If you don’t tell me, then I won’t ask.

I have always felt that I have a proactive personality. Most of the time, I will take the initiative to take measures to make my situation less embarrassing or to get better resources.

Starting from junior high school, I will take the initiative to talk to the subject teacher to tell me where I feel I am lacking, and then ask the teacher how to improve; when facing the person I like, I will have the courage to confess to him. , even though the family education she has received is that girls should be more reserved; they will also take the initiative to talk to people around them at parties. Because I have always believed that it is always better to take the initiative in everything.

Even a person who has turned initiative into a habit will sometimes be inactive. Sometimes I just think, "Since you don't tell me, I won't ask."

This is not because I am angry and waiting for you to ask me, nor is it entirely because it is rude to ask others about things they don’t want to say. Sometimes it is because I am afraid of embarrassment and that others don’t want to say it. It’s not that I don’t want to say it, I just don’t want to be right. Just say it yourself, sometimes you just don’t think it’s necessary.

Every time the last unnecessary situation occurs, it makes me feel uncomfortable. If it was just a normal classmate relationship or an acquaintance, then I would definitely not think of asking this question. Things that make me want to ask, but stop just thinking about are often times when we were so good that you would tell me without me asking, or even if I asked, I wouldn't feel embarrassed. Because at that time we were familiar with everything the other person had experienced.

My friend who used to play very well always feels a little embarrassed as graduation approaches. Fortunately, we don’t live in the same dormitory. Going out early and coming back late, plus the dormitory door is always closed, can help us see each other less often. But three or four years ago, except for sleeping time, I spent less time in their dormitories than in my own dormitory. Later, I felt that it was not necessary to have sex with each other unilaterally, so I gradually talked less and less often.

I found out through various channels that they had boyfriends, but my gossip was not affected at all, and I had no urge to ask. In fact, you can send messages even if you don’t meet in person. I just don’t think it’s necessary, because I only found out about this news through others, so why should I get involved myself.

This attitude of "if you don't tell me, I won't ask" is the last bit of dignity left to yourself. I have also thought that if I took the initiative, would this relationship be able to relax a little? But at that time, what I was saying in my heart was: That’s it, let nature take its course!