Is there a mother-in-law who really loves her daughter-in-law

My mother is a typical example.

Take your first girlfriend to a restaurant for dinner on your 20th birthday.

When I went back, my mother said all kinds of bad things about her (nothing more than her figure, appearance and family conditions)

I recently fell in love and took my girlfriend to see it. Instead, I started talking about other girls, and even felt that the first love was not bad.

Therefore, for the mother, the daughter-in-law will always be the uninvited guest of this family of three. They think this woman wants to take her son.

In their eyes, the son is an accessory that has been raised for many years. How could he be taken away by outsiders? This will bring hostility to his daughter-in-law at first, and then there will be contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. This is also related to the fact that the wife has not felt the love and care from her husband for many years, but has passed on all the hopes and responsibilities for the future and old age to her son. This is why there are so many so-called marriages of the previous generation in society, most of which are unfortunate, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is precisely the most difficult family problem to solve in the past 30 years. Everything is complementary. In a loving family, I feel that even if the daughter-in-law and mother-in-law can't stay with them in the future, they can at least respect each other.

So, as for me, I always think that women (mothers) who hold this idea in China are very sad. They can't appreciate a person soundly and love a person equally. The affection between family members (husband and son) is more about taking, taking and being satisfied, but it can't reach the basic equality between people. Sometimes, after my mother tells me what these conditions are and which is better, I feel I can't choose.

Of course, this is a common problem of the whole family in China. What I can do is to avoid repeating this marriage myself.