Sadness is addictive

Many people like to be immersed in sadness and look for things that are uplifting with sadness, such as sad songs, Korean dramas, TV shows, etc., or pure Lin Daiyu-style narcissism, or in order to get rid of sadness. I get a lot of cheap happiness from other people's victim stories (PS: There are people who are worse off than me), or to get together to complain about social injustice. I also used to have a paranoid love for sadness. Love that decadent aesthetic. That feeling of sadness flowing back into a river and infecting it into poetry. Then one day, I realized that I was just a morbid person moaning for no reason, complaining about my sorrow for composing new words.

Sadness can be addictive.

Scientific data shows that long-term sadness causes nerves in the pleasure center of the brain to produce a response similar to "addiction." The nucleus accumbens is part of the brain's pleasure feedback system. When a person is sad for a long time, the nucleus accumbens is stimulated, which will promote the secretion of dopamine, a neurological substance. Dopamine is directly related to pleasure. Continuous sadness can cause people to fall into depression and be unable to extricate themselves, which is extremely damaging to the body and mind. It seems that something is engraved in my heart and always stays in my memory.

If you often experience the following symptoms, be wary of sadness addiction.

The eyes are empty and unfocused, and nothing is novel; the quality of sleep is reduced, and sometimes I can’t sleep all night long, and even when I fall asleep, I have many messy dreams and nightmares; the skin color is dark and yellow , Acne on the face grows like crazy; I don’t want to be close to the crowd, and stay in my own world, even my close relatives and friends, I don’t want to talk to them; I have no passion, no fighting spirit, and I don’t care about everything; I often doubt whether the things I do are good or not. It's worth it. It's easy to find a lot of reasons to give up halfway through things, and feel that many things are meaningless.

An addiction to pathological sadness. Action is the best medicine.

1. Natural flow. Be sincere and vent your emotions, either by crying or yelling. Naturally pure sadness. Then admit the tragedy of life and admit that you lack love. Don't hide sadness in your heart, vent it out.

2. Role-playing method. I think of the way the psychiatrist Ah Cai used to treat his patients in the movie "The Farthest Distance". The patient plays or rehearses the relevant characters to restore the situation, thereby resolving the knots and ending the grief. There are many ways to role-play, and commonly used ones include role reversal, monologue, empty chair method, looking in the mirror, etc. The method of role reversal, simply put, is that one person plays multiple roles. For example, you imitate the scene where you and your girlfriend are quarreling. When you act out the expressions and movements of your girlfriend speaking, you will slowly understand the other person's feelings. When you think of yourself as someone else and imagine their speaking expressions and mental activities, you can truly put yourself in their shoes and understand them.

3. Find something to do. Write and draw, do crafts, and play ball. These can divert your attention. ?

4. Go outside. The outside world is wonderful, and walking more will definitely be beneficial. Get close to nature, meet and communicate with friends.

5. Running. Keep running. I once knew a girl who would run whenever she was sad. She would run 5,000 meters as a warm-up. . Then she joined the school track team. I am so tired after running, how can I have the strength to feel sad? .

Use the weapon of sadness well

Sadness actually has many positive meanings. It is impossible for us not to be sad in the long journey of life, we just need to learn to grasp the degree of sadness. Proper use of this emotional bargaining chip will not only prevent us from indulging in it, but also allow us to better understand ourselves, deal with our own emotions and pain, and move on after sorting ourselves out.

American psychologist Thomas Moore talks about the positive meaning of sadness like this: Sadness diverts your attention from positive life and focuses on the most important things in life. When you have suffered a great loss or are in deep grief, you think about the people who matter most to you, not your personal success; you think about the deeper purpose of your life, not the distractions of gadgets and entertainment.

Indeed, the power of grief cannot be underestimated. When you are sad, you will pay more attention to new information from the external world, and your thinking will become more specific, more systematic, and more reliable, thus forming a very objective and rational judgment.

When you are sad, you pay more attention to what everyone on the team has to say, do things more cautiously, and collaborate more smoothly as a team. When you are sad, you will make the most important decisions in your life. A serious illness or a disaster may change you. In ancient and modern times, at home and abroad, how many people burst out with powerful vitality in desperate situations and suddenly woke up in extreme sadness.

Whether sadness brings us torture or strength, it will be the shadow that will accompany us throughout our lives. I hope you can pick up the beauty in your life.