How to deal with the husband's eccentric "mother-in-law" wife

my husband and I have just been married for two years, and we have always been very loving after marriage. When he was still in primary school, his father died of illness, and his mother worried that she would be wronged by another family and insisted on bringing him up alone. After he graduated from college, he stayed at the university. After marrying me, with the stability of life, considering that my mother is getting older and it is inconvenient to live alone, after consulting with me, he took her to live with us. Because both of them are busy with their work, I am still very happy about the arrival of my mother-in-law. When they got home after working overtime, they didn't have to make do with dinner. The housework mother-in-law at home is basically all contracted. There is one more person in the family, which adds a little excitement, and with the increase of time together, some small frictions occasionally occur. His mother is a southerner and likes to be a vegetarian, so her diet is light. As a northerner, my taste is biased, and I can hardly see oil star dishes on the daily table. I privately complain to him that I am not used to such a diet arrangement, and my mother-in-law can't impose her eating habits on others. At first, after listening to my complaints, he would kindly comfort me and persuade me that eating green vegetables is good and healthy. After a long time, after hearing my complaints again, he seemed to lose patience. He asked me with some dissatisfaction: "Mom is an elder. Can't you bear it as a younger generation?" Not long ago, his sister was a guest at home, and her mother-in-law was busy laying out a table of rich dishes, which were well-prepared. While eating, my mother-in-law kept picking up dishes for her daughter and called her daughter to taste this and that, but she ignored me. After his sister left, I couldn't help nagging him about my dissatisfaction. Who knows, the grievances in my heart not only didn't get his understanding, but made him lose his temper, thinking that I was too mean to my family and so picky about the details of my life, but actually I disliked his mother. After listening to this, I was very sad and began to be more and more dissatisfied with him. And he hates my nagging more and more, and he is no longer willing to communicate with me more, because every communication means quarreling. This kind of life makes me feel depressed, and all my anger is passed on to my mother-in-law. Old preface comments: sons play the role of "intermediary" in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law As the intermediary point of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the son knows the personality characteristics of both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so he plays a very important role in dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In addition to his basic duties of honoring the elderly and caring for his wife, he should also play a good role as a lubricant. If there are differences between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he should be fair and objective, be a peacemaker on the premise of principle, and don't just take sides with one side and ignore the feelings of the other. If you only listen to one side of the story, believe one side of the story, take sides with one side and blame the other, it will undoubtedly add fuel to the fire and aggravate the contradiction. Only a bowl of water is flat for a son, which will neither disappoint his mother nor let his wife have nowhere to complain, so as to alleviate the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. He is a little simple and blunt in dealing with the problem that you and your mother-in-law have different eating habits. In fact, this is not a difficult problem. Just cook one more dish and take care of each other's tastes. If he loves you dearly, he can tell his mother that he wants to eat some meat dishes, and my mother will surely be happy to cook one more. This not only reflects the love for his wife, but also prevents his mother from being oversensitive. Men should be wise and responsible when coordinating the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and should not be confused, cowardly and evasive. In fact, you should also reflect on whether your approach is wise. Instead of repeatedly nagging your husband, it is better to change a strategy. Talk more about her mother-in-law's good and her mother-in-law's bad in front of her husband, and buy her more things she likes and chat with her mother-in-law. Both husband and mother-in-law will definitely see it in their eyes and keep it in mind. After all, getting along between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law sometimes requires some "strategies".