Hot search on "single father parenting blogger": I hope someone loves me, but I don't want all of him to be me.

I saw a hot search in Weibo: single father parenting blogger.

At first, I thought it was a parenting blogger who shared his experience of bringing a baby, but I didn't expect it to be so heavy after clicking in. I am also a mother of two children. After reading the story behind "single father parenting blogger", I fell into deep thought and mixed feelings.

Guangzhou has a single father. After the birth of the child, he resigned as an executive, specializing in farming and garbage collection to accompany the baby full-time. 17 years, he cooked for his baby every day, advocating "I am his son and he is my father". Everything is centered on his son. His son is smart, sunny and handsome, and he is really excellent. He is a child of other people's family and a serious schoolmaster.

This father has become a celebrity in Guangzhou's mom circle, and many people will chase his parenting number. A big man can be so conscientious to his children, can he not circle powder? During the period of 10, his story was published in various radio stations and newspapers in Guangzhou. The last update of his Weibo was last year's165438+1October 20th, and it was about his son. His son is very competitive and has just been admitted to Emory University in the United States. His father also built a "museum" for his son, whose first pair of shoes and toys were displayed in every detail.

However, on March 9, his son, who has been an excellent role model, committed suicide in an American school.

/kloc-in 0/7, he raised his children wholeheartedly and sent them to an Ivy League school. He took more than 200,000 photos of children's growth process and used five cameras.

What do netizens think of "single father parenting blogger"?

The most common word is: suffocation.

"This kind of love will only make me feel suffocated. 17 took more than 200,000 photos and still used the camera. I can't imagine. He may love his children very much, but this heavy fatherly love will put a lot of pressure on them. It was as convenient to take pictures as it is now. Moreover, even smartphones can't take so many photos now. "

Many parents like to record their children's details, but if there is only one child in your life, your love may cause some pressure on him.

A netizen's comment was thought-provoking: "It's so heavy. I want someone to love me, but I don't want everyone to be me."

As a child, I certainly hope my parents love me, but if they become the whole of their lives, the love they give you seems to be a kind of pressure for you.

What is really outstanding? Have you achieved more than others? In fact, the real Excellence is that children are mentally healthy and have good stress resistance. What kind of life he wants to choose is up to him to choose and respect him. You have your life, he has his life, not all your lives are his.

I am the mother of two children myself. My son is only three and a half years old and my daughter is only two months old.

I don't have to worry about my daughter, but I'm worried about my son's education recently.

The reason for my anxiety is "the comparison of girlfriends' parenting". How can I put it? I have a friend whose son is now in a large kindergarten class. Because he is going to primary school soon, she enrolled him in many interest classes. Classes are full every day. I play more in kindergarten during the day. When I get home, I still have to learn Pinyin, Math, English, Chinese, thinking, punching cards, practicing hard-pen calligraphy, Go, street dance classes and hosting classes. In addition, I have English classes every night, and I have one-on-one classes with foreign teachers. I practice skipping rope for half an hour before going to bed every day.

When our sisters talk about children in the group, you will inevitably feel anxious when you see that people are so pressed for time.

I asked her, "won't a child like you get tired?" Did he protest? " She said:

"My father and I are working together at present. Anyway, after school every day, Dabao will arrange study. If I study with me, his father will take Bauer to play. He is used to it. He always plays at school. When he gets home, he must study hard. He has enough time to play. You have no idea how fierce the competition between children is now. You can't do it unless you force it. Don't worry now, you won't feel inferior in primary school. Your child may not feel anything when he is young. My parents on this island are very concerned about their children. "

After hearing her experience, I began to feel anxious. My child is only three and a half years old, but I don't think he knows anything. He knows how to play all day, and his language ability and logic are good, and his personality is good, but he knows nothing about learning.

I complained to his father: "Do you know how powerful xx children are? This picture is very good, and I speak English very well. You see, our children know how to play. What if you don't study hard in the future? "

My husband is a very Buddhist about children's education.

I hope he will take his children to English class and read picture books, but he likes to play with them, bring flowers and throw planes. Shortly after I gave birth to Bauer, I still had more than 20 kilograms of fat. During this time, I also gave the child to him. I mainly go to the gym to exercise in my spare time.

In fact, what Mr. Wang said is quite reasonable: you can't worry about children's education, and a healthy personality is more important than anything else.

Let nature take its course. Maybe you should accompany your children with a peaceful attitude.

I think of our parents' education. I was born in the countryside, and my parents have always had four children. I am the youngest. When I was a child, my family was poor and there were many children, and several children had problems with school fees.

Although our family is poor, my parents try their best to give us enough care. My brother is spoiled and naughty. Later, I went to the army without continuing my studies and stayed in the army for 12 years. We three girls study hard because we don't want to stay in the countryside to farm.

But we are not the kind with top grades, we can only say that we are above average, willing to study, and don't have to be forced by our parents.

My mother always said, "Learning is your own business. Anyway, if I didn't go to college, I would farm in the future, and then I should get married. "

This sentence frightened us, so we all worked hard. Later they all came out of the countryside one by one. They didn't go to a particularly good university, but they all went to undergraduate courses and chose their favorite cities to settle down. I liked reading all kinds of books since I was a child, and later I engaged in my favorite occupation, writing.

What kind of university to go to, what kind of career to engage in in in the future, and which city to work hard in, these life events are more decisions made by our parents themselves. Maybe it's because it's more your choice, and you can't blame others. You can cry when you are in trouble, but you will move on.

My mother won't put too much pressure on us. She respects our choice very much. After getting married and having children, I often tell her what I think. When I talk to her about sad things, I always get some encouragement, so there is nothing to be afraid of.

I thought my mother wanted me to be a very capable person, but she said that as long as you feel happy, it doesn't matter how much money you have or whether you are famous or not. The key is that you are happy, and your mother and I will be happy.

So I have been thinking about a question for a long time: how should we educate our children?

After I had a daughter, I gave her a lot of high expectations, hoping that she could study dance, painting and piano instead of me, because I never had the opportunity to learn these things when I was a child. I am anxious when I compare with my parents, but is it really good for my children?

What should I give them? Love and companionship, as well as trust, and their resistance to life setbacks. Maybe these should be more important than how much you have learned.

This is also my own idea. We have our own lives and give our children the companionship they deserve, but our lives are not all children. We should set an example for our children and lead by example, hoping that they can grow up well. Both parents and children need their own space and life. Believe in Buddhism, don't push it too hard, and no one should live for anyone. Everyone is an independent individual.

There is still a long way to go to become a parent. These are some of my thoughts and feelings. Welcome to talk more about your thoughts.

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