Never argue with people at different levels.

Never argue with people at different levels. The meaning of this sentence is not to look down on people whose cognitive level is lower than their own, nor to seek superiority, but to say that quarreling is not the best way to get along with people with different cognitive levels.

Summer insects are far from ice, and their life span is so short. Why do you laugh at its shallow knowledge of winter and why do you have to let it admit the existence of ice?

Similarly, a person's cognitive limitations are not all the result of subjective efforts, and the external environment often accounts for most of the reasons. If you argue with someone whose cognition is lower than yours, the final result can only be to hurt others and yourself.

1, different cognition, different understanding

Background knowledge is the basis for us to think and understand things, just like if you don't know English, you can't understand movies with pure English subtitles.

Different people have different background knowledge, so their understanding of things will be biased. Background knowledge reflects a person's past cognitive level and determines his future cognitive level to some extent. People with different background knowledge can't talk together.

Communicating with people whose cognitive level is lower than yours will lead to the phenomenon that he can't understand what you say and you can't understand what he says. And if communication becomes an argument, from simple point of view sharing to discussing right and wrong, it is unnecessary to let each other think according to their own logic.

No one likes to be persuaded. The more you argue, the more you make the other side stand firm. At this time, if two people can't control their emotions well, they will rise from arguing to personal attacks, and the final result must be hurting others.

Teacher Huang Zhizhong once said in an article that everyone's existing opinions, ideas, ideas or positions in his mind are the result of his preferences and choices in countless life experiences in the past.

If you can't help a person break through his cognitive limitations, don't argue with him about things beyond his cognitive scope. Just as elders tell young people a lot of life experiences, young people have to take many detours, and things beyond cognition are simply incomprehensible.

2. Different viewpoints and circles.

The formation of a person's three views is inseparable from his growth experience, his environment, the external information he accepts and his own thinking ... so the three views will not be changed easily.

The so-called consistency of three views does not mean that we have the same interests and personality characteristics, but that although we have differences, we can understand and respect each other.

However, people with different viewpoints have different views on the world and the pursuit of the value of life.

The joys and sorrows of human beings are not interlinked, and it is more difficult for people with different views to understand each other. People who are satisfied with a corner can't understand the romance of the stars and the sea, and people who yearn for poetry and distance can't understand the happiness of simple food.

People with different views are forcibly put together, and no matter how they run in, they will not get along well. People with the same ideas and pursuits will gradually form a circle.

Different ways, no common goal. Some people like to wander around, while others like to live a stable life. No one has a wrong outlook on life. What is wrong is the person who wants to force his own ideas into other people's heads and let him live according to his own wishes.

There is no need to argue with different viewpoints and circles, and there is no need to be strong.

Similarly, it is useless to reason with unreasonable people, talk about the future with short-sighted people, talk about generosity with narrow-minded people, and talk about kindness with extremely vicious people.

3. Different horizons and different patterns.

The cognitive gap between people can't be eliminated just by arguing a few words. Sometimes it is the best way to deal with cognitive differences.

For people whose cognitive level is lower than yours, don't crush them with your own cognitive height, and don't get the so-called superiority from him, which will only expose your inferiority.

For people with higher cognitive level than you, don't rush to deny his different views with their own inherent cognition, because he is standing in a higher place and seeing the scenery that you can't see.

The lower the cognitive level, the more firmly you believe in your own views, and the less you can accept new views; The higher the cognitive level, the more open-minded people will be to voices different from themselves.

Many times, you think that when you get to the top of the mountain, you can overlook everything below. As we all know, besides this mountain, there are many higher mountains, some people have climbed them, but you are still trapped in your own cognitive limitations without knowing it.

If you can realize that your time is expensive, you won't waste it on meaningless arguments that consume you. It is wise to manage your life well, constantly refresh your cognition, broaden your horizons and improve the pattern.