"Mom, my daughter-in-law gave birth to a son. Why don't you give money?" "I give money, my grandson doesn't know." Really?

I have heard similar words when I was a child.

This is a distant grandmother of mine. She has never been kind to her grandson. I didn't give my children lucky money during the Chinese New Year, and she didn't give them a bite to eat when they went to her house to play.

Someone asked him, "Why don't you treat such a grandson better?"

Her answer is: "What does a child know when he is so young? If you want to be nice to him, you have to wait for him to grow up and know that I am nice to him. I will be nice to him again. It's no use being nice to him now. She doesn't remember. "

My mother said something like this at that time: "People who have no one in their hearts can't pretend." No one is smarter than a child. Whether you are good to him or not, the child knows for himself. "

I want to talk about the ending of this distant grandmother. Grandson grew up, and she didn't treat her grandson well. The older his grandson is, the less he visits her. Her grandson didn't shed a tear when she died. In the face of others' condemnation, her grandson said, "There is no affection between us."

In front of children, all hypocrisy will be exposed.

A woman left a message backstage calling her hypocritical mother-in-law.

On their side, when a woman gives birth to a child, her mother-in-law will give some money or buy something, indicating that the woman has added a child to this big family. As a result, after she gave birth, her mother-in-law came to see it several times and gave nothing.

When confinement, the mother-in-law can't point at her, the man has to go to work, and the mother-in-law doesn't care much. She takes care of herself while raising children. After she gave birth to the child, the man was very guilty and asked his mother, "My wife gave birth to the child, why don't you give money?" . It is not easy for her to take care of these children for a month. If you don't take care of them, you shouldn't give her and her children any money. "

As a result, the woman's mother-in-law said, "I give it to my grandson, and my grandson doesn't spend it." I don't know. His grandmother gave him money. Give it to him when he grows up. "

After that, although the man didn't say anything, he was alienated from his mother. The man said to the woman, "I don't care about money. I just think my mother is too indifferent to her grandson." Weakness chills me. "

The woman said that her children were not close to grandma since childhood. Neighbors can hug, as long as the grandmother hugs and cries. Later, grandma disliked children even more, and often said to outsiders, "It's not that I don't help look after the children, it's that the children don't let me hold them."

There is a shrewdness of a mother-in-law, and everyone else is a fool.

Before the women and children were 3 years old, the children's grandmother hardly brought them and rarely came over. However, after the child left, he began to go to kindergarten in the downstairs community, and the child's grandmother proposed to take care of the child.

She said to her son, "Now that the children have remembered it, can you know that grandma is good to him without looking at him?" I used to babysit for you, and I can also cultivate feelings with my grandson. "

The man directly refused: "No need. The children are at school all day, so it is convenient to pick us up in the morning. When you pass, we have to take care of you. "

Then, the woman's mother-in-law quarreled with the man. She said: "You all said that I saw it and didn't kiss the child. I want to kiss this child. Did you give me a chance? The child has grown up and is no longer close to me. I also have something to say. When you were a child, your grandmother wanted to see you, but your parents didn't agree. "

The woman said, "I feel that my mother-in-law thinks we are stupid, but she is very smart." Don't we know what you have done to your children in the past three years? The truth is there, everyone has eyes, it's not what you said. "

What are the real generation-separated parents like?

I grew up with my grandparents when I was a child. I followed him when I was very young. It is a kind of affection recognized from the bones, because when you were young, you saw the most. Whether they love or not, you don't have to listen, you don't have to see, you just have to feel.

This perception is a child's original nature and is good.

Real generation-separated parents have no calculation. The children's grandparents don't even think about whether the children know or not. They can't help being nice to their children and want to give them all the good things.

They also don't need children's memories and rewards at all. All they need is the health and happiness of their children.

When I was a child, I didn't sleep at night. Adults only slept with me. My mother said, "I don't even care about you. Your grandmother sleeps with you every night. "

Whether you are good to your child or not, the child knows, and so do the parents. No one can fool anyone with this feeling.

A sweet word is most afraid of calculation.

Whether it is love or affection, once it is mixed with calculation, then this kind of feeling loses weight. You naively think that children are too young to know anything. But he doesn't understand. He knows.

When he was a child, he knew that when he grew up, he would remember that when you wanted to make up for it, he didn't have you in his heart, just as you didn't have him in your heart, and you would never have deep feelings again.

My grandparents died many years ago, and I cry every time I mention them. There is no reason, just a feeling. When I was born, my grandparents cried with joy, for no reason, just because they had feelings.

What they did for me, they never said. But my parents remember, I remember, and so will my children.