Grandparents take care of the children, why don’t mothers want their mother-in-law to take care of their children?

Nowadays, most young parents choose to go out to work and leave their children to be raised by the elderly at home. After all, newly formed families are still under great pressure. They not only have to support the elderly and children, but also take care of their children. Cost of living in all aspects. In addition, if some families also buy a house or a car, the pressure will be greater, so it is the right choice for the couple to choose employment.

But faced with this problem, young couples with children need to consider who will raise their children. When it comes to this aspect, I believe most people will think that they must leave it to their grandparents. Take it. In fact, this is not the case. In a previous investigation, we found that most children are now raised by grandparents. As for the reason, let’s take a look at what the mothers say.

Mother 1: My mother-in-law is not in good health and is often hospitalized from time to time. The reason why the child is not left to the mother-in-law is definitely because she can no longer overwork the mother-in-law, and on the other hand she is afraid that the child's immunity will be low and he or she will be easily infected by germs. Of course, I didn’t dare to express this idea, otherwise the child’s father would definitely quarrel with me.

Mom 2: My mother-in-law is keen on square dancing. Even at home, she won’t help take care of the baby. Sometimes, if I ask her to take care of the baby, she will just put my son on the carpet and learn by herself. Dancing, this is what I saw when I went home one time. When I was even more angry, the child was crying heartily on the ground, but her grandmother was still focused on learning to dance. I picked up the child as soon as I entered the door, and her face was not very good. Only then did she stop and explain: "The child keeps crying when you are not around. It's no use coaxing me." After hearing what my mother-in-law said, I didn't want to pay attention to it. I haven't let her take care of the child since then. Could it be that I don't know the character of my child? Well, she just needs someone to accompany her!

After reading the above, everyone should be able to understand why mothers do not leave their children to their mothers-in-law. Indeed, sometimes there are many benefits to leaving the child to the grandparents!

Benefit 1:

When grandparents are raising children, they will definitely say good things about their mother in front of the children, telling them that their mother works hard and that she loves them very much. However, you need to work hard with your baby's father to make money to support the family, so that you can provide good conditions for your baby. But if it is the mother-in-law, she may say bad things about the mother to the baby. This is no exaggeration. Many friends around me have experienced such things!

Benefit 2:

If mothers leave their children to their mother-in-law, most of the time they will not be able to intervene when faced with the wrong education methods shown by their mother-in-law, but they can Considering that this is related to the future of the child, we can only point out the mother-in-law's mistakes directly, and this often leads to conflicts. Therefore, in comparison, if you leave the child to your parents, it will be easier to communicate!

So, regarding the question of who to hand over to raise their children, mothers should have a weighing scale in their minds and know how to weigh the pros and cons. Here, I would like to remind parents that no matter how busy they are at work, they should pay more attention to their children, even if it is only for a short hour or two. This will be beneficial to the growth of their children!