Since you are so good, why do you need to belittle others to set off yourself?

Everyone knows the old saying, "Sitting still thinking about yourself and gossiping about others." Many people often take it out to warn themselves, but some people always do the opposite and can't control themselves.

In fact, it is normal to occasionally "gossip" and point out the right and wrong of others. Everyone talks about others sometimes, and human nature is understandable. However, if this "occasional" becomes "always", a person who can make irresponsible remarks about all his friends around him will really make people stay away from him.

The little white girl complained bitterly that there was such a "goddess of right and wrong" around her, and she was "slapped" more than once.

"The Queen of Right and Wrong" was originally surnamed Lin, and she was a colleague. Lin's colleagues are good-looking, and it is said that family conditions are also good. The first acquaintance gives people a warm and generous feeling, but after contact, something is wrong. This colleague Lin doesn't know whether it is self-sustaining or something. From her mouth, I can always hear the shortcomings of everyone around me. The "shortcomings" of others mentioned in her mouth are still some appearances comparable to her. Over time, this contemporary Lin got the name "Right and Wrong Girl".

Yesterday at noon, when Xiao Bai was asked about her new boyfriend while chatting with her colleagues, she accidentally said that her boyfriend had started a small company, but somehow she was remembered by Lin Tong. She went out to get a glass of water, and when she came back, she heard Lin's colleague laughing at other colleagues: "Just like her silly appearance, she looks like that and wears goods all day." Can she find a boyfriend who runs a company? " The stall owner is similar. "

Xiaobai got angry at once and wanted to quarrel with her. Considering that they are all colleagues, she put up with it and went back to her seat, moping, while Lin Tongshi smiled and talked to her casually.

Of course, Xiao Bai's experience is not a case. For example, a colleague is getting married. Colleagues will look at the wedding photos copied on the bride's mobile phone when they are resting. The bride herself is beautiful and slim, and the photos are more beautiful after processing. Everyone praised it again and again. Only Miss Lin has a unique opinion: "This photo looks better than me, not like you at all. Similarly, the photo and I are more and more like monkeys." For an instant, everyone was silent and quiet.

For another example, after a colleague took his family to dinner, colleague Lin said in front of his male colleague A, "How can you find such an ugly girlfriend?" A little eye? " Actually, is A's girlfriend that ugly? Nobody thinks so. Lin Tongshi said to everyone behind the back of his male colleague B: "Oh, B praises his wife like a flower all day. I thought how good she was. Isn't that what I see? ... "

For a long time, he and his colleagues began to be cautious in front of Lin's colleagues, fearing that any words and deeds of them would be laughed at by her for no reason. However, colleague Lin still thinks that her noble temperament overwhelms everyone. I don't know that everyone only "stays away from her" and doesn't "stay away from her".

In fact, the phenomenon of "Lin colleagues" is not uncommon in our lives. They are not difficult to get along with, but they just like to find someone to walk around and talk and laugh. The day before yesterday, I said that my poor friend was rustic and poor. Yesterday, I went to chat with my poor friend. Yesterday I talked about the extravagance and waste of rich friends, and today I go shopping with rich friends.

These "Lin colleagues" also have a common feature that they all have some advantages, but they are not very good, but they want to perform well in front of everyone. It's just that they're looking in the wrong direction. Instead of improving themselves step by step and making themselves better and better, they attract everyone's attention by belittling others, misleading them with words, instilling in everyone the awareness of their shortcomings and setting off their sense of superiority with their shortcomings.

However, to be truly outstanding, you don't need to belittle others to set off yourself. The reason why you need to use others' foil to make yourself feel superior is because you are not confident.

An excellent person will not only criticize others deliberately, but also think that he is better than others in all aspects, and will not agree with their efforts and hardships.

Like I said, I have been doing something very hard recently, and I have made a lot of efforts for it. You said that you were much more difficult than me at that time. How did you get to this point? In short, you have repeatedly stressed that my so-called efforts and efforts are nothing compared with you. Well, I smiled, noncommittally, and you didn't go my way. How do you know that my efforts are not as good as yours? In fact, if you show empathy, I firmly believe that you must pay more than me.

Everyone has his own shortcomings that he knows or doesn't know. What we need is that others sincerely correct their own shortcomings, not maliciously belittle and ridicule.

Imagine, who would like others to climb by themselves? "Right and wrong queen", how can we get sincere treatment from others? How can a person who is isolated by everyone be recognized as "excellent"?