Is it true that "my brothers and sisters separated after my parents left" and I basically didn't talk?

When parents are here, there is still a place to go in life. When parents are gone, there is only the way home in life.

I have a friend who has three brothers and sisters. During the years when their parents were alive, their four brothers and sisters had a very good relationship. Because her brother has been living with his parents, they get together at least three or four times a week. On holidays, we have picnics, take children, pack jiaozi, cut fruit, climb mountains, soak in hot springs, play mahjong happily and live a happy life. Two years ago, her parents died one after another and she was depressed for a long time. She said that she often goes to her parents' place as soon as she drives. When she arrived at the door, she suddenly remembered that her parents were gone, and only her eldest brother and sister-in-law lived here. Her nose was sour, and she felt there was no point in going in, and then she turned and went home.

She told me that before my parents came, I thought about visiting my parents every week. Going to my parents' house is as casual as at home, walking around in pajamas and slippers. Now, my parents' house has become my sister's house, and I don't know what to say when I go. Getting together once in a while doesn't care as much as before. She said that life is less fun, and when she has no parents, she is often lonely. She often thinks about her parents, and sometimes she cries when she thinks about it.

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Another friend works in the Pearl River Delta. She has three brothers. On holidays, she took her husband and children back to her mother's house, and her brothers and sisters came back one after another. We chatted together and had a good time. After her parents died, the house has been sold, and she can only live in a hotel when she comes back. There are always too many greetings with my brother and sister-in-law, and she gradually doesn't come back. The three brothers are in the same city, and the communication is getting less and less, and even the family WeChat group interaction is getting less and less. On New Year's Eve, several brothers and sisters all went out for the holidays, and there was basically no party. She sighed and said that her parents were gone and her family was scattered.

We are always lamenting that the world is cold, but in fact, many times, we are trapped in the game ourselves. Parents always leave us when they are old. When parents fade out of our life circle, we still have brothers and sisters and many family ties. We should take the initiative to break the deadlock and invite relatives to get together, just like our parents are alive. We should also take the initiative to create the appearance that our parents are alive and speak freely with our brothers and sisters. At this time, the eldest brother in the family should assume the role of parents, and the eldest brother is the father, so that the cohesion of the family can be brought into play and brothers and sisters can have a rest harbor.

Speaking of which, my heart really hurts. My father died on 20 14, and now I have an 80-year-old mother with my brother.

Because I have been working in other places, I have limited family leave after marriage and spend more time with my parents. Before my father died, I was in poor health for a long time and didn't go back to my hometown to visit relatives for several years. Later, I received news that my father was seriously ill and was about to die. I went back to my hometown and saw him dying. I was very sad. I waited on my father at home for half a month, and then he left, which was a little filial piety.

After my father died, my mother and brother lived in their hometown and countryside. I think if my mother dies one day, can I still go back to my hometown? Is there still my home in my hometown without my parents? If I go back, will I stay at my brother's house or my sister's house? Thinking about it, I began to cry. So since my father died, I will go back to my hometown to accompany my mother for two or three months every year. If there are children in the northeast who are not married, I really want to stay with my mother every day.

Now think about it, if my mother dies, do I have to go back? It's not that I don't have feelings for my brothers and sisters, but that I don't have parents with my children, because the feelings between brothers and sisters are just the bond between parents. Once this bond is gone, it is difficult to be together. It's really hard to think of here.

Parents are here and home is there.

Tell a true story.

My classmate has been studying and working in other places since he went out to study, and later got married and settled down. Since then, my hometown has become my hometown. It is also because her parents are in her hometown, and she will go back and have a look when she has time. Home still feels like home.

Every time she comes home, her parents will cook good food for her. Every time I live in my own home and go back, my parents will pick me up at the village entrance and see me off at the village entrance.

Later, her parents died one after another. After she buried the old man, she locked the house in her hometown with a big lock. She really felt as if she really had no home.

Later on a business trip, she went to a place near her hometown. If her parents had been alive before, she would have stopped by her house, but now she is close to her hometown, but she doesn't feel at home.

Later, my classmates couldn't help looking at the old house, because it was deserted and looked a little run-down. The vegetable garden in the yard is full of weeds, which is no longer a scene of lush vegetables.

Later, all my classmates went to live in the city. Her brother still lives in the city. But she finally stayed at the hotel and just called her brother.

Her brother rushed to the hotel to take her back to her home, but her classmates refused. The reason is to stay for one night, so as not to cause trouble to my brother's family, and my sister-in-law has to wash the sheets and quilt cover or something. Although my brother and sister-in-law are very good, they are always their own small family, and my sister is a relative. She didn't want to disturb them.

Later, I chatted with my classmates. She said that when her parents were around, their brothers and sisters talked a lot and felt like a family. We seldom talk now. Without parents, everyone is gone, leaving only each other's small families. For small families, they seem to be more like relatives than family members.

When parents are here, there is still a place to go in life. When parents are gone, there is only the way home in life.

I have a friend who has three brothers and sisters. During the years when their parents were alive, their four brothers and sisters had a very good relationship. Because her brother has been living with his parents, they get together at least three or four times a week. On holidays, we have picnics, take children, pack jiaozi, cut fruit, climb mountains, soak in hot springs, play mahjong happily and live a happy life. Two years ago, her parents died one after another and she was depressed for a long time. She said that she often goes to her parents' place as soon as she drives. When she arrived at the door, she suddenly remembered that her parents were gone, and only her eldest brother and sister-in-law lived here. Her nose was sour, and she felt there was no point in going in, and then she turned and went home.

She told me that before my parents came, I thought about visiting my parents every week. Going to my parents' house is as casual as at home, walking around in pajamas and slippers. Now, my parents' house has become my sister's house, and I don't know what to say when I go. Getting together once in a while doesn't care as much as before. She said that life is less fun, and when she has no parents, she is often lonely. She often thinks about her parents, and sometimes she cries when she thinks about it.

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Another friend works in the Pearl River Delta. She has three brothers. On holidays, she took her husband and children back to her mother's house, and her brothers and sisters came back one after another. We chatted together and had a good time. After her parents died, the house has been sold, and she can only live in a hotel when she comes back. There are always too many greetings with my brother and sister-in-law, and she gradually doesn't come back. The three brothers are in the same city, and the communication is getting less and less, and even the family WeChat group interaction is getting less and less. On New Year's Eve, several brothers and sisters all went out for the holidays, and there was basically no party. She sighed and said that her parents were gone and her family was scattered.

We are always lamenting that the world is cold, but in fact, many times, we are trapped in the game ourselves. Parents always leave us when they are old. When parents fade out of our life circle, we still have brothers and sisters and many family ties. We should take the initiative to break the deadlock and invite relatives to get together, just like our parents are alive. We should also take the initiative to create the appearance that our parents are alive and speak freely with our brothers and sisters. At this time, the eldest brother in the family should assume the role of parents, and the eldest brother is the father, so that the cohesion of the family can be brought into play and brothers and sisters can have a rest harbor.

Answer: My parents are gone. On the contrary, our five brothers and sisters are more United. Blood is thicker than water, which is the way of life for our brothers and sisters. In daily life, we understand each other, care about each other and greet each other. The five brothers and sisters basically get together once a month to talk about the past and recall the past. Everyone is very happy. At any time, the brothers and sisters born to parents are gone. Only unity, friendship and mutual assistance can overcome life.

I am deeply touched by this question.

When I was less than 30 years old, both my parents died. There is a brother on it, five years older than me, who is married. I'm not in my hometown, it's more than an hour's drive from home, not far.

My mother died when I was 24. In fact, after her death, the atmosphere of the whole family was different. Without an important member, no matter how big the fire is, my heart is cold. My father died when I was 29. At that time, I had just 10 days, and my inner pain was indescribable. The world has completely changed. I cried and called my classmates to say that I was an orphan. I don't think I have grown up at the age of 30. I feel like a child, but my parents are gone.

Since then, I have basically not returned to my hometown. Sometimes, my relatives will ask me when I will go back, but who can understand my feelings? My parents are gone. Where should I go? What should I do when I go back?

Others say that my parents are gone, and my eldest brother is like a father, but my feelings and feelings with my brother have not been so close since childhood. He studies early and goes out early. After I understand things, I am basically at home alone. We seldom discuss life and the future together, but more of an educational dialogue between him and me. So now I can't get family security from him at all. Everyone has a family and children, and it is difficult to take care of so many trivial things every day.

When parents died, relatives were far away. They are not old, so my relatives and elders are not too old. How did they get too close?

Parents are a thread that keeps children together. When the thread is broken, they can hardly tie a knot, but it is a crack. On holidays, just say hello in person. What's more, I'm afraid my friends will ask me where to go for the New Year. I'm afraid of Chinese New Year, I'm afraid of Chinese New Year.

Death was so cruel to me after my parents left.

This matter depends entirely on people, and every family is different! For example, my father's family, six brothers and sisters, my grandfather died early and left in 76. When grandpa died, his father was only 18 years old and his brother-in-law was only 9 years old. Several of my aunts, that is, my elder sisters, are married and have just had children. My second aunt just got engaged. Two sisters-in-law, also very young. With the big one and the small one, I helped my grandmother pull up the small one together.

My grandmother left in 2009. It's been 1 1 year now.

But my father's brothers and sisters didn't break up because my grandmother left. Instead, it is getting more and more United and harmonious.

On my dad's side, if anyone has something to do, all other families have to go out.

For example, my third aunt had a sudden cerebral infarction and was in bed with a stroke. Aunt San has only one son, and both her son and daughter-in-law are only children. The mother of the daughter-in-law was in poor health at that time. My brother's children were still young and needed to be taken care of.

Really, during that time, I can't imagine how much my brother and sister-in-law would collapse if my father's brothers and sisters hadn't helped me tide over the difficulties.

When the third aunt needs people most, she takes turns to spend it at her brother and sister's house. The other five families take care of their third aunt for a month.

Usually, my father's brothers and sisters get together, eat and chat together. During the Spring Festival, we get together to play cards. Lun Fan, one day.

My family lives near my aunt's house, in the front and back room. Standing in my backyard, you can call me aunt directly.

Since my mother died, my aunt and uncle have shouldered the responsibility of looking after my father who loves to drink.

My father loves drinking and has been drinking all his life. Before that, my mother took care of my father. However, after my mother left, when we were busy, Uncle menstruation would go to my house to see my dad and so on.

Many times, as soon as my second aunt hears that my dad is drunk, she will definitely go to my house to see my dad or something. Sometimes when my dad doesn't drink, he will advise him to drink less, and his health is important.

The night before yesterday, as soon as my second uncle heard that we might encounter freezing weather in Hunan this year, my sister said that we had not got the tickets and might drive back, so he quickly called my dad and told him not to drive back. If we can't get tickets, we won't go back for the New Year this year. We will spend the New Year here and go back after the New Year.

So, I think, my father's brothers and sisters here are not separated because of their parents' departure, but more intimate!

See such a title! I really don't want to write or say. Every family has its own problems, and good family relations are really enviable and happy! A bad family makes people pessimistic, disappointed and chilling.

In fact, when my parents were alive, our family had been divided, and each had its own abacus and ideas? I can't do anything, it hurts in my heart to see it in my eyes! Brothers and sisters are extremely selfish! There is nothing better than brothers and sisters! In the face of fighting for parents' property and intrigue, I am really disgusted and chilling.

They have long regarded us as a thorn in the side, and all this has a great relationship and responsibility with our parents! For life and dignity! When we were younger brothers, we had to travel far away from home, no matter how difficult it was. Don't even want to go back to that home! Think of yourself as a helpless orphan and face everything in life firmly! Even if you bite your teeth, you should swallow them into your stomach and fight hard for dignity!

Because of this, I am grateful that life has taught me a lot: to be honest and kind, to grow and survive in adversity! Even if you have nothing? At least our family of three is happy together! I always believed that there would be bread and milk. I would never do anything cheating! Therefore, the right path on earth is vicissitudes! The crooked ways are the end.

When my father was alive, I said to him: Dad! If you are still alive, the affection between our brothers and sisters will be gone. When you left, this family fell apart. Father said: It's long gone. One or two years after my stepmother died, I know my father's situation very well! This is his inevitable result. But I still can't let go of my father! Although he made many mistakes, I can't bear to see him helpless!

When I get home, I still miss my father! Brother and sister! How can you want an old man who can hardly take care of himself? I wrote a long letter to my father, hoping that he could come to my home for the aged. Because of my strong and competitive old father! I can only respect his own choice! Although I really want to make up for my mistakes, I really want to be filial! Because I will never be as capable as my brother and sister in his heart. Brothers and sisters will come to the event and will change their tricks to please dad! Is my father's right-hand man! It can keep out the wind and rain, and it will cheat my father of his money.

Finally, I got a call from my father and agreed to my request. I'm surprised, okay? My two younger brothers also want me to have a father. It seems that among the five of us, I am the best candidate! This is what my father told me later. Finally, I did my wife's ideological work seriously and went to my hometown to pick up my father with gratitude! My brothers are also very happy! Also respect and trust me! Fortunately, my father's arrival filled me with joy and comforted my conscience! Since then, I have been interested in my brothers and sisters! Avoid it, it's like a stranger! It's been ten years now, and there is little or no contact. I heard from my brother about them! A lot has happened! I don't have any feelings or relationships! Everyone's path is their own choice!

I still believe! There are many touching happy families in the world. There are many, many, even if parents are gone, the feelings between brothers and sisters are still so deep! Like a leafy tree! Closely connected, endless! This is a touching, enviable and lovely tree!

Let's talk about my personal experience. After my adoptive parents died, I broke up with my brother and sister decisively. My sister and I were adopted. The adoptive parents gave birth to their younger brother at the age of 37. When I was seven years old, I was beaten and didn't eat because I loved fighting and being naughty as a child. Come on, after all, in 2003, my foster mother was bedridden with cerebral thrombosis, and my brother served me for half a year. My sister moved to Guangzhou a few years ago, and my adoptive father repeatedly. However, my wife is really sad to see two old people. Finally, we went back to take care of them, and our brothers and sisters didn't ask again. My wife takes good care of her foster mother every day, wipes her body and feeds her, and stays in bed for more than six years. His adoptive father also suffered from cerebral thrombosis in 2006, but he can take care of himself, but he can't speak. The year after his adoptive mother died, I was transferred to other places because of work needs. I discussed with my adoptive father to let him live with his son, but I came to the city where I work now. Because I work in a substation and work in shifts, my lover leads my adoptive father for a walk every day. My adoptive father died unexpectedly, only two months before and after. What I want to say is that in the thirteen years we have taken care of the elderly, my sister has never come back and has few telephone calls. My adoptive parents died one after another, but she didn't come back. My brother in a city seldom comes back to visit the old man. In terms of living conditions, they are better than me.

This question is more complicated, and the following analysis answers are as follows:

1. Brothers and sisters can live in harmony before their parents leave:

1, for the sake of parents, I don't want to worry and get angry before my parents leave. I look very harmonious and United in front of my parents, like a family. This also has two results:

(1) Parents are gone, and there is no need to maintain a false relationship, so there is no contact, even unfamiliar friends;

(2) When my parents are gone, I suddenly wake up, forgive each other, bury the hatchet, and make up. The relationship is really like brothers and sisters.

The relationship between brothers and sisters has always been very good, but the parents are gone, and the relationship is better and there are more contacts with each other. In some cases, the arrangement of parents' affairs will involve property, inheritance and other interests, leading to bad relations in the future and even death.

Second, before the parents left, the relationship was not good and there was little or no contact. They are so prejudiced against each other that they can't even communicate. Individuals only do their duty to their parents, and even think that the other party should bear more.

1, parents are gone, and there is no excuse to meet again, let alone communicate with each other.

2. Strongly stimulated by the death of parents, the relationship improved slightly or even recovered after their parents left.

As the saying goes, it is difficult for an honest official to break housework, and every family has its own problems. After parents leave, brothers and sisters will come or not, and the above-mentioned situations all illustrate the various results of this problem. Life is short, do it and cherish it!