Concentration is a scarce resource, but good things are scarce, so take them away.

It's crisp in autumn recently, and I took my children to climb the mountain. The sun, which doesn't show its face often, keeps me warm.

I remember when I was a child, my father put a magnifying glass in the sun. It was just warm sunshine, which quickly gathered at one point, blackened the paper under the magnifying glass, smoked it, then "rubbed" it and burned it. Now that I think about it, this is the best experiment about concentration. When energy is concentrated at one point, incredible things may happen. The greatness in the ordinary depends on the magnifying glass of concentration.

My father taught me from an early age: do things seriously, don't be half-hearted, or you will accomplish nothing. Now that I'm a father, it's my turn to teach my children: children, do things with a focus. Dedicated people are the best, and nothing can be done well without concentration. However, my children and I still don't know much about concentration. Just saying it doesn't mean you really understand. For so many years, no one taught us how to do it and how to stay focused.

Just like we have received systematic education in school for so many years, such as learning English for so many years, we still can't listen and speak, not to mention never deliberately studying and practicing concentration, so we can master this most precious weapon.

Not only do we not have many opportunities to learn to focus systematically, but people and things also make us unable to focus:

For example, it didn't take long for the child to start playing with toys, and grandma came out and shouted: Baby, stop playing, it's almost time to eat!

For example, when several children are playing games, their mothers come out and shout: Baby, the floor is dirty, wash your hands!

For example, the child squatted quietly in the corner, reading his beloved Mi Xiaoyuan's diary. When his father came home from work, he shouted, "What's there to watch in a small circle? What nutrition is there? " Have you read the top ten world masterpieces I bought for you?

I have always said to my friends who are also parents: children are naturally very focused. Look at them, even playing with mud is very serious; In contrast, most adults' minds are confused and full of strange ideas, so people should be self-aware: you came to this world only a few years earlier than your children, so what right do you have to tell your children what to do? Many times, as long as adults don't spoil children, children will grow up very well.

Over the years, I have been trying to make up lessons in cultivating my concentration. Because of my congenital deficiency, I have to make great efforts to gain something. Therefore, this article is written for people who want to cultivate their own or children's concentration. It is divided into three parts: preconditions, first principles and specific means:

First, the prerequisite: keep relaxed.

Our three-flowered cat is usually relaxed and focused except for a few days in estrus. Nothing to sleep, someone came, pricked up his ears and opened his eyes, saw an acquaintance, and went back to sleep. You grab it, slap it twice, and then throw it on the ground. It skillfully turned around in the air to ensure that all four feet landed unscathed. When it's time to eat, sleep and perform.

Anxiety, tension and stress will affect people's body, brain and cognition, and it is difficult to achieve high-quality concentration, so concentration can only come from relaxation and pleasure. Relax first, then talk about concentration. However, how to keep relaxed is a difficult problem now. When people say "want to relax", they mostly refer to "five-day luxury boutique tour in Hainan", or the invincible hairy belly in Haidilao, or set up a bottle of beer to watch a movie. In short, they want to treat themselves, enjoy themselves and indulge themselves. Our three-flower cat doesn't need to eat a fresh live fish to relax.

Relaxation is not equal to enjoyment and indulgence, and concentration is not equal to stress and tension. This is a self-cultivation solution, and you can use it without it. Meditation should be more effective, but it also needs long-term persistence, otherwise the effect is not obvious.

Second, the first principle: only do one thing at a time.

There may be two reasons for being half-hearted: 1 actively pursuing multi-task and wanting to improve efficiency; 2 Habitual inattention, uncontrolled brain and easy distraction.

First of all, is there such a good thing as multitasking?

Link: Attention Experiment Video

When one thing needs our attention, our attention can't take care of other things at the same time. In fact, what we think of as multi-task is just to quickly switch between different observation objects. You can only do two things at the same time: read this article while breathing; Or thinking about your ex-girlfriend while your heart is beating. Only breathing and heartbeat don't need our attention, because in the end, breathing and heartbeat are out of our control at all (thank goodness, otherwise we don't know how many murders will be made! )

Second, how to break the habitual inattention? Today, I just saw a wonderful story: except for seven or eight hours of sleep, we were distracted for the remaining 16 or 17 hours: the phone rang, the circle of friends was updated, the news was pushed again, and everything in the shopping cart was reduced in price ...... We lived like this for 16 hours a day, seven days a week, and got used to being distracted after one month, and it was1. You do one thing every day, intensively and continuously. Of course, you are an expert and a master. You should write an absent-minded article, but because you are absent-minded, you may write an irrelevant preface, but this is the performance of an absent-minded expert.

Without conscious restraint, you will be chopped into pieces from morning till night, leaving none. It is too important to do one thing at a time. If you want to further extend your reading, please click on the non-verbal past articles:

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Third, the specific means:

1, consciously introduce the time frame

The more time we have, the more time we waste. In the past, every few days before the college entrance examination, my attention was super concentrated. Because time is running out, the exam is coming soon, and most knowledge points have not been reviewed, so the learning efficiency has been greatly improved. If you want to improve your concentration, you must introduce the framework of time, which is also divided into two levels:

Do fixed things at a fixed time: specify what time to do it every day and carry it out unconditionally. After a period of time, your body and mind are ready at this time. You know, it takes a long time for many people to get into the state.

B. Clarify the time spent and the target effect: Clarify how long it will take to do this, and set a clear goal. For example, I stipulate that I should finish writing this article before 10:00 in the evening, with no less than 2,000 words, and complete all the contents stipulated in the outline without being confused. In this case, my body and brain will start to mobilize to do what I want to do.

2. Stay active and prevent interruption and interference.

Initiative is to make it clear that you are your own master, and no one can invade your time and space at will. Some unexpected things can be forgiven, but are they purely boring, or do you use your kindness (or weakness) in exchange for others' own interests? ) is taking advantage of you, that's absolutely not.

Simply put, are you a WeChat message? No matter what it is, no matter who sent it, you will reply as soon as possible. If so, how can you stay active without being interrupted and disturbed? This involves a person's self-esteem. You may be clearly hinted by your parents at an early age: you are a worthless person, you must make others happy, and you don't deserve good things. It is easy for such people to sacrifice their self-grievances, but they will not do so until they die. An open mind will gradually accept his childhood disability and encourage him to pursue a better life.

3. Do some attention training every day.

Attention training involves cognitive science, psychology and other professional fields. I don't understand and can't talk nonsense. With such a developed network, you can find many training programs about attention. For example, there is a book called How to Concentrate Like Einstein, which lists 12 intensive trainings, which are divided into four series.

Link address:? Six Best Practices of Concentrated Training and 12 Substitution Formula

I haven't tried it, and I don't know how it works. I'm just saying that watching mobile phones and surfing the Internet can actually be used by me. For example, if you want to learn new knowledge, you just need to be a conscientious person. There are many things on mobile phones and the internet that will test your ability to do subtraction. As long as you don't regard mobile phones and the Internet as your pastimes, then they are your friends and mentors.

Of course, after all that talk, action is the most important thing. Chicken soup for the soul sounds comfortable, and it is not a comfortable thing to practice, believe me.