The rural wife dies first, will the husband live for a long time?

Your statement is not entirely correct, because in rural areas, if the husband dies, then the wife will live for a long time. For example, in our village, there are several families whose husbands died in their fifties and sixties, but their wives lived to their eighties and nineties and were still alive. This is because rural women will feel very satisfied living alone. When their husbands die, they don't have to cook and eat for them, and they don't have to wait on their husbands like uncles. So many rural women will live for a long time after their husbands die, and some will live for twenty or thirty years.

Moreover, most women in our country are hardworking. Even if her husband dies, she will help the children with housework. In this way, whether in her son's house or her daughter's house, she won't stay idle and the children won't bother her. In this way, she will live a healthy and happy life. So it lives longer than her husband.

On the contrary, if the wives of rural couples die first, many men will die in a short time. This is because most husbands in rural areas can't cook and do housework, so when their wives die, they will look helpless and lonely, especially those male chauvinists in rural areas. Because his wife served him like a slave when she was alive. After his wife died, it was difficult for him to live independently. In this case, he won't live long after his wife dies. This situation is very common in rural areas.

Besides, his wife died, and their children didn't want to take care of him. Daughter-in-law, in particular, is even more reluctant to take care of her father-in-law. This is because if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are still willing to take care of them, because the mother-in-law can help her daughter-in-law take care of the children and do housework.

But neither father-in-law nor daughter-in-law wants to take care of it. Because my father-in-law can't help my daughter-in-law with housework and take care of the children, and my father-in-law is at my son's house, and my daughter-in-law feels inconvenient, so my father-in-law becomes lonely, so he is particularly helpless and lonely, so his life will not be long. After the wife dies, the husband will get sick and die in a short time.

I am 60 years old, and I have witnessed the death of one relative after another:

My grandmother died at the age of 70, and five years later, my grandfather died;

My grandmother died in her 60 s, and the next year, my grandfather died;

My uncle died in the first half of last year, and my uncle died in the second half of last year.

The above is about the time between the death of a woman and the death of a man.

Let's start with the man who died first. What about the woman?

My father-in-law died on 1996, and my mother-in-law is still alive. I am 85 years old and in good health.

My second uncle died in the 1970s, but my second aunt is still alive. She is 95 years old and has a long life. She is still busy at home and sells pickles.

In our village, there are still several, the man died first and the woman is still alive.

What's wrong with the example I listed above?

That is: rural wives, if women die first, men generally don't live long;

On the contrary, if the man dies first, the woman not only does not die, but also lives well and for a long time.

Here, I also talked about the secret of women's longevity invisibly.

Why is this?

I think, probably, when this person reaches a certain age, women are stronger and men are more fragile.

There is a saying in the countryside that the older you get, the smaller you get.

It means that the older a person gets, the more he looks like a child. I like to compete with you for everything, for food and fun, and my hands-on ability has also dropped, and I can't even eat any food in my mouth.

This is actually related to men, little old man. The older you get, the more dependent you become.

But women are not, or very few. On the contrary, the older a woman is, the more sensible she is.

Maybe I've always been a mother and I'm used to it.

This is the only explanation.

I remember the old man in the countryside said this sentence:

It is said that men dominate the world and women control men. In fact, the most homesick is men!

You know, men are fragile and more dependent on their families. The older they get, the more serious they get.

If one day, the hostess and his wife leave first, I'm afraid the old people at home really won't live long!

What do you think of this?

In the year when my grandfather died, there were two empty seats on the dinner table.

My grandfather is six years older than my grandmother. They have five children.

They were born in the countryside and made a living by farming. They lead a hard life.

My grandmother got cirrhosis in her forties, with a bulging stomach and ascites. Grandpa rocked the boat and took grandma to the hospital. At that time, the daily cost of grandma's hospitalization was fifty cents.

Grandma has been in hospital for a long time and her condition has not improved. The doctor sympathized with Zhuang, who had little income, and said to his grandfather, "It's fifty cents a day to stay in hospital. You might as well take her home and save fifty cents to buy her something. "

Grandpa listened to the doctor's words and rocked the boat to take grandma home, so he bought grandma something to eat with the money originally used to treat the disease. Perhaps the nutrition kept up, the body's immunity kept up, and grandma's big belly shrank back unconsciously.

Grandma's life was saved after the ascites disappeared, but she could not do heavy work. Sometimes I take diuretics when I feel a little bloated, and sometimes I hang up water when I feel weak.

Grandparents help five children to get married and start a family one by one.

After their children got married, grandpa and grandma lived together for decades.

Although grandparents are not rich economically, they are very happy and dressed neatly every day with grandpa's careful company and children's filial piety.

Every time I go home, I will see two people sitting face to face on the stairs. They watch people coming and going together and watch the sunrise and sunset together.

Grandpa can read books and operate air conditioners, rice cookers and washing machines. Grandma is illiterate and has a bad brain, just like a puppet.

Grandpa got sick at the age of 94 and left a few months later.

Grandma has completely changed since grandpa left.

Although her children come to see her every day and send her food and meals, she seldom smiles. She always liked to dress neatly, but now she has completely changed. See, her hair is often messy, her clothes are unkempt, and she walks shivering.

At the end of last year, my grandparents and I would gather at my mother's house for dinner. My grandparents will give my great-grandchildren red envelopes prepared in advance, and the whole family will talk and laugh and have a lively New Year's Eve dinner to welcome the New Year.

But the year grandpa died, there were two empty seats on the dining table.

On New Year's Eve, my mother cooked dinner, and I went downstairs to help my grandmother go upstairs for dinner.

Go below and see grandma secretly wiping tears in the room. No matter what I say, she won't go up for dinner. She said that she would cry at the thought of grandpa, for fear of ruining the happy atmosphere of the New Year.

I couldn't persuade my grandma, so I had to go upstairs and fill some rice, take some dishes that grandma likes to eat, and take them downstairs for grandma to eat.

Grandma, who has been unhappy, has no money to see grandpa after spring. She was 89 years old.

After grandpa left, his self-care ability was poor. Grandma, who has always been used to grandpa's company, feels that her spiritual pillar has collapsed, and she is helpless, anxious and sad every day. Although the children take care of her in diet and daily life and take time to accompany her, they all have grandchildren, and a family is busy and can't always be around like grandpa.

Sadness and loneliness crushed grandma, who was already weak. A year after grandpa died, she left, too.

Story 2:

When I was with my mother at the cancer center, I met an old lady in her eighties.

She said that she was born in a town. When she was eighteen, her mother married her to a poor family in the countryside. The old woman always said that this marriage was caused by her mother. What is the specific reason? Why did her mother betrothed her to this family? The old woman didn't say that there were very few girls in the town who were willing to marry in the countryside. )

There are three sons in that family, and she married the youngest son of that family. After marriage, they gave birth to three children, two children and a daughter.

The couple have been through ups and downs for decades, and their children have been married one by one.

A few years ago, the old lady's house was demolished, and the old man had a fixed living allowance every month, so he didn't have to worry about eating and dressing. The old man who came all the way from the bitter days is very satisfied with his present life and full of happiness.

A few years later, her husband who lived with her for more than 60 years died of illness. The old man cried every day after losing his wife. In her words, he will cry to death if he keeps crying.

The old man was sad for a long time, and his body went wrong and he got a malignant tumor. Now he is receiving regular chemotherapy in the cancer center.

One of her sons divorced because of gambling, so it is difficult to protect himself. The other son is too poor to take care of her.

Her life is taken care of by her better-off daughter. Every time the old man goes to the hospital, he is accompanied by his 60-year-old daughter. Now her daughter is her spiritual pillar.

The old man lost his wife who had been with him for decades, and her body was crushed by excessive thoughts and sadness.

Summary:

Old couples who have been together for decades have a strong dependence on each other both in life and psychology, and no one can do without each other. Once an old man is gone, the living will feel that her spiritual pillar is gone, her life has lost its direction and she is unhappy all day. The longer we spend together, the stronger this feeling will be. Staying for a long time will lead to physical collapse, which is why the loving old couple died not far apart.

The old man who just lost his wife has a strong sense of loneliness and sadness. Old people with strong psychology can get rid of sadness quickly, while old people with weak psychology and poor self-care ability will fall ill because of loneliness, sadness and helplessness.

Therefore, children should pay more attention to the elderly who have lost their wives, relieve their loneliness, care for them as much as they loved us when they were children, give them warmth and alleviate their sadness.

Listen to the old man said, one died, the other as long as through three years, generally nothing happened.

After so many years of companionship, the rest will be particularly unbearable, suffering from loneliness and missing.

You should have a good attitude, time will change everything.

It usually takes three years, so get used to it.

My grandfather died at the age of 74, and my grandmother died at the age of 96. Usually, one of my wives died, and the other didn't live long because of mental problems. People are different. Not everyone can live long without another companion.

When a person's wife has given birth to a child, he will naturally feel a great sense of loss and leave himself alone. After drinking a glass of water and a cup of tea, he finished all the work by himself. No one helps, no one hurts, no one cares, and no one even listens. Some things are not asked. I was a little angry for a while and it was difficult to buy some medicine. The worst thing is that I have no money. If I ask my children for a few dollars, my children will see their old age. That is, the human spirit has been swept away, and the days ahead are numbered. I'm tired of being asked if I die or not. They're old, that's all. It's so hard for people to live. ?

Some time ago, my aunt-in-law passed away, and less than a month later, my father-in-law also passed away. It is conceivable that the two old people have a good relationship, and the old man is reluctant to accompany his wife for more than 50 years.

My grandfather died at the age of 70. I remember when my grandfather died, my grandmother cried for two days and two nights, without eating or sleeping! I cry whenever I think of my grandfather, but my grandmother was 90 years old when she died! The distance before and after is 20 years!

My husband's grandfather died on 20 13. At that time, my grandmother was also very sad, but my grandmother died last year, with a difference of six or seven years.

A male neighbor in the village died of drinking. Before his death, he drank heavily and abused his wife every day. He died 1 1 years ago. His wife has a good life alone, her family is rich, her health has improved, and no one bullies her anymore.

Grandpa or grandma in our village died first, and the only wife who stayed was also very chic.

This can't be generalized, mainly depending on the good relationship between the two old people. Even if it's good, some people who don't want to die will get through it slowly! Old people died before and after, because the old people who died were old. The old man who hasn't left can't stand the blow, getting thinner and thinner, unable to eat or sleep. After a long time, his body collapsed, and he also collapsed! Easy to understand, right? !

This is a simple question. I don't think it's necessary to make a long speech. I'm depressed and lonely.

If you can understand clearly and think clearly, it is inevitable to die first. If you can't understand this, you will often be unable to extricate yourself from the sadness of missing your wife, leading to mental exhaustion and accelerating the rapid failure and deterioration of various organs of the body. Therefore, one wife left first, and the other soon died with him (her).

Mentality is the key, and filial piety is the premise. After understanding this truth, there will be no situation where a wife goes first and a wife leaves later.

Look, the key is to be affectionate. With more people, you will live longer than loneliness. In the final analysis, you are willing to listen when he nags, and let the old people participate in your life. Let him not feel dragged down, and those who are needed will live longer.

One of the rural wives died, and the other usually didn't live long. Why?

The reasons are obvious, such as:

(1) The death of his wife shows that he is old and he died of old age;

The death of his wife was caused by excessive sadness; Couples have lived together for decades. If one of them dies, the other will be very sad. )

(3) His wife lived together and took care of each other. After his wife died, he lived a lonely life and lost his feelings, so his health was affected.

(4) After the death of his wife, a person's life is irregular, which is not good for his health;

(5) After the death of his wife, as long as he can move, he doesn't want to drag down the children. If he is sick, he will resist and drag down his body;