What is the most taboo when boyfriend and girlfriend communicate?

Everyone is different, and everyone's minefield is different. Still need to feel slowly in life and find the position that suits each other best, instead of following other people's advice. Therefore, one of the taboos in male-female communication is conformity. I don't know if you have found out in your life that from the childhood of other people's children, to the hype of other people's boyfriends and girlfriends, all kinds of marketing accounts, we never seem to get rid of this strange circle and always exist under others' xx. There are many things that need to be taboo between men and women. Here I just want to talk about the relevant principles that married men and women need to abide by in their marriage life, for reference only. For men and women who associate outside marriage, there is no doubt that the biggest taboo is to avoid cheating and extramarital affairs, because cheating is the biggest and worst betrayal of marriage, which means the breakdown of marriage and family.

Since Valentine's Day, other people's male and female friends are all 13 14520, yours is only 5.2, and then an online public opinion began. Most people will say stingy, although I also feel a little stingy, of course, this is also from my personal point of view. Be tolerant and understand each other, and don't play around with family trifles. Tolerance and understanding are easier said than done for ordinary men and women. To be tolerant, we need to be tolerant, we need a peaceful mind and we need a broad mind. Tolerance and understanding are mutual and need to be kept in mind. Many times, the contradiction between husband and wife comes from family chores, not big principles. In the face of right and wrong, people become extremely calm. For this reason, married men and women should understand that when they get along together, they should talk about the facts, don't make much ado about nothing, don't beat around the bush about family trifles, and learn not to haggle over too many trifles in life, solve problems in time, and don't turn over the past for a long time, which will easily turn small problems into big problems, intensify contradictions, create barriers and influence each other.

However, the seriousness of the matter is far from the point of going online because of this matter. A relationship will break up because of a red envelope, which is really fragile. Of course, this is closely related to the current public opinion. Without business guidance, who knows that there is Valentine's Day, not to mention that every month 14 is Valentine's Day. Unless someone deliberately digs it, no one will know this cold knowledge. In order to increase sales in some specific festivals, comparison has already happened. Compromise with each other and don't cling to each other's mistakes. It is inevitable that two people quarrel after marriage, resulting in contradictions. But the problem is that too many young couples don't know how to compromise and give in because of contradictions, which leads to the escalation of contradictions and the breakdown of feelings. If two people are each other's fault in life and don't let go, it will only cast a shadow over this marriage, just like the smog weather is suffocating and annoying now. Love is mutual satisfaction. When there is a contradiction, you should take a step back, not press hard. Only in this way can the love life after marriage be smooth and not full of obstacles.

I remember the most classic case, related to festivals. When we first met, the quality that girls appreciated most about boys was diligence and thrift, but in the end, when there were contradictions, girls actually said that they were reluctant to buy me the most popular blue enchantress, which was not romantic at all and did not understand the mood. I just feel a little hit in the face. I don't know if the parties have found it. There are also many things that follow the trend. I won't say a few typical examples in many explosive articles. As we all know, I am afraid of offending people. Anyway, such headlines as "You should treat your girlfriend like this if you are a man" and "Every working girl was an angel with broken wings in her last life, so you should cherish it", which is probably what I mean anyway.

On the other hand, many colleagues prefer to teach you skills and methods, such as how to control your husband and pick up girls, and how to let people who like you take the initiative to find you. I just want to say that if you think these are your true colors, then you will be promoted after you learn them. The point is not that everyone is like this. Obviously, a woman should be like a lovely girl, a white-faced scholar and pretend to be a tough guy. Really, it is not appropriate. It is a word "degree". This is the most difficult to grasp! It is not good not to talk, and it is not good to talk too much; It is difficult to grasp what should be said, some should be elaborated and some should be done; When the other person is very excited, you are all ears, and when it comes to emotion, you are impressed; Clap when warm, and be quiet when tired; Encourage when discouraged, comfort and hug when wronged; When you are upset, sometimes silence is better than sound, and some don't talk. An expression, a body movement, is worth a thousand words. Therefore, it is necessary to "observe the face and observe the color", which is the common sense or basic skill of communication between people, especially between men and women, and also the expression of emotional intelligence; A word can make people laugh, a word can make people cry; A word can make people angry, a word can do things, and a word can ruin things; For example, someone saw a neighbor's son with a female companion and said to his father, "Look at you, boy, you have a good eye! Find such a good girl, whatever. " The families of the old couple and the young couple are very happy to hear this. This is the ability to praise others. Some words can be said, and some words can't be said if they are rotten in the stomach ...! Not only do you have to hold it well, but you also have to straighten your posture. There are respect and inferiority, big and small, old and young. Don't be disrespectful to the elderly, and don't run amok just because you are young.

The most taboo is "I don't understand you"! As the saying goes, "Listen to what you say and watch what you do" is beautiful, but you can't do anything. In the final analysis, we should learn to be a man and be sincere and frank when we get along. It is necessary to "integrate knowledge and practice." Like plastic surgery, it was a good thing, but everyone was made in the same mold. Similarly, learning skills is a good thing, and the result is the same. This thing still needs to be tailored. Of course, too many people take what they are getting for granted. In fact, if you don't take everything that happens in intimate relationships for granted, you will really feel much happier. Without effective communication, everyone will talk, spending most of their time chatting, killing time and chatting at home. Effective communication must be based on the accuracy of information transmission, and the other party is also responding while listening attentively. From the standpoint of themselves and each other, both sides put forward their own ideas and opinions on one thing, discuss solutions in a harmonious atmosphere, and make future plans. This is called effective communication. (You can take notes) ps: When there is conflict, it is better to avoid communication. Everyone will lose control of their emotions. At this time, as a relatively rational party, and you still want to live your own life, please help your other half to clear up your emotions first. All communication should be carried out when he is emotionally stable. This must be carefully remembered!

Losing yourself, no matter how much you love each other, no matter whether you give your 100% to each other, I think it is understandable. However, please keep 1% for yourself before handing over 100%. As the saying goes, staying in the green hills is not afraid of burning without firewood. When you have lost yourself, what can you talk about falling in love? Needless to say, it is difficult for a person who doesn't love himself to love others. No matter men or women, what they like most is the love and favor of others, but there are also many people who are arrogant. So, don't be too nice to each other, lest you end up feeling sad. Pretending that this phenomenon is a good face. When a person doesn't understand or is not good at something, but wants to show it, it always makes people feel embarrassed. For example, if a boy pretends to be romantic when he obviously doesn't understand romance, the girl may be moved, but she will really laugh and cry.

When we admit that we are not good at and don't understand, it is also a manifestation of responsibility. Just as a promise is not easy to make, when you make a promise but don't keep it, you become a man of your word. For strangers, for partners, for work, we will try our best to do it, so for partners, we should do it more. Don't pretend before you confirm the relationship, because when the other party can't see the real you, it will often bring your disguised appearance into the later life. Unless you pretend all your life, there will be many contradictions caused by pretending. For example, "You have changed, you are not the same as before", which is not only the fading of novelty, but also the contrast between the real present and the false present. This is all about the overall situation, of course, as I said at the beginning. Everyone is an independent individual with different preferences and minefields. Some strange things in the eyes of ordinary people happen to be your hobbies. Therefore, it is the most important thing to find a model that suits you, and too many people ignore this.