How to improve the effectiveness of the speech?

The genius of speaking is not born, but is exercised from reality. As the saying goes, one minute of genius takes nine minutes of hard work. If people don't have good eloquence, it is a very sad thing, just like birds have no wings.

If you want to have good eloquence, the first thing is correct pronunciation. You must pronounce every word clearly. Clear pronunciation can rely on usual practice, pay attention to other people's conversations, read more books and newspapers, and listen to the radio. These are helpful to correct pronunciation quickly. When you speak, you should understand every sentence and avoid using difficult words. Don't think that the difficulty of your language is a sign of your knowledge and courage. In fact, talking like this will not only make people incomprehensible and self-defeating, but also arouse others' doubts and feel that they are mystifying. Of course, a good speech should have generous and skillful sentences and rich vocabulary, which can not only meet the needs of the speech, but also make the content colorful and exciting.

Speak neither too fast nor too slowly. Speaking too fast will make it difficult for the listener to cope, and it will easily make him tired. Some people think that speaking faster can save time, but the purpose of speaking is to make the other person understand you. In addition, both the speaker and the obedient must use their brains, otherwise, they will not be able to accurately grasp the content of the words. Of course, it is wrong to speak too slowly. On the one hand, it wastes time, on the other hand, it will make listeners feel impatient.

Speaking is an art and a trick. You must see this ingenious method clearly in order to succeed. When you speak, you should recognize each other clearly, don't worry about other people's antipathy, be frank and open, and be careful. It is advisable to talk often, but not for too long at a time, and don't be exclusive when talking. Because the purpose of our speech is to explain something and interest people. So be clear! Got it!

It's not a good way to talk. It's just nonsense and rapid fire. Loose lips do not mean that you are good at talking, on the contrary, it proves that you lack enthusiasm and are irresponsible. As for talking like a barrage, it will only make people bored, because once you speak, others will have no chance to speak.

When you speak in public, you should care about the peace of others and don't speak too loudly. If you are talking to a group of people, pay attention to whether your voice can be heard by everyone. Describe a thing, or a person, must be just right. If you go too far, you may not get the expected effect if you exaggerate, but you will be despised.

Beautiful speech, including correct pronunciation, appropriate speech speed, rich sentences, a little humor in speech, good posture, etc., can be successful through study and exercise.

Tang Bohu, a famous painter, looked down at the family opposite his home. Because that family was not a scholar from generation to generation, but made a fortune halfway. There is a mother and five sons in their family. One day, the five sons blessed their mother. The gathering of relatives and friends is very lively, just because it is not a scholarly family. In this blessing, there is little embellishment of literature and ink, which is a fly in the ointment. At this moment, everyone remembered that Tang Bohu across the hall was a gifted scholar. If he can give some books here, it will certainly add a lot of luster. While praying like this, Tang Bohu actually prepared some small gifts to celebrate his birthday. The owner of that family is naturally very happy, and even many relatives and friends are very happy. During the dinner, he was asked to write a poem. Tang Bohu didn't shirk, immediately picked up the pen. The first sentence is "the woman across the hall is not a person", and the second sentence has not been written down yet. All the relatives and friends of the master glared at him. Because of today's blessing, everyone should be very happy and say something auspicious. Now ask him to write poetry, and he calls people names. How can this not make people angry? Because he is a famous genius, everyone just glared at him and didn't treat him indecent. Prepare to see how he scolds next, and then attack. Tang Bohu felt that everyone's anger was about to erupt, so he wrote "Nine Fairy Descent". Gal, everyone's mood eased down. Everyone thinks that this is really a genius, and wrote an excellent blessing poem in a swearing tone. Tang Bohu didn't really want the longevity he despised, but really wanted to scold the woman who lived long. However, he looked at the surrounding environment and knew that it would not be good to scold people, so although he wrote it out, he immediately changed his tone, so that what he had already scolded became whether he was cursing or not. This sensitive wrist is very concerned about other people's reactions.

Do you think it's good for a person to talk more? It's best to keep silent. As the saying goes, words are iron, silence is gold, and silence is better than many words.

A calm listener is not only popular everywhere, but also gradually knows a lot of things. And the chatterbox is like a leaking ship, and every passenger has to escape from it. At the same time, talk more about complaining and talk nonsense to get into trouble. As the saying goes, if you talk too much, you will lose. Only silence will never betray you.

A person who speaks casually is often irresponsible. More words are not as good as less words, less words are not as good as more words, and more words are not as good as more knowledge. A thousand words are not as impressive as a fact.

We should definitely talk less, especially when strangers are more experienced than us, or people who know better are present, because talking more will expose our weaknesses without being pressed and lose a chance to gain wisdom and experience.

Talk less and talk better. Therefore, in our life, there are two kinds of training, namely silence and elegant speech. It's unfortunate if we can't talk tactfully and keep silent when appropriate. We often regret what we said. So, when you don't know something deeply, you'd better keep silent!

It is a virtue to talk less, but since people are in society, they can talk as little as possible, but they can't say nothing. If you want to speak, how to speak little and well, then art must be learned. Therefore, in any place and any occasion, it is best to talk less, and silence is worth promoting unless absolutely necessary. If you have to say something, you must pay attention to the content, meaning, wording, voice and posture. On what occasions, what to say and how to say it are all worth studying. Whether discussing knowledge, engaging in business, socializing or entertaining, what comes out of our mouths must be focused, concrete and vivid. If you don't sing, it will be a blockbuster. Although we may not reach this level, we can't go wrong towards this goal. You know, the only secret to make your words valuable is to talk less. People who talk less can calm down and think to make their words more exciting.

Patience listening is an important condition for the art of conversation. Because a person who can sit still and listen to others' opinions will be a thoughtful, modest and gentle person. In the crowd, such people may not be noticed at first. But in the end, he is the most respected, because he is open-minded, so everyone likes him. Because he is good at thinking, everyone believes him. So how to be a good listener? The first thing is to be sincere. Keep your eyes on people when they are talking to you. No matter who talks to you, be sincere. You can't do some unnecessary work when others are talking to you. This is a sign of disrespect. When he accidentally asks you something, you will be unable to cope because you didn't pay attention to what he said. Secondly, when listening to others' words, it is good to insert a sympathetic word or two occasionally. If you don't fully understand, it is also very necessary to add a question. Because it only means that you pay attention to what he says. But don't grab the opportunity to speak, just say yourself, unless the other person's words have come to an end, and you should be allowed to do so when you speak. Besides, no matter what others say, you shouldn't correct his mistakes casually. You can't be a good listener if you arouse the antipathy of the other party. When criticizing or expressing opinions, we should also pay attention to the timing and attitude. Otherwise, good things will turn into bad things.

Some people often like to tell you things that have been told several times, and some people will tell a joke many times as something new. As a listener, you need a virtue of patience at this time. You shouldn't say to him: you have said it several times. This will hurt his dignity. The only thing you should do is to listen patiently. You should know in your heart that he has a bad memory, and you should sympathize with him. Besides, when he told you, he really showed his love. You should also accept his kindness sincerely. But if the speaker is talkative and you are not interested, you think it is a waste of time. You should use a better way to make him stop this boring question, but the most important thing is not to hurt his dignity. The best way is to introduce his second topic skillfully, which is both his expert and what you like to hear.

be difficult to talk

Words are two-sided, even multifaceted. When a person stands on the podium and gives a speech, he is the only one who is speaking. No matter whether he speaks a speech prepared by himself in advance or a speech prepared for him by others, as long as he knows the skills of speech and makes the speech clear and vivid, he has completed the task of speech. However, in order to have a good conversation, we should not only talk, but also be good at listening. We should not only speak our own words well, but also be good at listening to others. What we want to say, like a speech, can't be completely prepared in advance and accurate, but we need a lot of ability to improvise.

When you are talking to a person, if you just talk about what you want, but you don't understand the other person's views and interests, you can't observe the other person's reaction to your words, you have any questions, and you can't get rid of the crux of the other person's heart in time, then you can't be regarded as an easy-going person.

In a speech, your thoughts follow only one line, and you have been saying your one-sided views. In conversation, your thoughts should develop along at least two lines, one is your own and the other is the other's. On the one hand, of course, we must have our own position, attitude and reasoning methods, on the other hand, we must also understand each other's position, attitude and reasoning methods. If you talk to more than one person, your work will be more complicated and you have to take care of more aspects. Because everyone has different ideas, hobbies and speculations. For example, if you talk to two people instead of one person, your work will be a bit troublesome. Sometimes, at a certain point, two people disagree with you, and at a certain point, A agrees with you and B disagrees with you; Or conversely, B agrees with you and A disagrees with you; In other words, A and B don't agree with you and each other. At this time, your ideological line is no longer two lines, but three lines. You must take into account the development of these three lines at the same time. Considering their mutual influence, if you are a well-trained speaker, you should also avoid one of the most common mistakes, that is, your interest, and you should not only focus on one person but ignore another. If you talk to A too much, B will be bored sitting there. There are only three people here. If there are more than three, you will be even more difficult to deal with. So how interesting it is to learn how to speak!

The great French philosopher Ross Pheko once said: When talking with people, if you say that you are better than Fang, you will turn your friends into enemies. On the contrary, you can turn your enemy into your friend. The influence of speech is so great. Look at many celebrities, tycoons, farmers and pawns in society. How nice they are. Who doesn't like them? Generally speaking, this is called flattery. As the saying goes: wear 1000 clothes without flattery! But this is often something that people with high moral character are unwilling to do, and it is not easy to say it properly.

When you speak, let others speak first. On the one hand, show your humility and make others happy. On the other hand, you can take this opportunity to observe the tone, expression and momentum of the other person and give yourself a chance to measure. Isn't this the way to kill two birds with one stone? However, many people always like to speak first. It seems that if they speak first, they can overwhelm each other or make them feel like an extraordinary person. At the same time, there are many people who talk a lot from the beginning and think they are eloquent, so you should know that others will have a bad impression on you. In fact, you failed. This is really not a conversation. What matters is what you say and what people listen to. You will be unpopular in the future, and everyone will have to avoid you. If you are a shop assistant, you are talking to a door-to-door customer about how beautiful your goods are. What customers talk about you is only a business at most, and you will never believe it and buy it. On the other hand, if you give the customer the space to speak and give him the opportunity to criticize the goods, you will become the person who discusses the goods with the other party, and your business will be done. However, how difficult it is to teach by example!

Socially, we often see many people who offend many friends because they like to sing against others. So often some people, some books, always advise people not to express their disagreement. This practice is actually one-sided and dishonest. Each of us likes loyal friends.

The ability to speak

Anyone who is good at talking can make his life very interesting. For people who can't speak, you should know that you have the opportunity to practice speaking anytime and anywhere. There are more opportunities for practice and promotion. And the effect of practicing dialogue is easy to see. No matter where you practice speaking, someone will practice speaking with you. However, you must analyze your speaking ability in advance. Most of us can't say that we are optimistic and talkative, nor can we say that we know nothing about speaking. Most people are more or less powerful and know a little about the methods of conversation, but they have not studied them seriously and scientifically. If you are determined to improve your conversation skills, please think back to your own past conversation experience.

You can ask yourself:

Do I feel like I have nothing to say when I meet someone else? Is it difficult for me to find a topic that everyone is interested in? (3) Do I often say things that violate other people's taboos? Am I embarrassed when I find that my words have inspired others? ⑤ Can I talk about what I want to talk about in different ways to suit every different object? 6. Do I have a lot to say in front of some people, but I can't say a word in front of others? When I meet someone who disagrees with me, do I need to repeat what I have said? Do I like arguing with others? People often say that I am stubborn? Attending to people who are older than me or have higher status than me, I didn't give them due respect? Is there something wrong with my general attitude towards others? Can I adjust my attitude according to other people's attitude? Can't I let others talk? Can I make the conversation go smoothly without interruption? Can I naturally change the topic of conversation? Do I know where I should end my conversation? Am I lisping? Does my tone sound bad? Do I often forget other people's names? Do I often use some vulgar expressions? And so on, we must first find the place where we encounter difficulties. In this way, when we talk about those problems, you will pay special attention.

But no matter how many difficulties there are, don't lose heart. Even if you can't speak like a mute now, we can still cure you.

If you really have the sincerity to solve the problem of being unable to speak, you should not be lazy.

You write down every question item by item in your notebook, and also record your past experiences.

For example, if you want to remember who the person in front of you is, you feel speechless. What is the reason? You have to think of yourself first.

That's not enough. You should spend at least a week carefully observing what happens when you talk to others.

By the end of the week, you should write down what you should improve first in your notebook.

Then go on week after week, reading books and studying your own situation. Can you solve your problem while reading the book? At the same time, write down your experiences in a notebook.

If you are willing to do so, you can achieve amazing results in three months.

Some people say that eloquence is innate, but it is not. Their eloquence is so brilliant because they have been trained in the use of sentence tone and attitude pronunciation. For example, you say, "I went to the barber shop for a haircut, at the corner of Changchang Street and Changchang Street. The house number is 436. Changchang Street is under repair. I remember that this barber shop was opened five years ago. " After talking a lot, others don't know what the main points of your story are. Maybe what you said is superfluous. The point you made was that you went into a barber shop to get a haircut. There is a barber who was your classmate in college. Why did he become a barber? This is the main point of this story. Grasp the main point and understand that the listener's interest is focused on that point. Less dialogue will make progress faster. In important joints, to be more specific, in other places, a sentence or two will explain the past.

As long as your approach is correct, expressing your disagreement to others will not only not offend people, but will sometimes be very popular, making people feel that "a word with you is better than ten years of study." You know, it's not your point of view that offends people, but your attitude towards other people's points of view. If you don't agree, take your opinion as absolutely correct. And other people's opinions are simply stupid, childish and absurd, then you hurt people, and you hurt them badly. Therefore, when you express your opinion, you should assume that your opinion may be wrong. Don't force others to believe your point of view immediately, you should give others enough time to consider your point of view, and also provide others with the basis to consider your point of view. If you want others to believe your opinion as much as you believe yourself, you must provide them with enough information. It is neither blind obedience nor arbitrary to convince people of your point of view. At the same time, you should also show your willingness to consider other people's opinions different from yours and ask them to provide more explanations, explanations and evidence to convince you. You should make it clear that if the other person can convince you of his point of view, then you will immediately give up your original point of view. In this way, on the one hand, you can honestly express your true views, on the other hand, you can sincerely respect the thinking ability of others. This is the ideal way to talk to each other. Sometimes, if your own opinion is too far from the general view, you can make such a statement in advance: Maybe this is mine.

utterance

Attitude is the external expression of inner state, which is dominated by emotions, feelings and interests. Because posture is the expression of the heart, you should train it to be a model, which is not only monotonous but also ridiculous. The more true feelings are revealed, the more natural the movements and gestures will be. Sometimes I don't wave my hands in the air because I'm happy, sometimes I can't help clenching my fist against my chest because I'm sad, and I can't help punching when I'm angry, but this movement and posture are based on nature and flexibility.

Of course, many speakers' gestures are strange and ridiculous, but they are inner expressions, and we don't have to criticize them whether they are clumsy or flexible. Since posture is a natural expression of the heart, we can not pay attention to it, right? No, not at all. In order to attract the audience, we must also pay attention to posture, but posture is by no means the main object of eloquence training, it is an assistant to help eloquence move.

Except for speeches, conversations are mostly sitting. There are many ways to sit: some people like to sit among people and let everyone sit around; Some like to sit in the corner of the venue so that everyone can't see themselves clearly; Some people like to sit on the periphery of the audience. What he means is not to let others watch carefully. In fact, it is best to face the audience and let everyone see it clearly. But if you want to sit, you should choose a seat in the middle of the audience so that people can see themselves clearly. However, when sitting, the posture should be natural and keep straight, and you must not recline in the chair. Sometimes you will roll up your legs, and some will put your arms on the back of the chair. These are contemptuous actions, so be sure to pay attention.

A person should really pay attention to the position of his hand when expressing his views. Where are the two hands? If possible, forget them and let them be naturally perpendicular to your sides. But in case you find them annoying and a little heavy, and think they are in your pocket or behind your back, that's fine. In short, be sure to keep calm. You must never pay attention to whether your hand interferes with your movements, not to mention that the audience will notice the position of your hand. The position of the hand is really a problem that the speaker doesn't need to pay more attention to. You should focus on the expression of your true feelings, but your hand is a tool to help you express your true feelings. When you need to use them, you can pick them up or put them down immediately. But don't deliberately cross your hands on your chest, and don't force yourself to rest on the lecture table, which will make your body unable to move freely. Moreover, deliberately playing with your clothes with both hands will distract the audience and make them look stupid.

The following principles should be noted:

(1) Don't repeat posture, no matter what posture, repetition will always make people feel bored; When you make gestures with your hands, don't just start with your elbows, which will make people feel that your gestures are unnatural.

Don't end this position too soon. For example, when you point your index finger forward and use this posture to help your intonation, you should not retract your hand immediately. It's best to wait until you finish a sentence before taking back your arm.

(4) Keeping the posture natural requires practice. This kind of exercise may feel a little reluctant when you do it, but after a long time, you can gradually become natural.

You must be careful not to let your actions or gestures reduce the audience's attention to what you say. Many people overdo it, but let the audience notice his actions.

Attitude is the only basic conversation skill. This attitude does not refer to your actions, but to your words. You must not think that you are speaking in public, so you must pay attention to what you say and what you should pay attention to. It's like you are gossiping with others. You are reckless and fearless, not to mention pretending to be serious. You just let it go.

Another way to make your attitude natural is to think of yourself as a lecturer. Your speech is the same as that of ordinary students. Others will respect you, and you don't have to be afraid, let alone worry. Let your thoughts come out naturally, so that your speech will be natural.

You will probably admit that many people who learn ventriloquism are so lifelike that you can hardly recognize that they are imitated by others. But if you hear birds singing in the tree, you will be immediately moved and feel an unspeakable pleasure, which is because of the difference between nature and unnatural. It can stimulate your emotions and make your speech come out naturally, so your speech can be particularly beautiful.

Have you noticed? If someone tells you a main point in a sincere and touching tone, it is not easy for you to have an opposite point of view in your heart. So, if you are going to make a good impression and make people agree with you, please remember that it is more effective to arouse people's feelings than to make them think.

All parts of your body can also help or cooperate with your conversation. From the time you appear in others' eyes to the time you speak, you are talking, but not with your mouth. Before you speak, your eyes, your movements and your whole body are on display. These things you show will make people ready to listen to you, or those who don't want to listen to you, and will make people respect you or feel bad. So pay special attention to this period of time before opening your mouth. Before you speak, you must use your whole body to convey your respect and love for the listener, and hint at the importance and basic color of what you have to say. Not only when talking, but also when talking. Even when chatting, in a friend's living room, you suddenly stand up, or move your seat closer to each other, or choose a good position in the crowd; Or suddenly take an unusual posture, as long as you do it naturally and appropriately, it will be of great help to your words.

Our hands are the most talkative. We don't want every sentence to be accompanied by gestures, because too many gestures will make people feel unnatural. However, in important places, using appropriate gestures will attract people's attention. If you can make people not only have something to listen to, but also have something to see when listening to you, then you hardly have to worry that the other person's attention will leave you.

Eee, yelling is not talking, waving and dancing is not gestures. Unnatural gestures will arouse many people's disgust and cause communication obstacles. Very beautiful and moving gestures, people are full of surprises. Very soft and warm gesture, which makes people feel grateful. A very firm gesture, as if it has a power to decide fate.

Some gestures make people feel his enthusiasm and joy from a distance, some gestures are rash, some gestures are careless, some gestures make people complacent, some gestures tell you that he is very, very busy, and some gestures tell you that he has something important to talk about with you. A moment, please. In the process of giving up your seat, shaking hands, handing things, expressing tacit understanding, and talking, gestures sometimes become part of the conversation, strengthening the power of our language and enriching the tone of our language. Sometimes, gestures also become an independent and effective language.

If a person just tries to pretend to be rigorous and keen, he is bound to fail. But if his words were from the heart, he wouldn't fail. Whether talking about major political and economic issues or personal travel gossip, as long as he feels that he really has something to say in his heart, his words will be as warm as fire. A sincere and enthusiastic person's influence on the other side is as great as the expanding steam, and even if there is something wrong with rhetoric, it will not be disastrous.

William james, a famous American psychologist, once wrote a passage: Action seems to follow feelings, but in fact, action and feelings happen at the same time. So we directly use our will to correct our behavior, that is, indirectly correct our feelings. For example, if we lose happiness, the only way to recover is to sit up, move and talk happily as if we were already together. If this method can't achieve the effect, there is no other way. So, when we feel brave, we really become brave. Using all our will to achieve our goal is the best way to make your courage replace your fear. However, you must prepare everything first, otherwise it will be difficult to take effect. If you want to say something, come out quickly and take a deep breath for half a minute, because breathing more oxygen can increase your courage. Josnai, the tenor king, said, "You can feed yourself by breathing enough."

The topic of conversation

The most difficult thing to talk to people is what topic to talk about. The most common misunderstanding of topics is that only those exciting things are worth talking about. So I searched hard, looking for some anecdotes, thrilling stories, or insane experiences and the most outrageous situations. Although this topic is the most interesting to ordinary people, it is a satisfaction for both the listener and the speaker to tell such a beautiful event in conversation. But there are not many such things. There are some sensational news. Don't wait, others have heard it. Even if you have experienced a special thing personally, you can't talk about it everywhere. Because the story you told on a certain occasion is very popular and may not be appropriate in front of others. Therefore, if you think that only the most extraordinary things are worth talking about, then you will often feel that there is nothing to talk about.

Some people often want to talk to others about some very abstract theories or the problem of atomic bombing. However, even if you are fully prepared for such problems, it is difficult to find people who share your interests. So, on most occasions, you will feel speechless.

Any topic is good conversation material, as long as we pay attention to it in our daily life. You can talk about football, basketball and badminton. You can talk about food, drinks, weather and fashionable clothes. You can talk about love while talking about life. We can talk about compassion, responsibility, truth and glory. You can discuss books, plays, movies, radio programs, international news or local issues. You can exchange views on a story or a character. You can repeat the main points of the paper you read in the magazine.

Generally speaking, when people communicate, the first conversation after only knowing the name is the most difficult. Because you are not familiar with each other, don't know his personality, hobbies and personality, and are limited by time, you are not allowed to know more or think more. Don't take the liberty to raise special topics. At this time, it seems simple and appropriate to use local materials, that is, to find a topic according to the environment at that time. If the meeting place is at a friend's house or at a friend's wedding banquet, then the relationship between the other party and the host can be used as the first sentence. For example, you can say, "Your Excellency and a gentleman are probably old classmates?" Or: "Are you and your husband colleagues?" This way, no matter whether the question is right or not, it can always cause the other person's topic. If the question is right, you can make a sharp turn and guess wrong.