There are more and more "gentlemen" in rural areas, who do not work, do not work, and are not short of money. Why?

The author's cousin is now 33 years old. After graduating from college, I applied to an enterprise in Xinjiang with a salary of about 5,000, which is ok. But suddenly one day, the company called my second uncle and said that my cousin had not been to work for many days and asked him to go back and take my cousin home. When I got home, I asked my cousin why he didn't go to work. He didn't say anything. Anyway, I haven't gone out to work or helped with farm work since then. My life all day is computer and mobile phone, which has been two or three years.

Through the author's understanding, it is found that this is not a minority phenomenon, but an increasingly common problem, which can be regarded as a fake "neet". So, why?

The generation around the age of 30 was born when the family planning policy was quite strict. Some are only children, some are two children, and few are four or five children. Compared with their parents, this generation is also a generation with significantly improved living conditions. With the reform and opening up, people's lives are getting better and better. Besides the necessary living expenses, they also have more money to buy things for their children. And because there are few children, parents and grandparents love and even spoil them. "If you hold it in your hand, you will be afraid of melting it in your mouth", asking for money and things, let alone doing manual labor. So when I grow up, I am still used to reaching out for food, unwilling to go out to work, and too lazy to do farm work.

Especially those who have achieved excellent results since childhood and are good students in the eyes of teachers at school have always been praised; At home, I am a good baby in my family's heart and seldom blame. However, when you leave the ivory tower of school and the safe haven of home, when you need a person to face the complex society, you will find that people are not so easy to communicate, and money is not so easy to earn, which is far from your original expectations and can't stand the psychological gap, so you will go home. After a long time, you don't know what to do.

What do you think caused this phenomenon?

There are more and more "gentlemen" in rural areas, who do not work, do not work, and are not short of money. Is this because of stupidity?

I have a 30-year-old cousin and two children. Xian Yi, young and old, has nothing to do. He sleeps during the day, works as a "night watchman" at night, takes mahjong as his friend and poker as his friend, and indulges in gambling at night. If you win, call a friend and go straight to the hotel, drink and guess, just like a rich boy; If you lose, go home and ask your parents for it. If you have money, give it to his parents. If you don't have money, he will show lost face, hold a kitchen knife and a stick, and yell at his parents: "I will count to three, and if I don't have money, I will fucking start hitting people." Parents have no choice but to borrow money to gamble for their son. Finally, this ignorant and lazy cousin went to the prison where he should go.

Now in the countryside, go to the fields if you are interested. All the working people are over forty, and few people are under forty. Why don't young people work and are afraid of working? The reason is simple: parents' pampering and improper education make children lazy and idle. Another reason is the social atmosphere, the popularity of various entertainment tools, and some negative things can not be faced squarely. Young people who go astray are often unable to extricate themselves. In their eyes, the labor force is low and cheap. Mahjong, gateball and ghost dance, which are regarded as advanced and fashionable things, will not mean inferiority. Over time, everyone will follow suit, and the atmosphere of getting something for nothing will be formed.

Pleasure needs money, and parents are their backers! Parents of family planning children are regarded as the apple of their eye. After all, the burden of life is not as heavy as before, and how much wealth is sprinkled on children, as long as they are happy and willing to suffer again. Spoiled children will naturally accept the kindness of their parents when they grow up. Just ask for it; Or glare at each other, or punch each other. This "gentleman" has a bad temper!

For these "neets", I dare to assert that if their parents leave, they will be a great cancer of society. Without the financial support of parents, it is strange not to work, steal, eat, wear or break the law!

My neighbor is the most typical. The neighbor's three daughters had a tight family planning a few years ago. The old couple hid in Tibet and gave birth to a son, who was as expensive as grandpa and refused to do anything. All the delicious food in the house is his. Now he is tall and fat, standing at the age of 30, and nothing can stand. He is afraid of being tired when he goes out to work, and he is afraid of being dirty when he does farm work at home. He has accomplished nothing, but he has a big temper. I always hear him scold mom and dad at home and bully the old couple to death. The neighbors shake their heads when they hear this! It is said that the child is spoiled, gee ... because of her bad reputation, no one has told her about her daughter-in-law More importantly, he is big and energetic. He took his parents' hard-earned money to the county town for three days and showed off when he met people in the village. One night of whoring is not enough, and three people get together ... these have become jokes of the villagers! We gave his neighbor a partition wall. I was scared to death at home when he showed off his power to his parents. My cat was so scared that it fell off the wall between two houses in my house ... it was terrible!

Laojin, the old people in the village call him Jin Shifu. Twenty-five My father died early and my mother remarried. There are three sisters. He is the most idle person in my husband's village. It is said that he only came out to work for half a year a few years ago and went back to press a door on the house. Then he refused to come out to work again. I just wander around here during the day and go fishing at night. If you are hungry, you can either eat the powder of an old friend in the street or go to your uncle's house. Now I'm going to my uncle's house to get rice back. I will choose food according to the appearance of that house and whether I like it or not. The reward is to get the fish if you want to eat.

Income comes from a remarried mother and three sisters. The same is true of the two-story building built at home. It feels like he's just a big kid who's nobody's business. In this way, no one dared to introduce his sister, and he refused to go out to work to earn money and find a wife. White has that face-good features.

My husband said that when the farm was busy, my uncle and aunt asked him to help, but he didn't go. He can pick up people or deliver things. At first, his brothers-in-law felt sorry for him, and they all took the credit for the house for themselves. Later, seeing that he felt so inferior, he gave up. His financial resources are his mother and sisters who have been married for many years, and the money he spends fishing at night to buy fish flowers. In addition, their village is a relocation village, with an average of 600 yuan a year. It doesn't cost much for a bachelor anyway. Muddle along. Everyone said behind his back that he was regarded as a negative textbook: Oh, I don't care about you, let you do nothing every day like Uncle Jin, running around and becoming an adult. Everyone thinks that he was neglected since childhood and ruined his life. Be polite in person.

There is also a boy named Jin Min who goes up and down with us. Very fat and lazy. This is for his parents. Twenty-one or twenty-two years old. Improper education of parents can do it, or parents only care about his food and clothing, which leads to his current situation. People who learn to repair cars are too dirty to start, and they won't stay long. Come out for a few months at a time and go home again. Don't give money to your family. Give him the fare every time he comes out. Once, his mother said to my grandmother, "People say that I am still used to people at my age and help him wash clothes." . My own children, I know, clothes are washed from childhood to adulthood. I can't leave him there. I am free, too. My own children won't hurt themselves. what can I do? There are not many children now, and life is better than before. These are all fine, but I think he is a little fat. I'm afraid it's hard to get a wife in two years. We are all ready for the bride price. So don't worry, if you are fat, look for a fat one. We will take care of the children for them.

Without parents, you will become a master. Without parents, you will become a master.

In ancient times, "gentleman" was used only by the children of rural landlords, but now it has become a derogatory term. But I found that there are many "gentlemen" in our village who don't go out, work or go out to work, but they just don't lack money. Why?

I was surprised at first, but through my various understandings, I finally discovered their little secret. So they are doing these things!

The first thing is to be a happy anchor at home. I think the anchor industry must be well known to everyone. In recent years, the basic thing that is particularly popular is to stay at home every day and meet everyone through some software, and then live through various rewards of friends from all over the world. Not only the work is glamorous, but also the income is high, attracting many young "gentlemen" to join the team!

The second thing is to do manual work. Handwork is also very popular now. We can get jobs online, and then find someone to handle them offline, so as to strive for the difference between them. If you can keep doing it, it is absolutely no problem to earn a few hundred dollars a day. One of my good brothers is doing this manual project, and has built several sets of two-story buildings in rural areas, with a very considerable income!

Through my introduction, you should know how these rural "gentlemen" earn money without working or working. People don't work. They are different from my doorman. I hope everyone can support them!

There are more and more "gentlemen" in rural areas. They don't work, they don't work, and they still have money to spend. Why?

In fact, the reason is very simple. These "gentlemen" are used by parents since childhood. Now that I am old, I can't stand any hardships, and my work is irrelevant. They depend on their parents to spend money.

Now we are busy harvesting corn and soybeans here. My neighbor across the street planted 15 acres of corn. These days, my neighbors' uncles and aunts in their fifties are busy harvesting corn until one o'clock in the morning and can only eat a simple and quick breakfast until around nine o'clock in the morning.

The old couple were too busy to see their 30-year-old son help them.

Someone asked, the old couple will say that their son can't do these jobs well.

Mother-in-law pursed her lips when talking about their son: "His family is a young master, and I have been used to it since I was a child. He got used to it until he got married at the age of 30. He doesn't care about small money, but he has no ability to make big money. He is best at playing cards and drinking. His parents worked hard to earn money to support a family of three. "

Looking at the busy old couple across the hall, and then thinking of their "gentleman" son who won't reach out to help while playing mobile phone at home, I really can't understand the thoughts and behaviors of my uncles and aunts.

But this is not a case. In our village, I know several "gentlemen" who don't work and spend money for their parents.

These are all the only children in the family without exception. His parents have been used to him since childhood, and his sisters have been centered on him since childhood.

Now he is old and doesn't want to work, but his parents don't want to talk about him. If he is short of money, his parents will satisfy him, so they become "gentlemen".

I believe that there are "gentlemen" in every village who have never worked or are not short of money. Even in recent years, there are more and more so-called gentlemen. They live a carefree life and live by clothes. So where do they spend their money every day? Why are there more and more such gentlemen?

This kind of gentleman, who never works and never lacks money, is also called the poor rich second generation. They often come from a family that is not rich, but they always spend money lavishly. To outsiders, they thought they were mining at home. There are several young people in our village who are poor households, and one of them is my distant relative. My relative, a poor rich second generation, called him Xiao Wang for the first time. Xiao Wang was born after his mother gave birth to two daughters at the risk of being punished for exceeding life. According to my grandmother, Xiao Wang's grandfather was very excited when he learned that the third child was a grandchild. Xiao Wang's family is a typical patriarchal family. All the housework at home is done by two sisters, and Xiao Wang is responsible for eating spicy food. It is precisely because of the family's doting that Xiao Wang didn't go to school well when he went to school, so he dropped out of school early and went to work in the factory. He couldn't bear the hardships, so his family was relieved and let Xiao Wang study hard at home. Although Xiao Wang has no job but is rich, he wears famous brands, takes the latest mobile phone and always takes a taxi when he goes out, but Xiao Wang's parents are still working for others in their sixties, wearing old clothes that were not popular many years ago. The unbearable neighbors and relatives advised Xiao Wang's parents not to indulge Xiao Wang any more. Good intentions are not rewarded, but only the incomprehension of Xiao Wang's parents.

The first reason why there are so many "gentlemen" and "poor rich second generation" in rural areas is that boys are preferred to girls. In the past, the idea of son preference in rural areas was very serious, especially the eldest son, who wanted to put it in his mouth and throw it in his hand for fear of falling. It is precisely because of childhood doting that many young people have lost their ability to solve the problem of food and clothing, so they have no ability to support themselves when they grow up, and they can only support themselves by eating old people.

The second reason is the improper education of parents. Many parents' farmers themselves have not received much education, and they do manual labor every day. I just want to rest when I get home, so I am either indifferent to my children's education or incorrect. Many people, after their children make mistakes, don't think about whether their children have done it right or not, but simply put the blame on others. It is precisely because of this incorrect education that their children can't integrate into the big environment after entering the society, so they can only squander their parents' hard-earned money at home. Faced with such a situation, parents are not urging their children to find a job, but redouble their efforts to make their children have enough money to splurge. It is precisely because of parents' acquiescence and even encouragement that more and more gentlemen will appear.

There are more and more gentlemen, except their own problems, mainly because of the acquiescence and connivance of their parents. Is there such a gentleman in your village? What do you think is the reason for the formation of this gentleman? Welcome to reply to the discussion.

First of all, most of the "big boys" in this rural area graduated from junior high school, because as long as they go to college, they rarely go back to their hometown.

"Gentlemen" who don't go to school after graduating from junior high school, their parents want to stay at home for two years before they are old enough to go out to work. I don't know. In the past two years, I have probably trained my children to be lazy and idle "gentlemen". When I get older, I want to ask for money from my family and start eating old people. Usually the old man looks at the boy and thinks he will be used to carry on the family line. Satisfy him first, and wait until he gets married. But I don't know how to directly form a bottomless pit.

This is the case with the child of a relative in my husband's family. After graduating from junior high school, he didn't want to go to school. He opened a small factory at home, thinking that if the children don't go to school, they will work in their own factory first. As a result, he ran out to play with his classmates after a day's work. Later, I wandered around Internet cafes and other places every day, and gradually came into contact with more and more people in the society, and learned to smoke, drink and fight. At first, I thought about waiting for my children to grow up, but the children behind me didn't listen to their parents at all, and they just wanted money to go home. Although he runs a small factory at home, it is not a printing factory. Sometimes if you don't give money, you learn to steal from others and get caught. The family began to find someone to gamble with him, and as a result, they were beaten by the police at the police station and finally went to jail.

Therefore, these "big boys" who are not short of money and have nothing to do in the countryside are now used to having a son.

If left unchecked, it is not only parents but also "big teenagers" who will suffer in the end.

I'm Xiao Yang, a post-80s baby mom, and I have ten years' practical experience in parenting. Welcome to click on attention.

This phenomenon is very common here. The problem that they have money to spend if they don't work is simple. Let me talk about a real family!

The boy was born in 1980. Because talking about friends forcing his mother to get married, he refused to listen and asked his girlfriend to have an abortion and leave. From then on, he blamed his mother for not caring and worrying. In this way, he never worked again, and directly reached out to his parents for money, jumping around and hugging as long as he didn't want to. His family lived on the fourth floor, and as a result, he broke a leg. All the mistakes were blamed on his mother. He said he was not allowed to get married and have children, which also made him half disabled. Fortunately, his mother is a doctor and retired, with a monthly pension of more than 4 thousand. His father retired as a farm worker, and the retirement fee in January was more than 3000 yuan. Now his job is to surf the Internet in the Internet bar from 8 am to 6 pm every day, and charge his parents 100 yuan every day.

Here, as long as the only child's parents have a pension, he will take it for granted that this is an obstacle to his consumption. Many parents are also very helpless about this.

Therefore, I am also a "gentleman"! Tell me about my situation! Less than 30, unmarried, parents less than 50! My parents sometimes earn more than me! A typical person is full and the whole family is not hungry! As for myself, I work as a carpenter on the construction site and come back for a while without a job. As long as there is no farm work at home, to be honest, I am too lazy to do it. I just got back now, and the tea is quite valuable, so I'm too lazy to pick it! I work hard outside and earn money. When I come back, I'll rest! Buy fruits and vegetables if you are short every day! Young people? It is a fashion to dress neatly at home every day. One day, I just drank tea and walked around. I like chatting with old people and delivering cigarettes when I have nothing to do. I know everything about my next-door neighbor. It is normal. If I don't know them, I may look like a playboy.