As the saying goes, "neighbors are different, relatives are different." What three kinds are they referring to? Why not?

As the saying goes, "A distant relative is better than a close neighbor". When something happens, neighbors will kiss again, maybe far away, and neighbors will appear immediately.

However, although neighbors are good, not all neighbors are good. Although relatives are far away, many of them are still close.

The words are awkward, but they are true.

There are some folk sayings of neighbors and relatives, and some of them still have certain reference significance until now. For example, the phrase "there are three things that neighbors can't compare with, and relatives can't leave", literally speaking, there are three things that neighbors can't compare with and three kinds of relatives don't leave.

Some friends will ask, which three kinds of neighbors are you talking about? What are the three kinds of relatives? The author will elaborate on this content, and everyone will have an answer after reading it.

Let's start with "three neighbors are better than one"

The first type: the height of the house.

In many rural areas, neighbors are everywhere taller than their own houses.

For example, the house that built a new house later is several centimeters higher than the house that built a new house earlier, indicating "superiority". Originally, the two houses agreed to be the same height, but when it comes to building a house, some neighbors want to be a few centimeters taller than others.

As far as living conditions are concerned, the extra centimeters are of little help. However, due to previous ideas, I always feel that houses built higher than neighbors are better than neighbors, but they are not.

Because of the height of buildings between neighbors, neighbors who usually have good relations will eventually turn against each other. Think about it, it's really not worth it.

So the height of houses between neighbors can't be compared.

The second type: children

It is also common to compare children with each other in many places, such as comparing children's admission to universities, comparing workplaces, and comparing children's monthly wages. It is full of the feeling that my child is superior to yours.

For a very common example, in many places, children have to entertain guests when they are admitted to college or looking for a job.

No matter whether the university is good or not, as long as you can get into it, even if it is a junior college, you should send invitations and set up a few tables.

As we all know, being admitted to a university doesn't mean anything to others, but I have to go to the table because of my feelings.

There are many such things, and the neighbors should be annoyed. If it is normal to entertain guests, such as getting married, having children or dying, neighbors will go. As for comparison, there is no need, it will only consume the feelings between neighbors.

Therefore, children should not compare.

The third type: bride price

It is also common for neighbors to compete with bridesmaids.

Take the author's area as an example. Your family takes100000, my family takes120000, or your family takes180000, and my family takes 200000. In short, I am taller than you. When neighbors talk about this, they will be very fierce and proud, and there is a feeling that no one in the village has more money than his family.

As everyone knows, all the bride price money is borrowed, and it looks beautiful outside. However, when you pay off your debts slowly in the future, you will know that your original face is worthless.

Finally, I will find that after comparing with others, my neighbors are alienated from me and have more pressure.

Therefore, it is no good to compare the bride price between neighbors, and it is oneself who gets hurt in the end.

Besides, "there are three relatives who don't leave."

The first kind: too poor to love relatives of rich people.

If your family is poor, some relatives will alienate you and ignore you. When your family is rich, these relatives will come to Wan Li to haunt you. It is not an exaggeration to describe it as "no one in downtown asks you to be poor, but you are rich in distant relatives in the mountains".

Such relatives are snobs. If you think you are useful to him, you will be recognized as a relative.

On the contrary, when he thinks that your relatives are of no value to him, or even that you will hold him back, try to stay as far away as possible and don't want to say that you are his relatives.

For such relatives, it is better not to leave.

The second kind: relatives with bad conduct.

There are always some relatives in life who don't do their jobs, don't follow the rules, don't do normal things and choose to do illegal things.

For example, people who steal chickens and touch dogs, or people who are addicted to gambling and drinking, should stay as far away from such relatives as possible. If they walk often, they will get burned one day.

For example, if a relative gambles and loses all his family's money, he will borrow money from his relatives. If you lend it to him, it is equivalent to "the meat buns hit the dog and never come back." Don't lend it to him. He's a relative, so I'm embarrassed to refuse.

Over time, when he knows that you will lend him money, he will come to you every time he has no money.

When you need money badly, ask him to pay it back. Sorry, basically you can't get it back.

So for such relatives, it is better to go straight and don't walk around.

The third kind: relatives without affection.

Some relatives only know how to take, but don't know how to give, or they are stingy and quarrelsome, so they can only take advantage of your family and can't suffer.

If you take something from his house, you will be furious.

He came to you for help when he was in trouble. You helped him solve the problem without saying hello, just thinking that this is what you should do as a relative.

On the contrary, if you ask him for help, I'm sorry, it's hard to go to heaven, and you will refuse or even close the door for various reasons.

There is another situation, because of some trivial things, regardless of the feelings of relatives, and then swearing.

Therefore, for such heartless relatives, it is also recommended to stay away.

All of the above are about the saying that "three neighbors are better than one family, and three relatives are inseparable". After reading these, I believe everyone has a certain understanding of this.

These three kinds of neighbors and relatives are not only suitable for the previous society, but also suitable for the present society.

What do you think of this?