My husband has moderate anxiety disorder? What should I do?

Hello, friend. The following is the note of an old friend of the counselor. I'm happy to answer your question.

If it is a confirmed problem, don't expect to heal itself, which is not only slow, but also ineffective. Judging from the actual situation you said, my friend, it may not be better in another year or two.

Please don't think I'm alarmist.

Let me explain briefly:

Everyone is subject to their own cognition and habits and will act according to their own cognition and habits. My cognition determines the joys and sorrows in my life, and my habits determine the general result of my actions, which in turn affects us.

Or to put it bluntly, I am responsible for what I am now, not others. So since it's your call and you don't change it, how do you change the problem? It may even get worse because you haven't changed.

Then what you can do at this time is to accompany and encourage your friends, and guide your lover to realize that what I said above is of course euphemistic, because it is obvious that he is a very fragile person, otherwise he would have solved the problem with you rather than escaped.

My friend, you just need to do what a wife should do now. As for professional problems, leave them to professionals, don't nag all the time. I'm sure your husband has made some efforts behind his back, and he doesn't want to do it himself.

But everything has a process. Friend, your responsibility is to accompany him through this process and protect yourself at the same time.

Professional problems, when the opportunity is right, find a professional to solve. Now, the role of drugs is limited. Personally, I think it is appropriate to find a suitable psychologist to help your friend solve the problem.

Friends, you can pull your lover to exercise moderately, relax, increase relaxed communication, give some encouragement and recognition, and often hug.

As for the rest, don't make too many attempts and efforts to avoid unnecessary stimulation.

The reason why he doesn't want to go is because of his inner sensitivity, fragility and inferiority, so he needs your approval and encouragement from his friends, so that he can have the courage to face these.

Thank you, my friend, for reading.

Many people think that anxiety is that they think too much and can be self-regulated. Patients with mild anxiety can try to adjust themselves first, such as relaxing, reducing stress and changing their mentality. Patients with moderate or above anxiety disorder should seek professionals in time, exclude other diseases and treat anxiety disorder under the correct guidance of professionals.

Treatment methods include drug therapy, psychotherapy and physical therapy. Patients diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder must receive systematic and regular treatment. Drug treatment can really relieve symptoms and reduce the recurrence of diseases.

How to prevent the recurrence of anxiety disorder? Anxiety disorder is not terrible. After regular treatment, many patients can be completely cured, return to their previous style and work and study normally. However, just like heart disease, hypertension and other physical diseases, in order to prevent recurrence, patients with anxiety disorder also need to receive formal treatment under the guidance of professionals, and we can't stop there. We also need enough treatment time, at the same time, we can carry out psychotherapy, change bad cognition, solve practical problems and promote personality development.

How to make daily adjustment for anxiety disorder? ① Choose aerobic exercise that suits you: such as brisk walking, jogging, cycling, swimming, badminton, table tennis, aerobics, radio exercises, Tai Ji Chuan, dancing, etc.

② Keep an optimistic attitude: In today's society, life and work are under great pressure, and there are different problems to face in the face of heavy work every day, so I feel negative and inevitable. We should adjust ourselves in time and don't let negative emotions induce anxiety.

③ Relaxation training: Relaxation training can make the body relax from the tense state.

You can choose a quiet place with comfortable chairs (single person sofa is more suitable), and you can sit or lie down. Before relaxing training, loosen tight clothes, ties, belts and shoes, and take off glasses, jewelry and watches. Close or half close your eyes, take a few deep breaths first, and exhale evenly and slowly after each inhalation. Then start relaxation training, each muscle contracts for 5 seconds, then relax 10 seconds, and repeat 2 ~ 3 times. Let patients learn how to feel when muscles are tense, that is, contract muscle groups; Then relax the muscle groups and pay attention to the feeling of relaxation. During the training, you can take a deep breath properly, stop after each inhalation, and then exhale slowly. The muscles of the whole body are carried out in turn.

Talk to people and seek social support: When you are depressed, you should talk to friends and relatives, which will often make your mood turn from cloudy to sunny immediately.

⑤ Broaden interest and transfer emotions: Frustration, worry and anxiety are inevitable in the process of life, and interest is an important way to maintain a good mental state. The key is to find ways that suit you, such as reading, calligraphy, listening to music, watching movies and so on.

6. Be lenient with others, and be contented: there are inevitably contradictions between people. As long as it's not a matter of principle, we should be kind and tolerant to others.

Being able to go home in the middle of the night means that he has recovered. Generally, people with anxiety will feel safe when they go home. He is just talking about illness now. Go talk to him. You're already anxious. It's no use just guessing until the problem is solved.

Hello! You can feel your anxiety when you see your problems. Calm your emotions first. Only when you are in good health can you make your family live better and take care of your husband and children.

After this year's epidemic, some people may have post-traumatic stress disorder. People who have suffered from anxiety or depression are likely to relapse again. March-May is also the high incidence of depression. People with this medical history should pay more attention. You can find a suitable opportunity for them to talk it over. First, care about whether he is unwell. Don't always ask him what he does. If he doesn't want to say that you ask too much, it will make the other person disgusted.

How did you and your husband get through this difficulty?

Every happy marriage needs energy and hard work to maintain. When encountering difficulties, it is even more challenging for two people to spend together. Your husband has a history. Don't doubt that he may be having an affair. He may be sick. Pay more attention to him, especially couples with depression and anxiety. The following suggestions are for your reference:

1. Two people usually communicate more, don't blame each other, and don't show it on their faces when they are emotional.

2. You can exercise properly, such as walking.

3. Be positive and optimistic when things happen, and think positively.

4. Encourage each other more and be patient.

5. Accompany him to see a doctor.