Children's fear

The fear of endangering children will affect children's physical and mental health if it occurs frequently, and even lead to psychosomatic diseases or mental diseases in severe cases. The fear reaction can be manifested as panic, screaming, shrinking, pain, asking for help, and even escaping or confronting, which is most typical when children receive medical treatment (such as injecting drugs). Sympathetic nerve excitement symptoms may appear when children are afraid, such as accelerated breathing, rapid heartbeat, tense expression, dilated pupils and shaking hands. In severe cases, they may show nervous panic, pale face, limb paralysis, and even temporary incontinence or mental depression. Play a positive role. Proper use of children's fear can educate and motivate children. For example, use children's fear of doing something wrong to guide children's behavior standardization; Teachers use students' fear of bad grades and failing grades to guide and encourage children to study hard and be good students; Use children's fear of climbing or other dangerous situations to guide children to choose safe and healthy games or play methods. Don't make a fuss about how to treat adults' fear of children, but give patient explanations, comfort and encouragement, give courage to children and help them eliminate fear. There are many ways to correct it, among which the most simple and effective is the "demonstration desensitization method", that is, children are gradually exposed to the object of fear with protection and gradually eliminate the fear. For example, children should walk through the dark place (darkroom or field) by holding or holding his hand first, and tell them that darkness is not terrible. After one or two times, after the child adapts, he can accompany him through the darkness instead. After that, you can keep a distance with your child and walk through the darkness. Finally, let the children go through the darkness alone. After such exercise, children are no longer afraid of the dark. The correction is actually the training of children's brave spirit. Training can be supplemented by rewards. When children are brave and not afraid, they will be rewarded and praised immediately. How to prevent children from having fear? First, don't spoil children. Child psychologists believe that doting is the most harmful to children's psychological development. Parents who dote on their children often overprotect them. When they see their children showing a little fear, they immediately take them away from the objects of fear, which makes them lose many opportunities to exercise their courage. If this goes on, it will be of no benefit to the shaping of children's strong personality. Most spoiled children are timid, dependent and lack of self-confidence, so the incidence of fear will be higher. Second, it is not suitable for children to be capricious. Third, parents should not casually lose their temper with their children. Children are too afraid of their parents, and they will be distracted all day, watching their parents' faces, fearing that their parents will lose their temper for no reason, and they will be punished for no reason, thus forming a bad habit of shrinking. Fourth, don't blame your child too much for doing something wrong. You can express your anger in moderation, correctly use your child's fear of doing something wrong, educate and guide your child to learn well, and you can't blame too much. Excessive censure will dampen children's self-esteem, reduce their self-confidence and even aggravate their fear. Experts answer my questions > > More > > Q: The fear is too serious. The child is over 6 years old, and she will graduate from kindergarten in a few days. My baby has a problem that worries me very much now, that is, she is very afraid. When adults teach her knowledge, she doesn't listen carefully. Instead, she thinks that if I can't learn it, adults will be angry with me. If she is asked about the knowledge she has learned, she can't answer it for a while. She doesn't think about this question, but thinks that if adults can't talk about her, she will be afraid first. I know this, so I used great patience to teach her, not to mention her, but she seems to have fallen behind the root of the disease. I regret it, and I don't know what to do, but ... A: That must be because you were too strict with your child's education before, so the child is afraid of you now. The first thing you should do now is to give your child more care, communicate with your child more, and let your child believe that you love her. Secondly, we should praise and encourage children to believe that they have the ability to learn what they should learn. The child's psychology has been formed, and you can't change it in a day and a half, so you must be very patient and guide the child little by little. Q: How to overcome the baby's fear? My baby is 18 months old. She has been particularly afraid of balloons since she played with her when she was about one year old. Now only someone gives her balloons or something similar to balloons, and she immediately cries with fear and holds on to adults. How can she overcome this fear? A: The child has established a connection between balloons and terror. If she wants to eliminate her fear of balloons, she should do training slowly. First, take a ball and let her shoot. When she is not afraid of the ball, let her play with a colored plastic ball similar to a balloon, and so on. But don't worry, do training slowly. Q: How to eliminate the baby's fear? My baby is 28 months old. I took her to swim the day before yesterday. Maybe her father was not careful when he hugged her, and the edge of his pants rubbed down. When he went home to pee, he cried and said it hurt, but later he refused to pee, and he was afraid. Today, I peed directly on my pants, but I didn't cry when I peed. In fact, it didn't hurt. But she was afraid and refused to pee. Is there any way for your baby to eliminate fear? Question added: I held her for two days and refused to pee, so I just stood and peed. I really don't know what to do. What should I tell her? A: Hello, this mother! First of all, you must be sure that the baby is not in pain, not just by our adult feelings. If the physical pain is really eliminated, then it is necessary to pay attention to whether the baby's psychology really produces fear. You should be calm, don' t be nervous and anxious, don' t always emphasize that dad accidentally fell on the baby, which made the baby afraid to pee, and don' t reprimand and accuse the baby because the baby stood and peed his pants, and calmly change the baby with clean underwear. Needless to say, the dead baby knows what is comfortable and uncomfortable, and she also has a certain degree of self-esteem. I believe your seemingly "indifferent" will definitely make you feel comfortable. Q: How to eliminate the baby's fear? My baby is 28 months old. I took her swimming the day before yesterday. Maybe her father was not careful when he hugged her, and the edge of his pants rubbed down. When he went home to pee, he cried and said it hurt. Later, he refused to pee, and he was afraid. Today, I peed directly on my pants, but I didn't cry when I peed. In fact, it didn't hurt. But she was afraid and refused to pee. Is there any way for your baby to eliminate fear? I tried many ways, but it didn't work. I don't know what to do. A: Hello, maybe the child will have a little pain somewhere. Parents should pay attention to see if there is any bump, redness or something, and then blow on the child, saying, Mom will blow on it. It doesn't matter. The baby is brave. Give it a try. Mom believes you can do it. More encouragement will make you better. And tell the child that it was an accident, and that it was only because dad was not careful. Dad will pay attention in the future. Babies should also pay attention to safety. Q: My daughter is one year old and five months old. Yesterday, she had a cold and fever, and she vomited and diarrhea. She took her to the hospital to see a doctor. As a child, I asked the doctor how to change her finger, and replied, "Beat". At this moment, my daughter just ate her hand, and the doctor hit her arm, which made her unable to eat, and she was scared to cry. After returning home, I didn't hit her, but I did when she wanted to eat. One year old and five months old, I can only say simple words like "Mom and Dad". Is there anything abnormal? My understanding and hearing are normal. A: Personally, I think this doctor's method is not appropriate. Beating can only make children scared for a while, but it can't solve the real problem. Generally speaking, children have the habit of eating their fingers, which means that they haven't had a good appetite. That is to say, within one year old, some basic physiological requirements have not been met. One-year-old and five-month-old babies have little to do with eating their fingers, so don't deliberately correct it. Because the more anxious adults are to correct it, the more they strengthen this behavior. You can try to distract your child and try to satisfy his reasonable wishes. It is normal to say simple words at the age of one year and five months, as long as the child's hearing is fine, it doesn't matter. Q: How to eliminate children's fear A: Hello! Children's timidity, fear, introversion, shyness, fear of strangers and dislike of talking to strangers are related to many factors. 1, related to the family environment. Some children live in a small range, usually only in their own families, rarely go out to play, have little contact with outsiders, are highly dependent, and cannot adapt to the environment independently. Such children hide when they meet strangers, and if they go to a new environment, they will adapt slowly. 2. Improper family education methods. Some children don't listen to their parents. If they cry or don't listen and don't eat properly, their parents scare them with the language they are afraid of, such as saying, "If you cry again, I'll throw you outside and let the tiger eat you." If the baby wants to play with mud, his parents are afraid to get dirty, saying that there are bugs biting your hands in the mud and so on, threatening the children, thus making them lose their sense of security and form cowardice. 3. Parents restrict their children too much in their daily life, which makes them afraid to try and gain knowledge and experience in practice, which also leads to timidity and introversion. What should I do for timid, fearful, introverted, shy and shy children? 1. Create a harmonious and relaxed environment for children. In a harmonious and relaxed environment, children are easy to form a confident and stable character. Parents should discuss things more, and don't make a scene in front of their children. 2. Educate children without being too blunt or intimidating. If parents intimidate their children, they use an extreme method. For example, some parents punish their children for squatting in a dark room when they are disobedient. Some say that if the child is disobedient, the goblin will take the child away; This method will easily lead to children's timid and timid habits. Therefore, parents should be calm and persuasive when educating their children. 3. With the help of parents, encourage children to do things that challenge the limits or participate in stimulating activities that challenge. 4. Cultivate children's self-esteem and self-confidence, fully decentralize and encourage children to be independent. Children should usually be allowed to do something by themselves. 5. Let the father influence the children. In China's traditional concept, men are a representative of masculinity, courage and self-confidence. It is beneficial to cultivate the baby's good conduct to let the father take the children to play and play games. In short, with the growth of the baby, we should let the child get in touch with the outside world more, know more about the world, and encourage the child to explore and try, and cultivate the brave spirit of the child from practice. Q: I was afraid of going to kindergarten. When I was 3 years old, I went to kindergarten. At first, it was not bad. I didn't cry much. We were sick for a few days, and then I cried badly every time I went there, and I had to sleep as soon as I went. He kept crying without sleeping, and the teacher said he didn't want to play with other children. Or you have to go to the bathroom all the time. But it's fine to take him back, and he has a good time taking him out with the children at the door. What should I do? A: Hello, the baby has an adaptation period when he enters the park. It is normal that he doesn't like to go. At this time, he should understand and appease the baby more. On weekends, he can invite his classmates and parents to come out to play together and find a good friend for the baby, which will help him adapt to kindergarten life as soon as possible. During this time, parents should grasp the principle, and they should not give up when the baby cries. Q: How can we help children eliminate fear? How can we help children eliminate fear? Answer: 1. Accept the baby's fears frankly. Although the baby's fears sometimes seem stupid and irrational, their fears are still real and serious. When the baby tells you that he is afraid of something, such as a toilet, a whistle, etc., be sure to look into his eyes and listen to him carefully. Let the baby tell his fears, and listing his fears will help him overcome them. On the contrary, avoid what the baby fears, and those feelings of fear will not really disappear from the baby's heart. Don't laugh at him rudely because of his ridiculous ideas, and don't try to explain to the baby that those things are not terrible. He has no reason to be afraid, which will make him doubt his feelings and make him feel more uneasy. The best way is to face his fear with understanding and calmness, and let him know that his fear is normal and you understand his fear. Mother's calm attitude will not make him feel that his fear is a stupid thing, but also make him feel very at ease. For example, if the baby is afraid of dogs, don't say to him, "It doesn't matter, that dog won't bite you, there's nothing to be afraid of." A clever mother should respond to the baby like this: "I know you are afraid of that dog. Come on, will mom walk with you?" You don't want to walk there? Well, mom can take you there. You see, he won't bite us. It's not terrible at all, is it? " 2. Let the comfort things bring the baby a sense of security. Many babies like to drag a tattered little blanket or a dilapidated hairy bear wherever they go. These items can make the anxious baby settle down in a strange environment or feel scared. If the baby depends on his comfort, let the baby take his comfort, because the baby's tattered little blanket or shabby hairy bear can help him get rid of his inner fear and anxiety. Generally, by the age of 4, the baby's attachment to comfort will be reduced, and he will begin to try to ease his fears in other ways. 3. Give the baby some reasonable and simple explanations. Explain it to the baby in a simple way, which can sometimes help the baby get rid of his inner fears. For example, when a baby takes a shower and sees the water in the bathtub flowing into the sewer, he may worry that he will be sucked into the sewer. At this time, the mother can hug the baby and tell him, "water and bubbles will flow into the sewer, but rubber ducks and babies will not." If the baby is afraid of the sound of the ambulance, tell the baby: "The ambulance wants to save people, so it should make a loud noise so that other cars can hear it and make way for it." 4. convince the baby with facts. If the baby sees some facts with his own eyes, he will become more at ease. For example, if the baby is afraid of being sucked away by the vacuum cleaner, the mother can suck the vacuum cleaner at the baby's toy and at her toes, and convince the baby with facts that the vacuum cleaner can only suck away dust, not the baby's toy, nor his toes, nor his whole body. If the baby is afraid of a haircut, ask the barber to cut off one or two hairs of the baby first, so as to convince the baby that a haircut really won't hurt him. If the baby's past experience, such as the tingling feeling caused by vaccination, scares him, it's best for the mother not to deceive the baby with the words "the injection doesn't hurt at all", and don't describe the "painful" feeling caused by vaccination in detail, just gently tell him the true feeling of the injection: there will be a little pain at the beginning of the injection, but the pain will soon disappear. Then make an appointment with the baby to do something very interesting after the injection. At this time, the baby's fear of injection can be alleviated. It should be noted that when the baby has an injection, the mother can stay by his side and hold his little body, which can enhance his confidence in overcoming fear. 5. Help your baby know what he fears. Choosing a safe distance for your baby and giving him a chance to know what scares him is also one of the good ways to help your baby overcome his fear. For example, show some to the baby