Why do so many prodigies grow up to be inconspicuous? What is the most important thing about parenting?

When children are young, we always want them to study hard and get good grades. Some children with poor grades will worry about their future, thinking that if they don't study hard when they are young, they will have no future when they grow up. However, sometimes we find that when we were young, the top students in our class, the children from other families in our parents' mouths, and the red people in our teachers' eyes don't seem to be particularly remarkable when we grow up.

Why do excellent children grow up to be inconspicuous? The reasons cannot escape these three points.

Anti-strike ability is not strong

Although I was not excellent when I was a child, I had an excellent classmate. Our primary school junior high school classmate for nine years, she has never been in the top three, and she is a top three student every year. When she was in junior high school, she was often the first in grade. The teacher is very optimistic about her and has great expectations for her. When she graduated from junior high school, she lived up to expectations and was successfully admitted to our local No.1 Middle School with a score close to full marks, which became a myth of our year. She later told me that she had chosen liberal arts in high school, but her parents thought science was more promising and had to let her study science.

At the beginning of the second year of high school, she suddenly felt that learning was very difficult and often had a headache for physical chemistry. Seeing that the classmates in the class are gradually surpassing themselves, she has great psychological pressure. Sometimes, she can't learn at all. However, her parents didn't find her psychological changes, and they repeatedly said that they didn't work hard, which made her more and more annoyed. As a result, she failed in the college entrance examination and went to an ordinary university. I have to admit that children who have studied well since childhood are generally not strong in psychological quality and are easily crushed by setbacks.

The brain development of men and women is not synchronous.

In primary school and junior high school, we can often find that most of the top students in the class are girls, but in high school, this situation will change a lot. Because the development of boys and girls is not synchronous, girls are precocious than boys, and their brains are different. Girls have a strong memory, and they will be stronger than boys in primary school and junior high school, which requires a lot of memory, but boys have stronger logical thinking ability and sense of space than girls, so they are easier to understand relatively abstract subjects such as physics and chemistry.

Those girls who study better in primary school and junior high school will find it more difficult to learn science content in high school than boys, so when they get to high school, they will find an interesting phenomenon. Girls choose liberal arts more, while boys choose science more. However, after the college entrance examination, there will be reforms, and arts and sciences may no longer be divided, so learning should develop in a balanced way.

When I was a child, I was good-looking.

Take my former excellent classmates as an example. Although I went to an ordinary university, I was admitted to a graduate school in a good university. Now she works in a company with good conditions and good benefits. In fact, compared with other students, this is not bad. Most children who study well when they are young will not be much worse when they grow up. The so-called ordinary in everyone's mouth is only because they were too excellent before, and people's expectations for them are too high, which will produce such a sense of gap.

Parents should have a peaceful heart for their children's academic performance when they were young. After all, if they are not excellent at a certain stage, their lives will continue to be excellent, and they should dare to accept the ordinary children.