to get rid of inferiority:

1. If you want to study hard, you can choose to act silently and make a blockbuster.

Don't show weakness in front of others easily, which will only aggravate inferiority. Remember, you must be confident.

3. Don't compare easily, don't compare with others in material aspects, and choose to compete with others in ability.

Don't always think about changing the thinking mode of your family, just try to break through yourself.

In short, children brought up in poverty in childhood have been smoothing their inferiority complex all their lives, and psychological trauma has made them more cautious and steady than others in everything.

It depends on the definition of poverty. Poverty support includes spiritual poverty and material poverty. If two people are poor, then they may feel more inferior.

What are the spiritual poverty? Many adults treat their children really horribly. Some regard children as their own proprietary items and have an absolute desire for control. If the child is disobedient, they will scold him, beat him and make him obey their authority. Some people look down on children, think that children are unnecessary and cumbersome, and don't take their ideas seriously at all.

So how is material poverty defined? Can it be said that satisfying all children's desires is called having money to support? I don't think so. Material poverty does not meet children's basic material conditions, such as not having enough to eat and not wearing warm clothes. I believe that a large part of China is not material poverty, but spiritual poverty.

A family with rich spirit treats children, gives them their own world view and lets them think independently. Of course, when children think about the world, they will inevitably take detours. Parents are indispensable in the process of education, but compulsory and authoritative education is indispensable, which will make the already weak children more unable to adapt to life. Give children love and let them do what they can. We can't do everything well for them, otherwise they can't develop their own abilities and feel their own strength. A child's life is always his own. The role of parents is how to make their children become their true selves and better selves, rather than forcing them according to their parents' ideas.

When I was a child, many people were in poor spirits, or both, and they felt more or less inferior in their hearts. Those who have a serious sense of inferiority are really healing their childhood wounds all their lives.

Children who grew up in poverty live in inferiority all their lives.

As the saying goes, "a poor family is rich." The children of the poor are in power for a long time, and the children of the poor are strong-willed. Judging from their growing experience, most of today's successful people were poor when they were young.

Therefore, in modern society, even raising children in families with good living conditions is gradually learning to support the poor, hoping that their children can learn to grow up against the trend and eventually become independent.

It is said that poor children have solidified their inferiority complex all their lives. Personally, I think the conclusion is too extreme.

There are three reasons:

First, poor children, because of the difficult growth environment everywhere, dare not follow the old path of their parents. They have worked hard since childhood, their determination to fight hard and their strength in difficult times have laid a good foundation for them to get ahead in society in the future. After success, they are no longer inferior, but proud.

Second, poor children are not necessarily poor families. It's just that parents deliberately create a bad environment, so that they can establish their determination and confidence to get rid of poverty and practice the basic skills of not relying on others for future survival.

Now, there are several consequences that are not rich. And the poor have no dependence, and who can rely on if they don't rely on themselves.

Personally, I think rich children are actually more inferior. They lost the satin necklace in the harsh environment, which is also the most missing thing in their hearts.

Third, poor children may have some inferiority complex when they were young, but after hard work, struggle and success, who can say that this is not the cure of inferiority complex, but they will go further and fly higher on the road of success, and will never feel inferior after success, but will always be proud and proud.

Therefore, it has always been believed that children who grow up in poverty have solidified their inferiority complex all their lives, which is a doubt about the methods of basic education and a denial of the effect of basic education.

"Lucky people are cured by childhood all their lives, and unfortunate people are cured by childhood all their lives." A wonderful childhood can benefit a person for life. Unfortunately, childhood will leave a shadow on a person's life path.

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Tell a story about your childhood. At that time, my father went out to work and my mother always took care of me. The family is not well-off and frugal. My mother often helps others make money. At that time, all my friends around me had toys, and I wanted them. She seldom agrees to buy it for me. Once I stole 1.50 yuan, bought a gyro, found it and was beaten. On another occasion, the school asked to buy a Xinhua dictionary, and my mother said she would buy everything. Can't you use your brother's copy? The veto. But many pages of my brother's book are missing, so it's useless. In the class, everyone else is brand-new, and mine is so worn out that I dare not take it out. Think of these, a sense of inferiority will come to mind. Although family conditions have improved a lot now, it is still impossible to eliminate the inferiority complex caused by poverty when I was a child. I know poverty is spiritual.

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But then I also understood that everyone's growth conditions are born doomed and can't be chosen. Besides, some people are worse off than themselves. When I realized this, I slowly learned to accept it. Think about it carefully, it was also the environment at that time that made me lonely, not dependent on others, and I had to fight for what I wanted by myself.

Inferiority is not terrible. The terrible thing is that we live in the past and can't get out. Instead of always thinking about the past, it is better to focus on the present, enjoy the present, live a good life and be happy to meet every upcoming tomorrow.

Families with good economic conditions can provide superior conditions in all aspects, and children's self-evaluation will be more positive, while children who grow up in poor families will be limited in their personal development without these conditions. The cognition of poverty has gradually shifted from family environment factors to individuals. The lack of ability and personality defects caused by poor education will accompany a person for a long time.

In social life, no one will always talk about our family conditions. But the poverty that emanates from us will expose us and hurt our self-esteem. Everyone has inferiority complex to some extent, because poor children are more sensitive to the frequency and degree of awakening inferiority complex than normal people.

Emotion has its evolutionary significance. Inferiority is a kind of protection for ourselves, which keeps us away from inferiority. For example, my resources and abilities can't meet the requirements of an environment. I am far behind those who adapt. If my feelings can't convince me in time, I will be eliminated by the environment immediately.

I used to feel inferior, not as good as others' situational awareness, and I had a bad evaluation of myself, similar to sad physical changes. Later, when I enter the functional stage, I will unconsciously feel sad and self-motivated about life when I am lazy. When frustrated, I unconsciously feel sad about my life experience and avoid responsibility. Later, I became more rational and could consciously use my inferiority complex.