Revelation of Life

Xu Banghu

How many old friends do you still have?

Old friends are like flesh and blood that cannot be separated

I always let go when I think of you I shed tears

How many old friends do you still have

Staying in your heart in your dreams

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Recently I heard Liu Hegang The song "How Many Old Friends Do You Still Have" I sang was very touching. Thinking of old friends who have passed away, sighs, regrets and condolences are intertwined in my heart. You only have one life, and if it passes, it is gone forever. What is left to relatives and friends is endless sadness and lingering voice and smile.

Mr. X died young. That noon with strong winds and thunderstorms. You rush to collect clothes in the rain regardless of danger. A thunderbolt and you fell in the rainstorm. He left behind his elderly parents and left behind his babbling children. Your loved ones are heartbroken and will never see your lively, handsome and unrestrained image again.

Natural disasters are as fierce as tigers, but some natural disasters are completely avoidable. Mr. A loud bang ended a precious life. Poor, pitiful!

Mr. L has a better career, parents, a wife and children. However, Mr. L cannot adapt to society or the subtle relationships between people. There is always a heavy stone in my heart, and I am cautious and at a loss as to what to do. Wrap yourself in a sleeve and covet the ever-changing world. I remember one time he asked me if anyone said anything bad about him behind his back. I think it's ridiculous for him to ask this. He's talking about other people, so just say what you want. As long as you don't violate national laws or social morality, what should you be afraid of?

In Mr. L’s heart, society is sinister, the scenery is dark, and the relationships between people are cold. If you have nothing to love in life, you will die from the world. What a pity!

Mr. Y is upright, generous, and dares to speak and act. No matter what the occasion is, no matter who you are, as long as he thinks it is unreasonable, he will be filled with righteous indignation and criticize you mercilessly. It often makes the other party unable to step down. As a result, he offended some people, but he remained the same.

It is true that fire damages the liver. Suffering from hepatitis B can turn into cirrhosis and lead to liver cancer. During my illness, I was still very angry. I advised him to pay attention to the way he spoke and to be patient when things happened. He said, "I might as well die like this?" I was speechless. Mr. Y soon fell seriously ill and died. Sad! Sad!

Mr. J, who was nearly seventy years old and usually in good health, suddenly died of illness and was still surprised to hear the bad news. Mr. J is open-minded and has the demeanor of a general, and ordinary things are trivial in his eyes. Getting along with friends is casual, affectionate, and helpful. His classmates and friends all like him. But he could not integrate into the family. After the children got married, his wife went to the city to take care of the grandchildren. He lives alone in a rural town and has an irregular life. I sleep during the day and play chess online at night. Suddenly one day, I fell asleep on the floor and no one knew. Until the child called home and no one answered, he asked someone to visit and found him lying on the ground, dying. He was sent to the hospital for emergency treatment, but there was nothing he could do to save him.

If the wife and children were around, the ending might not be like this. What a sigh!

Mr. Z always smokes and likes to drink. He is in his sixties and skinny. Once he contracted the disease, his body was unable to withstand the disease and he died in the West. What a pity!

Ms. W is a talented woman and university teacher. Usually busy with family and work, I neglect my body. Occasionally I get a minor illness and take some medicine to relieve the pain. As is often the case, eventually a minor illness turns into a serious illness. When I go to the hospital for examination, I find it is already in the advanced stage and I die. Sad, sad!

Mr. D is a successful person with a lot of wealth. Emphasis on feelings and nostalgia for old love. Among ordinary classmates and friends, he truly believed that "no matter how rich or noble we are, we should never forget each other." He started a business and continued to expand production, and it was prosperous. He once said to me, "I like to do things like this, not only to make money, but mainly to serve society." What a noble entrepreneur! I once advised him to take care of his health, and he always said, "It's okay, it's okay." Unexpectedly, I was shocked to hear that he died of cerebral hemorrhage a few days ago.

Mr. D was only in his early fifties, and it was the time when he was working on his career. He left in such a hurry, leaving his beloved career, his warm family, and his relatives and friends. Alas! Alas!

If Mr. D takes the time to check his body, knows his physical condition, and pays attention in his daily life and work, he can completely avoid this happening.

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I really don’t want to list any more examples. Every time I think of these old friends, classmates, and colleagues who have passed away, I feel so sad! Sad! "Relatives may be grieving, but others have also sung their songs. What's the point of dying? It's the same mountain that supports the body." What else can the living do besides mourning? Drawing lessons from the past, what do you think of from the lives that have passed away?

Paul Korchagin said, "The most precious thing for people is life. Life is only once for everyone." Once life is lost, it will never come back. If life ends naturally, like a ripe fruit, there will be no regrets. But death should not occur, just like green mango seeds that are not yet fully ripe and are picked by humans. Wouldn't it be a pity!

Therefore, the length of life is not completely controlled by God, but a large part of it is controlled by yourself. We should respect life and cherish life. How to cherish and care for life varies from person to person and cannot be generalized. As far as the public is concerned, I would like to share my views on cherishing life and have fun with my friends.

Be broad-minded. The Buddha said, "A big belly can tolerate things that are difficult to tolerate in the world." As long as it is not a matter of principle, what else cannot be tolerated? "With a broad mind, put aside your worries." Face the complicated people and things optimistically, remain unchanged in response to all changes, and "I remain unmoved" in the face of various difficulties. Such people will definitely live a long life. Zhuangzi's broad-mindedness and detachment, his optimistic tolerance of all things, his ability to resolve right and wrong, and his indifference to the joys and sorrows of life should inspire us. Liang Shiqiu once said, "Enjoy life without being indulging, see through life without being negative, no matter how impetuous the world is, try to maintain elegance, tranquility and indifference."

Looking at the long-lived people in the world, there are no Not an open-minded person. For example, Mr. Yang Jiang lived to be 106 years old. She was criticized during the Cultural Revolution, and later lost her only beloved daughter, and then her beloved husband. She was able to bounce back from the adversity. Anyone who lives a long life is open-minded, positive and optimistic. And those who are narrow-minded and suspicious, those who have bad tempers and get angry easily, and those who are good at calculation and conspiracy, their life spans are rarely long. For example, the small official in "Death of a Small Official" and Belikov in "The Man in the Box" were worried about every little thing all day long, and finally died of physical and mental exhaustion. A person with a bad temper will burst into tears, become angry, and be sad and hurt when something goes wrong.

Fame and fortune are a little less important. Don't pursue any false fame, don't be greedy for money outside your body. We must "be indifferent in prosperous places and nourish our hearts in quiet places." If you cut off unnecessary desires, you will be able to encounter green mountains, green waters and splendid peach blossoms. Let's take a look at what Zhuangzi said, "The most noble people don't want titles. The richest people don't want money. The happiest people don't want reputation. This is the highest way." Ji Xianlin, a master of Chinese studies, lived to be nine More than ten years old. People gave him the title of "Master of Chinese Studies", but he modestly said, I can't even be called a primary school master of Chinese Studies. Although he is very knowledgeable, he is never arrogant. One year when school started, a freshman registered at Peking University. Because he was busy with the registration procedures, his luggage was unattended. He saw an old man coming and thought he was a school security guard, so he asked him to look after his luggage. After waiting for him to complete the formalities for more than an hour, the old man was still beside his luggage. A few days later, the school held an entrance ceremony for freshmen, and he saw the old man sitting on the podium, and then he realized that he was the famous Mr. Ji Xianlin.

Have more friends. There are more friends and more information. Everyone gets together, communicates, sings, dances, has unlimited happiness, and the probability of getting sick is greatly reduced. Without friends, you isolate yourself, become depressed, and get sick easily. There are such people who always think that they are "lower people", whose status, money, and family are not as good as others. They belittle themselves and are ashamed to meet others. There is also a kind of person who thinks that he is a "white snow", a bit aloof and aloof, and does not want to be with ordinary people. He hides in a small building and enjoys himself in isolation.

These people who are self-isolated and ignorant over time are likely to suffer from Alzheimer's disease.

Life Science Points. The diet should be light, coarse food should be matched with fat and fat, and all kinds of nutrients should be taken in. Don't be greedy for a glass of wine, and don't smoke clouds. If there are any abnormalities in your body, you should not take it lightly and seek medical advice promptly. To prevent a minor ailment from turning into a major disaster and getting out of hand. Because Ms. W ignored minor illnesses and pains and took some medicine to relieve the pain, she eventually became a serious illness that the hospital could no longer treat. There are countless examples like this. A minor illness is delayed again and again, the best chance of treatment is lost, and in the end, we can only resign ourselves to fate. We need to be careful everywhere in life, as dangers surround us all the time. This may seem a bit unfounded, but it is not the case. Do not be careless or take risks when encountering problems. Especially after retirement, although you may be young at heart, you must realize that old age is coming. Stop doing what young and middle-aged people do to prevent accidents from happening. I once saw a video of an old man watching young people playing parallel bars with ease. He tried it too, but ended up falling flat on his face.

Exercise more. Life lies in movement, this is an irrefutable truth. My back hurts after sitting for a long time, and I feel dizzy after sleeping for a long time. Get outside, stretch your muscles, and unblock your blood vessels. Only by getting rid of the twilight energy and welcoming the vitality can life be full of vitality. Of course, exercise must also be scientific and not blind. Determine the exercise method according to your own physical condition.

A little more kindness. Mencius said: "A benevolent person loves others." A benevolent person is full of loving kindness. Because if you love others, others will love you too. Surrounded by love, you will be in a happy mood, and the benevolent will live longer. A family full of love, with the elders and younger ones in order, and living harmoniously under one roof will also prolong life. If the family often quarrels, the husband and wife are hostile to each other, the elders and the young reject each other, often quarrel and quarrel, and the heart is full of anger, endocrine disorders will occur, and it is easy to get sick. Of course, we must also love everyone in society. Confucius said: "Old people are like the old people, young people are like the young people." If you love others and do good deeds, you will always be happy. If you look at others with suspicion, treat others with a mentality that they have nothing to do with you, and treat society with hatred, you will become more and more selfish, and your heart will become darker and darker, which is not good for your physical and mental health.

Less inert. Whether you are young or old, if you work harder, you will have a sense of accomplishment. Especially for retired old people, don't think that you will enjoy happiness after retirement, doing nothing and leisurely all day long. After a long time, you will feel that life is very boring. Depressed and depressed, with no passion for life. Helping your children buy groceries, cook and take care of them is a blessing, not a punishment. In addition to enjoying family happiness, it is also to realize the value of one's own existence. The elderly should also have their own pursuits, such as singing, dancing, painting, calligraphy, reading and graffiti, photography, etc. This kind of pursuit should not have utilitarian thoughts, but should be pursued in self-appreciation and self-entertainment. If your body is diligent and your mind is diligent, your life will be meaningful and your body will be healthier!

As you age, your body will deteriorate. If you get sick, don't panic. Treat it calmly and challenge it calmly. With a strong mind, it is possible to defeat the disease, alleviate the pain, and delay the disease. Face life with a smile and face illness with a smile.

I wish everyone in the world a healthy life every day, and I wish my old friends a healthy and long life! Let's bathe in the sunset and move towards tomorrow together. At this time, the melody of "How many old friends do you still have" sounded in my ears again...

How many old friends do you still have?

I will go with you in spring, summer, autumn and winter.

Old friends are like drinking a glass of fine wine

Warm my life

Stay with me forever

Author introduction: Xu Banghu , retired teacher. Nine Drops of Seawater contracted writer and editor. I like to take walks and be fascinated by nature. In my spare time, I flip through books, occasionally gain insights, and doodle casually. When you grow old, you forget all the things in this world and enjoy a cup of boiling water to comfort you for the rest of your life.

Yidianhao Qingmei in Northern Shandong

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