What does it mean to speak well?

99 people will teach you to listen first, then organize logic, and then persuade the audience. But I firmly believe in the remaining 1. Effective speaking skills mean that the speaker must have "empathy" and the ability to think from someone else's perspective. To put it simply, truly high-level talkers always have others in mind. Below is what I have collected for you on how to speak well. Welcome to learn from it.

To strangers

Once on the Guangzhou subway, I was in a hurry to change lines because I was catching the high-speed train. As soon as I turned around with my eyes on the sign, my cell phone suddenly stopped. It hit a middle-aged man in the stomach.

The phone was too hard, and I felt a little pain when it hit my chest, so I immediately bowed and apologized and said: Sorry, I’m sorry, are you okay?

The man used one He covered his stomach with his hands, opened his mouth wide, and his facial expression showed that he was in pain, but he quickly smiled, waved his hands and said: "I'm fine, it's fine. You should be careful when you walk in the future." ?

I said sorry a few more times and continued on my way. In fact, I knew that his stomach was really hurt when he was hit by the mobile phone, but he didn't care about it and asked me to be careful when I walk in the future. I instantly felt that the world is full of kindness.

I have seen it more than once on the roadside. Because I accidentally hit someone, I was scolded by the other person, and even asked to compensate for the damage.

In fact, these situations can often be overcome by the person who made the mistake sincerely saying "I'm sorry" and the other party saying "It's okay". Why bother to embarrass everyone?

What I understand about "being able to speak" is that you must first learn to say "I'm sorry" and "It's okay" to strangers.

How can a person in the world not have some bumps and bruises? You have to be merciful and merciful. It would be too boring to care about such small things in life.

To the family

When a few girlfriends got together, Tongtong seemed to have eaten explosives. As soon as she entered the door, she threw her bag on the sofa and said angrily: "That one in my family is really I'm so angry. ?

I smiled a little gloatingly and said: ?Why, your Mr. Li has made you unhappy again?

?It is simply too confusing. ?Tongtong said and sat down on the sofa.

It turns out that Tongtong changed into a new skirt when she went out, and her husband asked how much it cost. Tongtong said, "A few hundred?", and her husband replied, "Prodigal woman?" .

Originally this was also a joke between husband and wife. Tongtong laughed happily when she heard the words "prodigal women", but her husband then added: "Not much." It looks good. ?

Tongtong was furious. She dragged the man and asked: ?Do you mean the clothes are not good-looking or the person is not good-looking?

?Clothes? Clothes

Tong After Tong finished speaking, we were all amused.

Think about it carefully, in fact, what is called "being able to speak" means being able to understand the needs of the other person and meet his needs?

The woman bought new clothes and was filled with joy When asked if you look good, be sure to say "good-looking". She bought it all, but if you say it doesn’t look good, it will ruin her mood.

When a man comes back from get off work, he should not question him as soon as he walks in. Why are you coming back now? He has had a hard day, so why don’t you just say, “I’ll heat up a meal for you?” It’s not difficult. When your child comes home from school, don’t just ask someone: “What’s the score on the exam?”. During a day at school, he has many stories waiting to be shared with you.

To friends

It is said that borrowing money reflects character, especially among friends.

For a while, my bank card balance was running low and I needed money, so I asked a friend for two thousand. My friend was very happy and turned around within two minutes.

After repaying the money two weeks later, I sent her a small red envelope to thank her for her help.

My friend took the money and I paid it back to him, but he didn’t accept the red envelope. He said: "If there is a next time, don't give out red envelopes. No need to give out red envelopes." ?

Anyone who is willing to lend you money, no matter how much, must trust you enough. So I think we can’t let people suffer, and we have to give them some interest. My friends also feel that it is appropriate for friends to help each other, and charging interest would be inappropriate.

So we both did what we had to do. Although the other party didn't accept it, we both understood it in our hearts.