I had an argument with my brother. I said a lot of unpleasant things and made him cry. When I was 18 years old, this was the first time I saw my brother cry.

I think you should have a heart-to-heart talk with your brother. Communication is the best way to solve the problem.

If you regret it, go and apologize to your brother. You are lucky to have such a loving brother. He didn't cry when his parents died. Maybe it's not that he wasn't sad, but he just didn't cry in front of you. And the words you said made him cry, which means you really hurt him. This hurt may be the collapse of the whole world, it may be his grievance for raising you for many years, or it may be his doubts about life.

After all, a person who is too tired will always have an illusion, doubt the world, and even deny himself. This is a very terrible and hurtful sadness, I call it heartache.

From what you said, it seems that your brother has really paid a lot for you. College means a future and destiny for a person. He gave up his own hope to cultivate you. This requires a lot of determination. It also shows that your position in his heart is very important. There may be some things you don't like in the process of cultivating Tai, or he may add his own ideas to the way he controls you. Maybe he regrets his future and puts his hope in you. Maybe this powerful desire makes you dissatisfied.

But you have to know that his life may not be like this. It turns out that he can live the life he wants to live, but because of you, he gave up his future.

And you are his younger brother, you should learn to understand that when people lose something important, they will place their emotions on an important person.

If you had learned well, he would not have disciplined you like that. But you have not learned well. You have been smoking since your first year of high school. I don’t know your living environment.

But as a As a high school student, you are considered half an adult. You should have your own independent ideas.

People always have to learn to be grateful. You don't understand your brother's hard work, but you still let him worry about you.

Smoking is really something worthy of attention in my opinion. I have a cousin who also smokes. I usually tell him not to smoke, but I just say that, after all, he is not my biological child. , I have said that he still finds it annoying, but if my dad smokes, I will always advise him to quit smoking, because I think he is old and smoking is really bad for his health. I hope he can live a healthy and sunny old life. . I want to say that only those who take you into their hearts will persuade you over and over again. This is really a thankless job.

This is your brother’s point of view

As for your point of view, I don’t smoke, because my family smokes. I have hated smoking and drinking since I was a child, and I hope that I can become a smoky alcoholic. heavy smoker. Whose life is not difficult, maybe you have never been complete since you were a child, and there are many things that you cannot understand. If a minor chooses to smoke to face life, it may be the lack of family, or the indifference of the entire society. This is sad and pathetic. From your point of view, I can’t blame you entirely

But as a college student, you are already an adult with higher education. You have to learn to share some of the responsibilities at home, to be serious. You choose to escape, choose to live in debauchery. When you are having a great time drinking with a group of friends in this feasting and feasting room, have you ever thought about what your brother is doing at home?

When you become a college student, have you ever thought about your brother's inner feelings? How many percent are you happy and how many percent are you sad.

I don’t know how your brother feels, but I know that when a person has a dream, and someone steals this dream (I call it stealing, he didn’t have that idea at first, but When I tell my dream, it becomes his, and he reminds me of it every time.) This feeling is very sad.

You didn’t steal your brother’s dream, but if you didn’t kill Bole, Boleque would die because of you. You didn't steal your brother's dream, but you destroyed your brother's dream. The moment you go to college, he will be happy for you from the bottom of his heart, but in the dead of night, he may feel sorry for himself alone.

What’s even more regrettable is that you didn’t inherit your brother’s dream well. Maybe he could do better than you as a college student, but what about you?

Maybe it’s your brother who You are so protective, but you are a little bit otherworldly

When I was young, my family was poor and couldn’t afford cakes, but she would always make me a table of my favorite food, a few simple ones I can be happy for a while when I eat, but she also likes to control me. When others bully me and I have no parents, she can't help. She can only sadly tell me not to play with them. If I don't obey, she will beat me.

Later I was able to buy a cake by myself, but I never bought it for my birthday. This would make me feel like I had lost something important. What I want is never the cake, but her. It's the kind of family affection that knows my warmth and warmth.

No one is looking after me now. When I stay up at night, no one calls me to ask where I am. Even if I get drunk, no one will come to scold me for not knowing how to go forward and not take care of myself. . Of course, the good thing is that I don’t drink or smoke, and I will go home on time, otherwise my life would really be a mess. But this sobriety made me anxious.

There was no phone at home during the holidays, and there was no one to talk to when I was wronged. When I went home, no one cooked me a table of my favorite dishes. Why do others have everything but I have nothing?

I often think that maybe it’s life. When you do something wrong, the punishment life gives you is not just the moment, nor can you see the mistake or find a choice right away. As a result, he will make you forget, remember, forget, and remember little by little over time. So over and over again.

As for your brother’s choice, he gave up college and chose to train you. The feeling of giving up, the feeling of you getting into college, the feeling of smoking and drinking, and the feeling of you swearing at others are probably all different. .

If you scold your brother now, the pleasure of scolding at that time, the guilt of scolding now, and the feeling of being scolded in the future will be different.

People are often surprisingly similar in many ways.

I don’t know if your brother will blame you, because when I chose to hurt someone, I didn’t know that I also chose to give up my soul. That kind of incomplete world made me become He's a cold-hearted person who doesn't know how to be warm or cold.

But one thing is for sure, you really hurt your brother. I'm sure this kind of damage can't be healed instantly.

If you don’t make amends, it may be a lifelong regret for you, and it may also be a lifelong pain for your brother.

Don’t think I’m exaggerating.

Once I got out of bed and accidentally stepped on my roommate and best friend’s foot. She looked like she was in pain. I thought the pain was exaggerated. In my opinion, it was really a kind of pain. I originally apologized for Taizuo's behavior, but when I saw his exaggerated pain, I felt unhappy for a moment, so I asked her if it really hurt. She said it hurt. I thought her behavior was really pretentious at the time. I I also stepped on others, but they didn't react at all. Her behavior at that time really gave me the feeling that it was fake. She didn't say sorry and didn't speak out of shame.

We were silent for two days, and then no one said anything about it.

But there was a knot in my heart

Later, by chance, we met. I talked about that matter calmly again

There were things I missed and things I learned. Fortunately, it didn’t lead to a typo, but there was still some hurt, and this kind of hurt will often be mentioned in life

Okay, you should learn to grow up and contribute your share of responsibilities to the family

There is no shame in face before family members

Take care Communicate with your brother. You can calmly explain to him your years of dissatisfaction and grievances and your thoughts at the time, and let him know your thoughts

Don’t choose silence

Silence will destroy many things.

When you be calm, no one can give you comfort except your brother's forgiveness.