Watch Xiao Shede and talk about Tiger Mom and Chicken Baby.

Watching Little Shed, Talking about Tiger Mother and Chicken Baby

Writing on May 6th, 221

The 42 episodes of the hit drama Little Shed, which was chased for nearly a month, finally ushered in a happy ending on May 3rd. At the end of the play, I was still immersed in the melody of the theme song in the play. "Time goes by slowly, but it never stops. It knows that it can't take anything away, but it never demands it. Recalling being fat and thin, but never avoiding food, it knows what will never be enough and never lets go. "

This is a family drama focusing on Chinese children's education, which truly reflects the reality. The educational problems faced in the drama are difficult problems faced by contemporary parents. Life in the play is a situation that every one of us will face, and every anxiety and depression in the play makes people feel deja vu. As soon as the play started, because some scenes in the play were too real, some people said that real life was enough anxiety, and the play was still selling anxiety. There are many heartfelt scenes in the play, which make the audience feel the same for the anxiety of the people in the play, causing * * * feelings and * * * sounds, and also causing many reflections.

At the beginning of the play, the family gathered at a table to have dinner together, which was a complicated family relationship, including father Nan Jianlong, daughter Nan Li and his wife and a pair of children, mother Cai Juying, daughter Tian Yulan and his son. Reorganizing the family, half-way sisters, for the sake of Nanfu's face, in order to whitewash the peace, the family who are not the same people are determined to get together. Looking at this leg side by side, shoulder by shoulder, it seems to be quite close, but in fact, the face and heart are not harmonious, and eating meals is all in competition, and it is tired to look at it.

At the end of the play, the whole family got together, and after many twists and turns, they were finally able to speak kindly. But because of the epidemic, I couldn't eat at the same table, so I came to a cloud party and enjoyed a feast. The misunderstanding of the family has been eliminated, and the days on the clouds are high and wide, and the screens meet. Although they are far apart, their hearts are closer. Knowing that this is the need of the plot, family conflicts are so easy to resolve in real life, but I am sincerely happy for them, and I am also grateful to the screenwriter for arranging such an idealized and perfect ending, which makes me believe that life is still beautiful!

I won't say much about the specific plot. I'd better go and see it when I have time. The actors' acting skills are all online, which is a conscience drama, and it's worth wasting time to catch up. The theme of this issue of Literature Society is "Live in Your Heart, Live in My Heart". Let's talk about motherhood and feel maternal love. Let's talk about the story of tiger mother Tian Yulan and chicken baby Yan Ziyou through the characters in "Little Shede".

Let's start with Tian Yulan played by Rulu. Almost every contradiction in the play is caused by her. In the first episode, Tian Yulan took her son Yan Ziyou back to her grandmother's house for dinner. Because of her special family relationship, Tian Yulan always wanted to suppress her stepfather's daughter Nan Li. It happened that Nan Li's daughter Xia Huanhuan and Zi You were in the same class, and her son became Tian Yulan's "face".

At the dinner table, everyone was congratulating Huanhuan for winning the first prize in the singing contest. Tian Yulan's sensitive self-esteem was touched again, and suddenly his son was forced to recite pi to more than 1,. Even when you eat fruit after dinner, you will be tested for "cherry".

Tian Yulan has arranged intensive cram schools for Zi You since the first grade, such as Olympics, English, writing, etc. All other interests and hobbies have been cut off, and all the time has been spent on cram schools, in order to prepare for entering a prestigious school. Facing the sky-high school district, high tuition fees and high-quality private schools, the cost performance is relatively high. Choosing a school is an important aspect that every family is caught in educational anxiety at present. Who doesn't want to choose a good school for their children in a family with conditions? Achievement is the only criterion for choosing a school, and Xiaoshengchu has to make arrangements in advance.

Because his son didn't do well in the math exam, Tian Yulan suspected that Zhong Yi, a math teacher, didn't give a good lecture to the students in class, and reported that Zhong had run a cram school, which led to Zhong's expulsion from school. Unexpectedly, Mr. Zhong finally became the gold medal lecturer of the extracurricular tutoring institution "Choosing Numbers". In order to let his son enter the "Choosing Numbers", Tian Yulan tried his best to use all available social relations and humbly apologized to the teacher in front of parents and children, giving up his self-esteem for his son and losing his dignity at the same time.

Although Tian Yulan apologized in front of everyone, all she said was the sadness of being a parent. "A mother can suffer hardships, be involved and be wronged for her children, but she can't listen to others saying that her children are not at all; If it weren't for the children, who would like to fight for their lives with a red eyebrow and a white face? Before they became parents, who was not a little arrogant; The child is forced by his mother, struggling, and learning from morning till night. If the child falls into my hands, it is sorry for the child. "

When Ziyou cried at the class meeting, she said, Mom doesn't really like me, but she just likes me who got full marks! Tian Yulan said, everything I do is for your own good.

Later, even though she learned that Ms. Zhong was taunting Zi You in front of her classmates with emotion, she chose to turn a blind eye to the proud figures on her report card and forced Zi You to continue to attend the Olympics class. Even if the teacher crowded out, Zi You was forced to stay in the gold medal class of Olympic Mathematics. The suffocating education destroyed Zi You's psychological defense line little by little, and Zi You became hallucinated, unable to concentrate in class, and his grades dropped.

Tian Yulan tried her best to find a great god teacher for Ziyou. It is said that the great god teacher runs classes privately in violation of regulations, and the class is like a spy war drama. He has a secret code, so he can only know the place of class one hour in advance every day. Later, the Great God teacher suspected that Ziyou couldn't keep up with the progress and dropped out of Ziyou's class. Tian Yulan bought an expensive bottle of red wine to ask the Great God teacher. The wine broke on the road in the rain, and she insisted on buying another bottle. Mother put down her dignity again and again, and the gesture of condescending to beg for help became the last straw to crush Ziyou, and Ziyou was depressed and collapsed.

It is said that parents have "Jiu Nan in ten cases". From the parents' point of view, Tian Yulan, a mother, really takes great pains, does everything, does her best and does her duty. I am worried that the sugar content of watermelon is too high, which will affect my intelligence and prevent my son from eating watermelon leisurely; In order to get into a prestigious school, I ignored Zi You's self-esteem and forced him to go to an Olympic math class. Afraid of delaying study, I won't let Ziyou play football and raise snails. It seems that everything is for the good of the child, but she never considers the child's thoughts and wishes. So when Ziyou resents her, she says very grievance, I am doing it for your own good. Am I wrong?

In the final analysis, Tian Yulan's problem is still family of origin's problem. Tian Yulan had an alcoholic father who died young and failed to live up to expectations. His mother and daughter lived together, and their lives were hard and they were looked down upon. My mother worked as a caregiver to support my family. When Nanli's father was seriously ill, Nanli devoted herself to nursing. At that time, Nanpa felt that his life was running out and he could not take care of his "princess royal" wife. He also wanted to find someone to take care of himself. The two people with different identities were combined. Although the family mother and daughter lived a stable life, Yulan always felt that her mother lived a humble life.

Tian Mu's status as a mistress makes Yu Lan unable to lift her head at her mother's house and keep her waist straight at her husband's house. Even she herself is a little disgusted with her mother's mistress status. When she was angry, she said, Mother, even if you marry a widowed or divorced woman, why should you be a mistress? Although she was angry, Tianmu couldn't bear it, and she jumped with anger. Fortunately, the mother and daughter did not have a night feud, but they forgave their daughter.

Tian Yulan's rich second-generation husband is a shopkeeper of cutting and eating at home, but he loves his wife very much. Because the husband's family often gives money, they have the right to speak on many issues. Tian Yulan has always been alone in educating children, which is also a common phenomenon in current widowed education. When Ziyou has psychological problems, her parents-in-law and husband accuse her of being a mother and really suffering more grievances than others!

In recent years, parents in first-tier cities such as Beijing, Guangzhou, Shenzhen and so on have become popular with a way of encouraging education. The popular online hot word "Jiwa" came from this. Tiger moms and wolf dads, who want their children to be successful, constantly arrange studies and activities for their children so that they can read good books, and constantly let them struggle. These children are often born in middle-class families. Since childhood, their parents have arranged various trainings to fight chicken blood, with high expectations and high efforts to cultivate "chicken babies".

Tian Yulan in the play is a typical representative of this group. She imposes the injustice of fate on her children, hoping that they will become successful and not live like themselves. I put my regrets or self-expectation on my children, treating them as my own sculptures, and carefully sketching the "Brokeback Venus".

Tian Yulan's many practices in the play make people hate and angry at the same time feel a little sad and helpless. People who have been beaten by society are a little selfish. It is understandable to use their existing resources to maximize their own interests, but it is a bit annoying if they harm the interests of others.

Parents in China are generally anxious about education. The bigger the city, the more serious their anxiety. With limited quality education resources, they can't compete for themselves. I don't want my children to lose at the starting line. I have enrolled my children in various interest classes since I was a child, and I always pay attention to my children's grades and rankings. Once I am surpassed by other students, or my grades drop a little, I will feel particularly anxious.

Ordinary people, especially through their own efforts and struggles, have enjoyed the dividend of high-quality education, which makes them stand out from the class division. If it is more difficult to go up, it will be easier to go down. It's easy to go to the middle class, and no one wants to make the class decline because of children.

I have seen the end of my life at a glance, and my children are excellent, just like I have achieved success. Most people are trapped by the trend of the times, so they can only follow the crowd and take a relatively safe and fair road that most people are taking. Examination is undoubtedly the only measure, and "Chicken Baby" education came into being.

In the traditional Chinese parent-child relationship, parents are always strong, while children always play the role of passive acceptance. Love with compulsory meaning is often carried out in the way of "I'm not doing it for your own good" by parents, without thinking about whether the children want it or not. Parents work hard for a long time, children don't appreciate it, and they dislike parents' verbosity. Children want to do what they like, such as playing football and raising small animals, but parents think it's doing nothing. This accumulation of "Chinese-style parent-child communication" has made many parent-child relationships tense.

if you don't tutor your homework mother, you will be kind and filial, and the years will be quiet. A tutoring assignment is a chicken flying a dog jumping, and there is no peace at home. Tian Yulan's way of yelling at his son to learn is exactly the same as that of many parents in reality who treat their children with ghosts. Fortunately, both Tian Yulan and Yan Peng finally gave in to the reality, and no longer forced their children to study and let them grow up freely and happily.

There is always a trade-off in life. Everything about family and children is more important than grades, and nothing can be lost. However, this parent may be so entangled for a lifetime, entangled in the choice, and the children will grow up slowly!