What should I do? I am a mother who doesn’t like to laugh.

The two sons came home from basketball lessons on the weekend. As soon as the door opened, they heard the eldest son say to his dad: Well, mom really doesn’t like to smile.

Another time, I came home from school in the evening. The children were playing by themselves in the living room and I was cooking in the kitchen. Then he suddenly said to me without warning: Mom. Why don't you like to laugh?

As I recall myself, this is indeed the case, and the child is right. I am also reflecting on why I just don’t like to laugh. Sometimes I am really in a bad mood, so I don't like to talk much, and my mood is relatively low, so naturally I don't have a smile on my face. Sometimes even if it is an ordinary day with nothing to be happy about, I will remain in this state and still have a beautiful smile on my face.

When I am working, I smile less often. But out of basic respect for your colleagues, you should still smile when you meet them. When I return home, my family are my closest friends, but I pour out my emotions on them unscrupulously, which makes it even harder to laugh. But sometimes, even though I have a busy day, when it’s time to pick up my child from school, I see him running out of the day care happily, carrying a schoolbag, clothes, a hat, and another toy bag in his hand. Yes, I immediately became happy because I really missed my child so much! Although it is just a temporary separation during the day, I will be very happy when this cute little elf appears in front of me again. Then I would talk and laugh to him like a baby. I often act like a baby with my children, so my children would do the same to me.

The two of us were so sticky, you kissed me, I kissed you, I pinched his little fleshy arms, touched his neck, touched his face, touched his waist, then This kind of love is so expressive and true that I even treat him like a toy and sometimes hug him. In short, I just love him so much. At this time I will laugh.

But there are many times when I am indeed silent and expressionless. I am also reflecting on myself, and I am also observing everyone. I see that everyone is working calmly. No one laughs all the time. Of course, the workplace must be a bit serious and occasionally make jokes. It is possible. But after returning home, you need to relax and return to your family. I’m afraid everyone will behave differently at this time.

Why don’t I always smile at home, or in front of my children? In fact, children are very smart, and your fake smile can be easily exposed. It is unreal. Yes, a hypocritical smile must not convey love. And sometimes I laugh just for the sake of laughing, but this kind of smile is also unreal and has no trace of natural expression.

My husband told me that I should forget about work every time I go home, especially not to talk about my unhappiness at work or unpleasant things while eating. Don't bring your work emotions home. You can share happy things with your family, but don't talk about bad things. Don't treat your family as a trash can. This is especially bad for children. I feel it is an unintentional expression, but my heart is full of negative energy, so I will pay attention to this matter in the future.

One time during dinner, I was talking about work. They were all complaints about the recent extended work system. My husband interrupted: Do you have anything else to say that makes you happy? Don’t talk about this matter! So I kept silent, and naturally I felt bad.

The children all said, Mom, why don’t you laugh? I must reflect on my performance, because in general I am a relatively optimistic person, not a pessimistic person. Although sometimes I like silence and loneliness, but for the family and children in my life, facing such a real existence, I We must return to nature, our true nature, and the real world.

I think that an authentic mother, a real mother, must show her true self to her family. Of course, within her own ability, she must try to make her family happy, because family is our most important The existence of the core, we are attached to the family, we return to the family, all our happiness and joy must be shared with the family to last long, all our sadness and pain must be shared one by one by the family, because we are a family, we must be right to each other. Be responsible for each other’s lives and happiness!

Thank you, my child. Mom knows that she is not doing well. Sometimes she does go home and tell you some annoying things because of her worries at work, but her original intention is to say it out. I'll feel better when I get out. Mom didn't say it to ask you to help me share the burden, but objectively it brought you unhappiness. Mom is really sorry. I didn't consider the seriousness of this matter. Mom must pay attention to it in the future, maintain a good mood, and even work. Difficulties are temporary. We must work hard to overcome it, overcome it, and share more exciting good news with you.

Thank you, my child. Mom knows that sometimes it’s not good. I didn’t show you a smile. What mom did was really wrong! Mother should communicate with you with the innocence of a child, and enjoy and grow with you! Mom must continue to work hard, constantly correct her shortcomings, and give you a sunny smile, to everyone, and to this warm world!