With only one child, will the evening scene be bleak?

I don't think it matters whether the scene at night will be bleak or not.

I have seen such a true story. In my hometown, there are two sons and a daughter. Because of partiality, the two sons are in conflict. The eldest son doesn't care about Lao Tzu, and neither does the younger son. When my daughter saw it, my brother, my brother, usually you old people buy a house, and those who have grandchildren bring grandchildren. My daughter didn't catch anything. Those who should contribute have never forgotten me. Why should I? Besides, I care too much about my family. What does my husband's family think of me?

Therefore, when the old woman died, the old man was left alone. Want to go to the eldest son's house, the eldest son said, don't you kiss the younger son? Want to go to the younger son's house, the younger son said, don't you buy a house for the eldest son? Finally, the two sides were pushed around, and the old man was left behind, living alone in an empty old house in the country.

One summer, he suddenly fell ill and died.

The old man's popularity is not very good, and with the busy farming, no one noticed his disappearance. No one knew that he had died until the door was covered with maggots and flies.

It was a bleak night. But he has three children.

So, in the final analysis, whether the evening scene is bleak or not depends on three things. The first thing is whether you have any savings in your later years, enough to pay for your medical expenses and living expenses under any circumstances. If it were in your own hands, no one would ask. The second thing is to get along well with neighbors. With social support, distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors! The third thing is that I have feelings with my children since I was a child, and I have deep emotional ties. Children really love their parents, miss their parents when they go out, and think about their parents in everything. This relationship cannot be broken. Old age will never be bleak.

How old a person is, how many children she has and how many children she has, there is no necessary connection at all. Although children look more like many hands make light work, they may face more problems in their later years.

There are many brothers and sisters, but everyone thinks that they should not be filial to their parents, so such parents are miserable even if their children and grandchildren are full in their later years. Even if there is only one child, but the family is happy, respect the old and love the young, and everyone is harmonious and happy, then such parents will still make their old age happy.

How to spend one's old age also has a lot to do with one's mentality. Some old people are old and always want to rely on their children to participate in all aspects of life, but they are unnecessarily angry because of many differences in concepts and living habits.

In fact, for the elderly, old age should be quiet and comfortable. As long as you can move freely, you must plan your old age and live a colorful life. The sunset red art troupe, which is active in the streets, is dancing yangko and singing Beijing opera. Which old man is not always smiling? Because life has sustenance, I live as wonderful as old age!

Children are not a tool for your old age. You still have to make your own decisions and start your own business. Children are good, we are happy, children are happy, and we are happier. But we can't focus all our energy on children. We are tired, and so are the children. We have a free sky for each other. We are optimistic, help each other and love each other. Nobody's old age will be miserable!

I have listed the following four scenarios for you: a. There is only one child, and the child is very filial; B. there is only one child, and the child turns a blind eye to his elderly parents. C. There are many children, and the children are very filial; D. there are many children, all of whom play ball, and no one cares about their parents.

In which scenes will the evening scene be bleak? Everyone should choose B and D. In fact, as long as their children are filial, no matter how many, the evening scenery is good and not bleak. Sadly, children are not filial and even avoided by a group of children like kicking a ball.

Give me an example that I know. There is an 80+ rural grandmother and a Si Er's daughter. Their children are all in the countryside, and they are all doing well. In rural areas, the concept of "raising children to prevent old age" has been passed down from generation to generation, but we may think that the elderly should be very happy to have so many sons. Actually, it's not. It's a miserable life. I live alone in a small hut, and my four sons are not filial. They don't give money on holidays, so they give 100 Jin of rice every year. Fortunately, the only daughter is still filial and will give some money, but it is not easy for her daughter to marry an ordinary family and can't give much money. If the old man is sick, he usually walks to the hospital by himself, regardless of his sons. And when the old man heard the doctor say that he would take an intravenous drip for a few days, he would say, can you take less intravenous drip for a few days? He doesn't have that much money with him.

From this example, we can find that no matter how many children there are, it is no use being unfilial, and the old age is miserable. If there are no children, it will be even worse, because no one will die in a hundred years. Therefore, it depends on whether the children are filial. If children are filial, one is enough, and many are better.

I am a meteorologist who looks at the society. Although I am in a small circle of meteorology, I have a heart that loves the social public circle. Society is a "hodgepodge". There are many things in the world, and people are warm and cold, and there are ghosts and strange things. Let's understand society, avoid the minefield of society and embrace the truth, goodness and beauty of society!

Happiness in old age may have little to do with children. In the past, many children of the older generation had five or six children. Are they really happy? When you are old, taking turns to take care of each child's home is to make the old people suffer. Children do not lie in having more children, but in having a heart that cares about their parents. Go out for a walk at dawn and often meet an old aunt in Shanxi. She often wears a smile on her face recently. Because her grandson is going to have a winter vacation soon, she finally returned to her hometown to reunite with her uncle. She told me that she lived in Hangzhou with her grandson for six years and went home once a year. I asked her why my uncle didn't come to live with me in Hangzhou. She said that my uncle and his eldest son's children have two granddaughters in their hometown. She sighed angrily. The old aunt is 68 years old this year. When she and her uncle can be together is really unknown, because his little daughter-in-law is going to have a second child again.

This is a special case, not positive energy. There is an old man in the village who is over 80 years old this year. He has a son here, and his career is bright. All his relatives, including distant relatives, regard him as their ancestor. Who is filial to the elderly, then children's work is not a problem. Since parents are not looking after their children's future. Most of the children of relatives of the elderly graduated from vocational schools ten years ago, and the first step was to start construction, but now many of them have turned positive, and some of them are department heads. He seldom goes home himself, and his wife seldom goes back to his hometown to see his grandfather once a year when his father-in-law ignores his grandson. Old people often scold their sons, daughters-in-law and grandchildren at home. Taking care of him is better than relatives, nieces, nieces and grandchildren. The old man is very kind, and he really gave his nephew some local products that others gave him on holidays. He said that after eating them, he would take care of his nephew and daughter-in-law who were ill in bed. Daughter-in-law must not count on it.

If you are miserable, raising ten sons is still miserable. If you can't suffer, then you won't suffer if you don't raise it.

Whether a person's old age is good or bad, the era of having several children will turn over a page completely. Relying on the prosperity and civilization of the whole society, the dignity and equality of human rights, and the protection and attention of institutional policies are the real guarantee for the happiness of the elderly!

In a local TV station, the daily people's livelihood news always says that parents are short-lived, and that the Zhang family's son is filial to the Li family's daughter. There is a program called "Invite the parties". If you pay attention, if you watch too much, basically parents will accuse their children of being unfilial.

In the early years, I was fine, my family was poor, and my brothers and sisters had a good relationship. But later, as the house became more and more valuable, the conflict between children caused by the transfer of parents' property became more and more serious. Even some children cut off contact with their parents because they feel that their parents are unfairly distributed.

What's the use of having more children in this situation? Children are not parents who support the elderly, but parents who are naughty. They make it impossible for their parents to live and close their eyes when they die. When I die, I have to worry that my mother's compatriots have become black-eyed chickens and look at each other as enemies.

People born in the sixties and seventies, because of the family planning policy, basically have only one child at home. It is precisely because there is only one child that this generation often thinks about their future in advance. Unlike their parents before, they have many children and pay more. When they get old, they expect children, but they may not expect them.

Therefore, the quality of the party scene has nothing to do with the number of children. It has something to do with each family's life concept, children's upbringing and whether they know how to be filial.

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My husband's only son, my father-in-law left her mother-in-law three years later, but her mother-in-law didn't care about anything, making our house foggy every day. Finally, there is no way. After a quarrel, her mother-in-law went back to her hometown by herself. To say that we are not filial? No, knowing that she doesn't have a wife, I have been afraid to speak loudly to her, for fear that people will think that I bully her and do everything, but people always push their luck. When she lived with us, she didn't help or subsidize. I can only take care of the baby full time. Husband is 3000 yuan a month, and one person is raising four people. The pressure is too great, and there is a child, which is bottomless.

Our neighbor, that is really a family that I envy.

He is also an only child. His in-laws get paid after retirement. My father-in-law takes the children out to play every day. My mother-in-law cooks, washes clothes and cleans the house. Both husband and wife work in a hospital. There are two cars with more than 200 thousand (my family doesn't have a car, so I can't afford it). I've never seen anyone quarrel. I am very happy every day and have a unique quality.

Four people raise a child, and one person raises four people, all of whom are only children.

In fact, it really doesn't matter how many children you have. A good family can cultivate an excellent child, who can surpass countless ordinary children.

The influence of more children and fewer children on the party scene is not absolute!

Thanks to Wukong's friends and meteorologists who view society for inviting them to answer questions. With only one child, will the evening scene be bleak?

Observing social phenomena, no matter when, you can't be one-sided and one-sided!

There are many complicated reasons for this problem, both objective and subjective, which cannot be decided at will. This person and that person, this time and another time, can't be separated.

Since there is no way to make it clear, let's say three things.

It's been almost ten years. That year, when his father died at an advanced age, he had already bought an urn and was waiting for his father's ashes to be released. Then he put the old man away and went to the cemetery for burial.

As a brother and a dutiful son, I can only sit in the mourning hall of the funeral home and wait. After sitting for a while, I heard a fight over there.

It turns out that there are four brothers in the family. My father didn't ask when he was alive. After his death, the four brothers were unwilling to pay for the urn. No choice but to wrap the ashes with a red cloth and dig a hole near home to bury them.

Relatives and friends hate their teeth itch. It is easy for an old man to raise four sons, and all four sons are reluctant to spend 200 yuan each. What is the use of raising a son?

Another family has only one daughter, studying abroad. Having settled abroad and had children, the old lady wanted to take care of her daughter.

The daughter said, you can't come! I send you living expenses every month, but I won't go back to China!

You said the old lady had some money. Isn't her old age miserable? What she misses every day is her daughter's home, and this condition cannot be met. Really! What is the point of living?

Another family, when the country was in the most difficult time, the old couple had no children, so they went to an urban orphan garden in the south of the Yangtze River and adopted a daughter.

The old couple put up with hardships, raised their daughter and trained her to go to college.

After graduating from college, this girl can completely stay in the south, with good conditions in all aspects.

However, in her mind, her parents in Su Beiren and northern Jiangsu brought her up. People can't live without conscience. Although her old couple are not my biological mothers, I must prepare for their retirement. I grew up drinking the water from Lianyungang, which is my hometown all my life!

A good son is not as good as a wife and a good daughter is not as good as a son-in-law! This is an old saying of Lianyungang people.

Now the ideological environment of society has changed, the country is developing and the society is progressing. I think there will be fewer and fewer problems in the bleak evening scene!

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I have a distant relative in my hometown in the countryside. Because I have always had a daughter, I have always insisted on giving birth. I never stopped after more than a dozen daughters died one after another. It can be said that I have persisted until I am bankrupt.

But is it really good to have so many children in their family? The opposite is true. Because of the heavy burden of children, his daughters are almost semi-illiterate. I didn't even do a good job in education, let alone anything else. When everyone else lived in a building or even drove a car, he was still poor and lived in several dilapidated tile houses.

Although it has not yet reached the "evening scene" stage, everyone can predict the future of their families.

In addition, let's talk about an opposite example. There is a family in the village who only has one daughter, and then you are injured and can't have any more children. They concentrate on raising their only daughter and have enough energy to start a business and make money, so their lives have always been more moist than others. It's just the occasional thought of not having a son that makes me uncomfortable.

Later, their daughter went to college and found a good job in the city. And they themselves are old, so they simply leave the countryside, live in the city with their daughters, and provide for the elderly like retired cadres. I really didn't see any desolation in them. The villagers mentioned their home, leaving only envy.

In fact, if we simply analyze it rationally and rely on "raising children to prevent old age", compared with the economic benefits, it is not worth the candle. We can't have children to prevent old age, and this concept should be changed.

Now there is also a data on the internet. It will cost millions to raise children well. If you only consider the utility and use this money for conservative investment, I am afraid it will be enough to bear your future pension.

Therefore, we have children for feelings, to pay, not to prevent old age. And many children are not necessarily blessed, and children are not necessarily bleak.

Why should I give birth to your children in my later years? Why can't you make your own decisions? Think you're a loser when you're old You have to rely on others to survive? I feel that my decision in my later years has nothing to do with others. I believe that as long as you pay more attention to educating your children and educate them well, there will be no such thing as unfilial. Don't parents have no reason to be unfilial to their children? It is wrong for a son not to be filial to his father. If you plant your own business, you must eat your own fruit.

Or when I am old, I don't expect anyone's old age. I am responsible for my old age. Of course, filial piety is for my children to be happier. If I don't expect my children from the beginning, there is no such thing as misfortune. Even people without children can live a good life.

Most people think it is easy to take care of their children when they are old. First of all, your paralyzed life in a hospital bed is the biggest misfortune in your life and the biggest burden for your children. Secondly, if there is a wife, it is usually served by her. If you only take care of the children, it is usually the unfortunate state that the children are uncomfortable and the old people are uncomfortable. Finally, you can hire a nurse to take care of it. The most important thing is to rely on yourself, and the greatest misfortune is to give your life to others.

A person's life is short and meaningless. You can live in the present, pay more attention to your health, and don't give your children too much burden. Raising children is just an experience of life, not an investment, and I don't want to return it. You should have a good time in the last period of your life, and it is the best result to leave peacefully when it is time to leave.