We have been married for two years and we quarrel from time to time. We have different views and different birth environments. She is an only child in the city and I am the eldest son in the countrysi

We have been married for two years and we quarrel from time to time. We have different views and different birth environments. She is an only child in the city and I am the eldest son in the countryside.

I am a child from the city, and my husband is the eldest son from the countryside. It seems a bit similar to you.

Whether you are a rural person or a city person, everyone has some temper. Generally speaking, when you are outside, you will be more restrained, but when you get home, you will take off your mask and expose everything.

Due to different life backgrounds and different ways of thinking... As long as there are two people, there will be conflicts and quarrels. This is normal. If there are no quarrels in a family, one or both parties must be suppressed and restrain their temper. This kind of restraint can be voluntary (I don’t feel oppressed) or it can be forced. This has nothing to do with whether you are a rural person or not.

When my husband and I first got married, he always thought that I always quarreled with him because I looked down on him. More than 20 years later, when he himself felt that he was from the city, he said with emotion that in fact, when city people were dating and quarreling, they never thought about whether the other party was from the countryside. It was just the inferiority complex of rural people. I always remind myself that I am a rural person. Once there is a conflict, the first thing is that the other party looks down on me as a rural person. City people quarrel as much as city people getting married, so who is looking down on whom?

When two people form a family, it is normal to quarrel. Why does marriage have to be emotional? That is, if everyone has "love", they will find ways to resolve these conflicts for the sake of "love" so that life can continue. If there is no "love", or if there is not enough "love", you will not be able to get through this "difficult period" of marriage.

Ask yourself, did you marry her because you really liked her, or for some other reason. If you really love her, why can't you sit down and talk calmly? Especially if you are a man.