Maybe I can't help you, but if you trust me, I am willing to be your tree hole forever

A few days ago, a friend who I have known since I was three years old sent me a WeChat message. The end of the paragraph was, you don’t need to comfort me, I just want to find someone to talk to, otherwise I will go crazy!

This morning, a good friend who we met not too long ago but became old friends at first sight told me some things that made her unhappy. Finally, she apologized and said that she gave me negative energy early in the morning. Silly girl, I should thank you for your trust!

We always become the target of others' confiding at some point. Then the "Virgin Mother" suddenly became possessed and wanted to save them from the fire and water, but can we? I suddenly found that I couldn't!

Everyone’s environment, the people they face, the background they grew up in, etc. are all different; the setbacks they encounter, the difficulties they experience, the problems they worry about, etc. are also all different. It has nothing to do with you, so why should you save him? Based on your experience, your perception of life, or the sentences you read in Chicken Soup for the Soul?

I remember when I was a child, I once said to Little Bear, I hate daddy! But Little Bear was surprised and said, "Dad is so great, how can you say such a thing?" ! Because our fathers are not the same person, she does not understand my situation and cannot understand my feelings, so the advice she gave has no other meaning except to make me reflect on what I should not say. At that moment, what I would rather hear is that I understand, and then also talk about some of my father's shortcomings. This is love! However, it is true that people who have not had the same experience cannot be romantic with you, so at this time, just be a tree hole silently, because many times, we just want to find a place to vent our emotions.

The team leader asked me why I can chat with people I have never met? He couldn't understand how we could build trust in situations where we were strangers to each other. In fact, it is the virtual sense of strangers that makes it easiest to build trust. From the initial pen pal to QQ, and now WeChat, Tianya Forum, Douban and other virtual social platforms, everyone is communicating with a mask. They seem to be very wary, but in fact they are honest with each other every minute. There is no need to go. Consider who the other party is and whether it will harm your own interests. As long as you have the same experience or are willing to listen, it is enough. What we need is listening first, then affection, and finally what good suggestions do you have? Help me.

Someone around me has experienced domestic violence. When I first heard about it, I almost burst into tears! This is absolutely not allowed in my marriage! I believe many people are like me, so I sent the relevant legal documents to the other party with righteous indignation, and used many tactics to accuse the scumbag. But in the end, they chose to forgive and endure, even though they knew that the next harm might happen tomorrow. From the beginning, I hated the fact that iron cannot become steel. My good intentions were in vain. I really wanted to shake her awake like Ma Jingtao! But thinking about it afterwards, I don’t know her life background or her current environment at all. Who am I to ask her to do what I say? Why do we always force others to accept our ideas and suggestions in the name of helping? !

Many times we are powerless, just like the cat goddess said, "All the sorrows in this world will not change because of who said or did it. The only one who can save it is yourself."

Just like Bodhisattva or God, they just listen to your prayers silently and then teach you silently.

So, I’m sorry, I can’t help you

But if you trust me

I am willing to be your tree hole forever

Just right I have experienced it too

I will be willing to have sex with you

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