What is love incompetence?

The concept of love incompetence comes from a book of the same name. In this era of pursuing "money" and self, people's desires are increasing, and love is becoming more and more fragile and even vulnerable. And a disease is quietly popular around us. This disease is called "love incompetence".

Love is incompetent. This concept comes from a book of the same name. It is called the love portrayal of contemporary people, the emotional Bible of the "beat generation" and the belief proof of the "post-80 s".

After the book was published in 2004, it caused a sensation. Phoenix Satellite TV, New Weekly and other influential media 100 set off a linkage effect, believing that the publication of this book has created an era of "love incompetence". The word "love incompetence" was coined by the author Jing Zai2001. After the book was published, Love Inefficiency became popular, and it was enlarged and promoted by cutting-edge media such as City Pictorial and New Weekly. Now Baidu searches for "love incompetence" with more than 1000000, and Sina Weibo searches for "love incompetence".

How to treat

1, think about the beautiful love you have experienced and see if there is any such excitement. If so, always remember that kind of mood, appreciate the reason that makes you move, and then try to find a suitable person with that standard.

2. If you still can't be attracted to anyone, look around, choose a person who is interested in you and you think is the best, try to date him or her for a week, come up with no less than 10 of his advantages, then write it on paper and meditate three times a day.

3. Communicate the feelings of getting along with each other at any time, focus on each other's reactions, and adjust accordingly. Make the other person aware of your concern for him or her, even if it is slightly sensitive.

4. Take time to look at the classic love novels in the past and find some primitive feelings between men and women from the books. Don't feel outdated, you should know that "classics" are always closer to the truth than fashion.

5. Make noble friends. People with high moral character are more caring and responsible, and can rediscover the beauty of the world in the process of interacting with them.

What should I do if I fall in love with someone who is incompetent in love? Strictly speaking, "love incompetence" refers to those who have been hurt and don't like love. If you fall in love with a patient who is "incapable of love", because the patient has an aversion to love, it is much more difficult to approach than the average person. How to influence them is really a difficult problem.

1, patience. You should make sure whether you have enough patience and perseverance to persist, wait, be warm and influence each other.

2. Sincerity. You must make the other person feel that you are sincere enough and can't be hypocritical at all. They have a strong critical spirit of love. If you can't let them feel your sincerity, this love has no chance to start.

3. Be careful. Understand each other's past first, and don't repeat the mistakes of those who hurt him or her. Because they are very sensitive, once you make a mistake that hurts them, they won't give you any chance to remedy it.

4. care. Care and understand him with your heart, and show your concern with practical actions, not just talk.

5. Give each other time. If the other person is willing to talk to you, share his joys and sorrows with you, and ask you for help when he is weak, then you are close to success. At the same time, give each other time and don't push too hard. Love provocation doesn't work on them, it can only scare them away.

Symptom self-examination

If you have the following symptoms, congratulations, you are very close to love incompetence.

0 1

Never know how to be nice to others. Don't say to pay some affection, just care about each other and feel unnecessary. The other person should ask: you are not good to me at all! The somebody else replied: alas? I've bought you something several times! Hmm? Spending money is paying?

02

The purpose of love is clear, that is, it is time to get married. Once the relationship is established, it doesn't matter. My mind is full of practical problems, how to save money to buy a house and furniture. Or marry your parents completely. Anyway, parents are going to have grandchildren. Isn't everyone the same?

03

Don't believe in love. Even if you like someone, you still have doubts, keep the negative materials in mind, and always "make love" with fear, calculating to save yourself a hand.

04

Ride a donkey to find a horse. The so-called "conditions" of the other side are the first. Even if you don't meet the requirements, you should first find someone to "fall in love" and find a better job-hopping at any time.

05

I don't know what I want. Today, I think thin people are slim, but I think fat people have meat, and my mind is changing. Maybe I have a crush on fat people and can't bear thin people.

06

Self-centeredness If you like being chased by others, you must be self-centered, otherwise you will say that the other person is not loved enough.

07

Very concerned about other people's opinions. What cats and dogs say is more important than their true feelings. Looking for a lover mainly depends on the eyes of others. As long as you hear the voice of opposition, you will immediately examine each other and then make trouble without reason. Face is the first, and we must meet the needs of the public.

08

Dull. Emotional things are dispensable, attention is elsewhere, and I don't know why I want to fall in love. Anyway, something is better than nothing. Being with friends is more comfortable than being with lovers.

09

Flower idiot. I am not serious when I meet someone who is curious and likes someone, but I feel very serious, and I am also very upset about it.

10

It's always you who are unlucky. I feel very emotional, and I always lament that all the good men and women in the world have been picked away by others, and the rest of the garbage has been met by him or her. I often complain that my life is not good, but I never know that I have a problem.

I hope it helps you.