What does the sentence "no dutiful son before the hospital bed" mean?

There is a saying among the people that there is no dutiful son before a long bed. It means that if the elderly at home are ill for a long time, or even bedridden, it is difficult for children to be filial.

The next sentence without a dutiful son in front of the long bed is "a good wife has not been at home for a long time."

meaning

There is a folk saying that there is no dutiful son before a long bed. It is a summary of a common social phenomenon for thousands of years. Its specific source cannot be verified. "There is no filial son before the bed for a long time" means that the elderly (parents) are seriously ill in bed for too long, and no matter how filial they are, their children are complaining. In severe cases, you can't even see the figure. "There is no dutiful son before the hospital bed" has always been an objective and realistic problem. For thousands of years, no matter when and where, parents often love their children several times or even hundreds of times more than their children love their parents. If the mother treats the sick child, she will take care of and worry about it day and night without regrets; Children often shirk each other and always find various reasons to excuse themselves; There are still more loving mothers than dutiful sons in the world. Therefore, the society strongly advocates respecting and loving the elderly, and everyone should start from himself. Others are like a mirror, they can reflect themselves, that is, they can compare themselves well.

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Is it true that there is no dutiful son in front of the long bed?

As long as people are still alive and you have been taking care of them, you should say that you are a dutiful son. "There is no filial son before the bed for a long time" actually reflects the changing process of people's views on the illness. In the early stage of the disease, people often take the illness too seriously, which makes patients and their families easily make a fuss and be afraid of everything. After a long time, patients and their families gradually have a correct understanding of the disease, and their mood is gradually relaxed, so that patients and their families can receive care and filial piety more effectively and realistically. On the surface, filial piety has declined. In fact, it is more targeted and effective. There is a deeper meaning of "no dutiful son before the hospital bed", that is, a person who has been taken care of by others for a long time is also anxious. Because on the one hand, he will be anxious for his long illness, and he will also feel guilty for dragging down his loved ones, so the patient also has a strong subconscious desire to reject the care and filial piety of his loved ones, and wants to distance himself from his loved ones, reduce guilt and reduce dependence. Therefore, "there is no filial son in front of the hospital bed for a long time" is also the result of the two-way movement of a patient and a filial son, and it is the result of the interaction of internal and external factors. In short, it is that sentence, "As long as we do our best, we can have a clear conscience".